Are boutonnieres and corsages necessary?

posted 3 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Baroness_Meg:  Do the people who would be wearing them care?  I just assumed that my mom didn’t want a corsage, and I was very, very wrong.

Post # 4
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10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Of course they aren’t necessary! Nothing except the legal paperwork is mandatory.

We didn’t have them, nobody missed them.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I think it just depends on your families. We did DIY flowers out of my dad’s huge garden, but I had a florist make my husband’s bout and my floral crown (too complicated). I asked our parents if they cared if we didn’t have corsages and bouts and they were like “Pssh, whatever.” We didn’t have any grandparents who might have been more traditional. 

If you’re anything like me, you will NOT have the time or mental focus to make a bunch of those on the day before or day of your wedding!

Post # 6
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

Neither are necessary, but of the two I think boutonnieres are more helpful to have.  I like that they identify the groomsmen and tie them in with the rest of the wedding party.  We’re skipping corsages entirely and I doubt anybody will even notice.

Post # 7
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We DIY’d our boutonnieres and corsages, and they came together really easily.

I think they really tied the whole wedding party together, and I really am glad we did them.

Just google how to do them- they aren’t hard at all!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We didn’t have them, and I don’t think anyone cared, lol. It wasn’t something that we really cared about having, so as long as you & your FI don’t care, who cares? 🙂

Post # 10
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I found them to be SUPER IMPORTANT to the older relatives.  Mom had to have one, Godmother acted like she would die without one, so we did them.  

Post # 11
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I did my own bridal and bridesmaids’ bouquets but bought the corsages because my mom really wanted one. Then, my husband decided he wanted a boutonniere so I ordered those as well. I only had three corsages and about six boutonnieres to buy though so it wasn’t too expensive (I think around $80 total).

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Are they necessary?  Of course, not!  However, I looked at them as a way to recognize and appreciate our loved ones.  Disclaimer: I had a talented friend (who has a wholesale floral membership) do all my flowers as her gift to me.  So, for me they weren’t too expensive and I wasn’t the one doing the work! 🙂

Post # 13
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1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

Definitely not necessary!
But, if it’s just the difficulty in making them that makes you want to scrap them, you could do some boutonnieres that are NOT made from flowers. Just Google “non floral boutonniere” 🙂

Post # 14
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Baroness_Meg:  I really think this is a matter of personal opinion.  My sister did a bout for the GM, my dad and ring bearer (my son)- and no one else in either family had anything (except for BMs)- if anyone was offended, they surely didn’t voice it.

For my wedding, I choose to do it- so I am letting the grandparents, parents, and all those people CHOOSE if they want to have one (some people seriously don’t care- and some actually would prefer not to have anything)- 

and for my BMs, instead of a bouquet, I am doing corsages!!  Which is totally different!!

 

It’s up to you!

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