Are "bridesmaids" supposed to be single?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9092 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think there may be some antiquated tradition that bridesmaids were supposed to be “maids”, but it’s so long forgotten that nobody will bat an eye if you had married ones.

Post # 4
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think it’s a traditional custom. Most wedding rules/customs come from tradition, though, so I wouldn’t let it stop you. Like the veil apparently has religious connotations… the bride’s parents are supposed to pay because it’s the dowry, yadda yadda. If you didn’t want anything rooted in tradition, then you might as well not have a wedding ceremony. So I think that it really doesn’t matter if they’re married or not in today’s day and age.

Post # 5
6928 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Nope. Like PPs have said, there is probably some sort of tradition thing, but it is most definitely NOT something to be followed today. I was just in a wedding last weekend. Pretty glad I wasn’t called a “Bridesmatron,” haha.


Post # 6
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Absolutely no one will care if one of your bridesmaids isn’t single. No one. Now go rock on with your besties!

Post # 7
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Nope, you can have whoever you want up there!

Post # 9
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You can even, gasp, have men on your side and women on his! Really, that “rule” is not followed anymore.

Post # 10
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@FoodieBride14:  Although possibly some of the most traditional and least progressive people in the world may still think bridesmaids must be unmarried, the vast majority of people truly won’t care.  Select whomever you like as your bridesmaids!  Two of my three bridesmaids are married, and I can’t imagine not having them by my side at my wedding.

Post # 11
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

seriously? I’ve NEVER been to a wedding (or even heard of one) where the bride (or anyone else) cared that one or more of her bridesmaids were married… 

Post # 12
2534 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it matters. 3 out of 4 of the girls in my bridal party are married!

Post # 13
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All of my bridesmaids except one were married, and out of the three married, one had a child and one was pregnant. Oh, the scandal! Have fun.

Post # 14
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Unfortunately, I will be following that rule… so that my mother would not have a freak out of me not respecting my own cultural traditions. (5000 years of history, yada yada, it has been.. yada yada) So, yes.. my MOH is unmarried. It works out coincidentally though as I can’t imagine having anyone but my MOH to be my bridesmaid.

My parents’ wedding was like that — where the bridesmaid and best man were both unmarried.

Post # 15
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ahhhhh no. One of mine was married and another engaged. 

Post # 16
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I never heard of that before. None of my girls were single. 

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