(Closed) Are child pageants bad for kids?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: [1]How do you feel about kiddie pageants and [2] would you let you daughter be a part of it?
    Love them and would let me daughter be in it : (4 votes)
    4 %
    Hate them, and would not let my daughter be in it : (87 votes)
    84 %
    Dont really mind either way : (13 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’d rather my child be in gymnastics, theatre, music, sports, whatever. Something where he/she is appreiciated for his/her talents, not just so wrapped up in how they look.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If we’re talking like a home town/state fair type of pageant then I wouldn’t mind if my hypothetical daughter wanted to compete but this glitz and glam shit? No f’ing way!

    Those pageant moms (and some dads) are flippin’ crazy!

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I voted hate them but I have to think it depends.  My little cousin has been in a few from elementary school to middle school.  I think her mom only entered her in the ones that gave college scholarships which she won.  And now she is a beautiful, confident 15 year old who is on ASB and class president.  I couldn’t say for sure I guess but it’s possible those pageants gave her the confidence and poise she has today.  But I can’t get on board for the ones that pay for coaches and beauty treatments and force their little girls act like little women and to think those things mean you are beautiful and subsequently worth something.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    It is wrong. The whole thing is F’d and children’s aid needs to be all up in these things to make sure psycho mom’s aren’t abusing their kids.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    There is no way I would let my (future) child be involved in pageants.  I will encourage just about any othery hobby/ sport/ activity, but that is just not one of them.

    I think there are a lot of other, more appropriate, ways to build confidence and character without being judged on your looks.

    Post # 8
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was in pageants as a child. I also did gymnastics, ice skating, dance, cheer, golf, and other sports. I would be okay with my child being in pageants as long as it is a reasonable pageant. Some of them are way too extreme and put way too much pressure on the girls. The pageants I was a part of were not very extreme. But, I did learn confidence and how to present myself. I don’t think they are all bad.

    Post # 9
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    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I use a friend of mine as my example. She did pagents growing up and loved them, she had her college paid for by the time she was 16 and I really do believe she benefited from them. I will say that based on her alone I would put my child in one.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The ones you are talking about, hell no.  But like a local competition maybe.  I definitely wouldn’t make it my career to take my child around to win competitions. If she does well on the first one, maybe I’ll ask her if she wants to do it again.  Oh, and no makeup until she is older.  (Maybe 12 or 14?)

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I don’t know. From what I understand, there are different tyes of pageants. The ones they show on those crazy shows, most often, are glitz pageants. They are the one with the 6-year-olds that look like playboy models. I would never, ever enroll my child in one of those. Now, if I found a couple more low-key, local pageants that did not require all the glitz and glam and ridiculousness, then I might consider it.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I find the glitz pagaents to be vile and I have no respect for any parent who puts their child in that kind of atmosphere.

    I am not repulsed by “natural” pageants, but I would still not want my daughter to be competing with others based on her appearance. Let’s face it, no matter how beautiful you are, there is always going to be someone “more beautiful”. Beauty and attraction are subjective.

    Being intelligent, talented, and confident are not subjective and are valuable no matter where you are or what you are doing. I would rather my daughter invest her time and energy in something that brought out those traits instead.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Dont really mind either way. I would never force my child into it but if they expressed an interest I would let them explore it

    Post # 15
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My gut reaction is “NONONO” but if it was a local or state fair thing, and SHE wanted to, I think I’d be okay with it, but I’d never ever push my daughter to compete in one. 

    The whole glitzy/glam “let’s make our young girls look as sexualized as possible” pageant mindset that some parents have just makes me sick. I keep thinking of JonBenet Ramsey. 

    Post # 16
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    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Hell no! Like I said on the other post I wasn’t even aloud to wear some lipgloss till I was teenager.. If I got caught with make up on unless I just playing dress up with my mom or friends or something, I would of been grounded for a week, and well lipgloss wasn’t more important than my favorite tv shows back then, which don’t get me wrong I love make up now, not in a I am obsessed because I think I’m ugly kind of way, but I like playing around with it. If it was a little fun fair thing, maybe, but even that is like Eh to me, because even that can bring your child down. Children are beautiful, we are all beautiful. I don’t care how damn attractive you are, if you got a nasty personailty, you are an UGLY PERSON!

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