Post # 1
It’s got to the point now where every penny counts! I made a thread the other day about buying activity books etc to keep the children entertained during the meal.
Are they completely necessary? I could really do with saving that money and putting it elsewhere… I have 3 girls aged 10-11, 7 children aged 4 – 7 and 4 children aged 8months – 2 years.
Post # 2
If I were taking my young children to a wedding, you can bet I would have something in my purse to keep them occupied (book, colors, ipad). I wouldn’t depend on my host to provide entertainment for them at all times. That being said, if you have room in the budget, you could do something small, but I don’t think it is necessary at all.
Post # 3
linnylou_88: Just print off coloring pages and put crayons in some sort of container. Cheap and done!
Post # 4
If I took my children to a wedding (I prefer not to- because I like a night off!), I would certainly bring things to entertain them. Don’t waste your money.
Post # 5
Depends. Normally, I would say no. Most of my friends/family tend to have stuff to entertain their kids on-hand and have a good control of them overall. But one of my bridesmaids (fiance’s friend) seems to think that as long as she’s in the same city as her children, that’s good enough. Someone else will handle it. -_- So I’m printing out coloring pages and picked up some of the individual crayon packs at Party City for the ceremony. After my mom spent some time with this bridesmaid and her kids during the dress fittings (oldest child is the flower girl), she went to Party City and bought a basketful of small toys the reception.
So if you know any of the kids will be a problem or over-active or something, it’d be a good idea and shouldn’t take that much money or time. But in general, no, the parents should be able to provide something to occupy their time.
Post # 6
It’s not necessary, but if your venue is particularly formal and unfriendly to little kids, it will sure make things easier. I wouldn’t rely on the parents bringing much, especially not if they are having to travel.
If you need a few toys cheap, I’d check a local consignment store. Ours always has tons of toys at great prices.
Post # 7
linnylou_88: I bought a colouring/activity book at the dollar store, and then ripped it apart and gave every kid some of the sheets. And then bought a box of crayons at the dollar store and gave them each 3 – 4 out of there. So for $2, I had happy, entertained kids.
Really, they are having fun looking around at everything and talking and taking pictures too, and they are also eating, so they really just needed a couple of sheets to keep them entertained during speeches or if they lost interest in everything else. I don’t think they each need an activity book.
Post # 8
A wedding meal is so different from what a normal family meal is.
Children are used to coming to the table and beginning to eat, with possibly a pause for a blessing. Then they are used to eating dinner, getting dessert, and going off to do something else. They do have to wait in restaurants, but that is why many restaurants who serve families provide coloring materials.
They are definitely not used to sitting at a table (with cool centerpieces they aren’t allowed to touch) for a long time waiting for the bride and groom, waiting for other tables to be served food, waiting for several speeches, and waiting for everything to be OVER so they can finally get to taste the biggest, most beautiful cake of their lives.
I’ve grown restless as an adult guest waiting for the bride and groom to arrive. I think providing activities for kids is just a smart move and will prevent stress for them and their parents.
The activity books don’t need to be expensive or elaborate, just enough to keep them distracted before the food.
Post # 9
I’m not doing lots but will try to have something small (and cheap) for children during the waiting around. Beyond that, their parents can sort them out.
Post # 10
I say no.
last year at my wedding, I went out and bought colouring/activity books, crayons and a couple of little party toys for them to play with and they almost all went un-used. (I had about 20 kids there) I looked in the colouring books and there were 2 pages scribbled on, that’s it. the kids entertain themselves, and parents know if their kid can handle sitting down for long periods of time or not and bring their own toys if they think they need it.