(Closed) Are diamonds worth it?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

In the end, I’m very happy with what my husband picked (solitare non conflict diamond).  None of that really came into play for me – only what he picked.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

The only thing that matters to me is that it represents our relationship! Before he bought it I wanted a Canadian Diamond because it was from home and guaranteed not to be a conflict diamond (we don’t have much conflict up hereWink) but they were SOOOO expensive so we got a New Zealand diamond which is also guaranteed not to be a conflict diamond. My parents are from Rhodesia (now Zimbabwe) so this was REALLY important to me!

I always said I would marry him if he gave me a ring pop but it was important to him to get me a diamond ring!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We got the ring from a family owned store that only deals in conflict-free diamonds, and I have to be honest – I am in LOOOOOOOOOVE with my diamond engagement ring. I could look at it all day. It’s so sparkly, and I love that the stone is the hardest, most durable thing on earth. I think non-diamond engagement rings are beautiful too (there’s lots of pretty ones on this site!!), but for me, I personally wanted the rocks! And I am so glad I have them! I think it’s a personal choice, but that’s just my two cents. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

It’s really a difficult question. Was it worth it? Yes, and no. I did get what I wanted out of it: everyone knows the ring on my finger is an engagement ring, and it’s a lovely ring. But if I could do it again, I don’t know if I would have asked him to spend the money. Maybe we could have spent slightly less on a sapphire, but we also could have skipped a ring altogether. Whatever stone it is, it’s still just a piece of jewelry, not the commitment itself. But I went through these same arguments when we were deciding what ring to get anyway. I don’t think there’s a right answer.

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I wanted a ring that would last forever and I personally love the brightness /look of a diamond and it has personal meaning. 

My family has a tradition that when a girl turns 21 she buys her own diamond because she should know she doesn’t have to wait for someone to give one to her.  A diamond may not be rare, but it is the hardest so it will last many lifetimes. 

A CZ can cloud, but I love all other natural gemstones.  Princess Diana wore a sapphire ring and was copied the world over.  I agree with you….the real value is from my husband taking the time to choose

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Since “worth” is such a subjective thing…I think what it comes down to is personal preference. I never really thought about anything other than a diamond either before we got engaged but am happy I ended up with one. Just for me personally, it wouldn’t have felt like an engagement ring if it wasn’t a diamond. 

With that said, if you are going to be happy with a stone other than a diamond, you should definitely consider it!! You can get SO much more for your money. I would have felt, I don’t know, a little disingenuous with a CZ, mossanite, etc. instead of a diamond, but again, that’s just me.

Bottom line, be honest with yourself and get what you and your SO feel good about. That’s what’s worth it. 🙂 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

@hayj: What a cool tradition!

There are lots of bees here that don’t wear diamonds, and every one of them seems perfectly happy with it. For me, even knowing the difficult history that diamonds represent, I couldn’t imagine wearing anything else. One for practicality; I’m hard on jewelry, and on my hands… and I don’t even want to think about the damage I’d do to a gemstone from day-to-day wear. The other is that I just like the look of diamonds; if we couldn’t afford a real one, FH knew I’d be happy with a high-quality fake. Once I started really researching diamonds I made sure that our jeweler deals with non-conflict diamonds, so that was good to know also.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have been planning my wedding for months and did not bring this up with all the billions of “look at my ring!!” posts. My ring was from a conflict free jeweler. Its not only the diamond but so many get killed and injured in gold mines it can be so cruel to think the lengths people will go for the demand of profit.

Yes, there is cost involved in getting a custom ring from a conflict free jewelry, from the materials to the artist designing around the diamond in some cases. I have gone to get my ring cleaned before my wedding and I couldn’t believe that a jewelry called my ring economical and practical because my stone wasn’t massive…. what a jerk!

The lengths my fiancé went for me to do something that included our views of fair trade and the fact that I am marrying my soul mate means so much more to me.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I always wanted a different ring. but I was afraid of what everyone would think… my first engagement ring (from my son’s dad) was a great emerald cut sapphire, LOVED it but everyone else looked down on it. then i got a 2.16 carat diamond ring and everyone LOVED IT, but i secretly wanted the vera wang aquamarine that i saw on platinum weddings (DROOL!)… now i want a blue aqua topaz or diamond ring with tiny diamonds in the band for bling

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

If you don’t particularly like diamonds, obviously they’re not “worth it”!  As an everyday stone, though, they definitely have durability going for them in a way that most other gems don’t.  An aqua or emerald e-ring would be beautiful, but would require significantly more care and special handling, and you have to be prepared for the possibility that the stone could get chipped or scratched.  Is that a reason not to go with a gemstone ring if you’d really prefer one?  Of course not!  It’s just a different mindset.  I like my diamond ring less for the fact that it’s a diamond and more because I can wear it everywhere, bang it into stuff, and not have to worry as much that it’ll be damaged when I get home.  Moreover, most diamonds — especially modern round brilliants — are pretty replaceable.  Most gemstones are significantly rarer, especially if you want a specific shade or cut.  I’d be very upset if something happened to one of my gemmies, but if my diamond got damaged, I’d have a pang of regret and then swap it out with another.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh, this is an issue I really struggle with. I am a very thoughtful and practical person. Every rational thought in my head tells me:

– Love/marriage is not about any peice of jewelry, and certainly not about a diamond

– The fact that society expects diamond e-rings is solely a result of crafty marketing in the late 19th/early 20th century— historically rings were not diamonds!

– Diamonds are seriously overpriced, also due to marketing/monopoly

– With all of the issues (conflict diamonds etc) diamonds really SHOULD display human greed more than love.

 

Nevertheless, I WANT a diamond. And I kind of am surprised/disapointed in myself for wanting one so badly because it makes no rational sense and I KNOW that I really just want one because I’ve been so programmed by society to associate it with love and beauty…. but the bottom line is, I want it. Usually I would drive myself crazy over this and let my rational side win out over my emotional side… but my e-ring is emotional so I’m letting it win just this once 🙂

 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it all comes down to personal preference and/or what you like and can afford, but I wanted a real diamond. I love other rings, but for me, I just really wanted a real diamond. He could easily afford it, I loved it, and he doesn’t like non-traditional settings (he balked when i mentioned a yellow diamond) so it worked best for us!

That being said, and I feel bad saying this, I am pretty out of the loop regarding the whole “where the diamond came from” conflict problem (i don’t pay attention I guess?) and we went through his BIL who got us the stones at cost. I might sing a different tune if i’d just walked into the stores now, though, knowing what they can be inflated.

I just looooove love love diamonds. Always have. I love all kinds of jewelry. But my e-ring had to be a big fat wad o sparkle for me.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

lol @ big fat wad o sparkle

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Interesting question. I love my diamond. I love that is sparkles, it shines, it’s set in an amazing amount of platinum.  It’s HUGE and it’s flawless. I love how it makes me feel and I smile each and everytime I look at it and I do not make any apologies for it. I do so because my soulmate gave it to me. I also do so because it’s the same diamond my grandmother wore. It represents the 65 years of a great marriage my grandparents endured during hardships such a the The Great Depression and The Holocaust. Their love and respect got them through the worst of times and it means so much that my fiance recognizes this amazing achievement & expects the same in our vows. Yes, MY diamond is worth it!

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