Post # 1
We will be having OOT guests. But with the internet, do we really need to tell them these things? Plus everyone has preferences about accomodations, it’d be pointless to list a bunch.
I would like to include a cute map of the area, because I’m thinking about doing hand-painted/illustrated invitations.
Right now our invitations have:
-note about registry…not sure if we need to note anything else
-rehearsal dinner invite, if applicable
Post # 2
Do you have a wedding website? I would put suggested accommodations on there, as well as links to your registry. I like having suggestions, even if there are no room blocks. Then include a card with the website url with the invitations.
Post # 3
I agree with PP – just use a wedding website for all that stuff. If you’re not going to block a set of rooms, I would give people two hotel options to help them with that part of the planning.
Any chance I can change your mind about mentioning your registry on your invite? I just received an invite that has registry info on it, and NH and I both think it’s super tacky — we’re so turned off that we’re just going to give them cash,
Post # 4
rosecut: I don’t think either are necessary. Most people are quite used to making their own travel arrangements. They both belong in the “nice to do” not “necessary to do” category to me.
No doubt some of your guests will appreciate hotel suggestions or room blocks and maps. Others will see it as a waste of your time. Even when room blocks have been made, I have always been able to get a better rate myself, either online or by phoning the hotel directly.
One thing I would not do is include information about the registry in with the invitation. I know times are changing, but I still think the polite thing to do is to include a link to your weding website, where you can include such information. Registry information is acceptable in shower invitations because a shower by definition is a gift giving event. It is best not to imply that a gift is expected in a wedding invitation.
Post # 5
Are you able to get a better deal on the hotel prices if you set aside a block of rooms? We found a hotel that gave the guests a discount if we recommended them and the guests choose to go with. I have also seen information about when a shuttle is being provided by the B&G to and from the reception. If neither of those apply to you, I don’t think listing accommodations is necessary.
As far as directions, I don’t think it’s necessary. However, when I was doing iinvites for a shower I’m hosting the MOB asked me to include the directions so some folks still appreciate them I guess.
Post # 6
I was hoping to avoid doing a wedding website. I actually never heard of them until I saw people talking about them on forums. They also seem a little extraneous and I’m not sure people would even visit it that much.
I don’t think it’s rude to have registry info within the invitation envelope, isn’t that how it’s always been done? I was going to put it on a small card. If I don’t have a website, I’m pretty sure this is the only other good way to let them know. If someone is so turned off by this and gives me cash as a “punishment”…lol idk…if they really hate it, they should let me know. I’ll have to ask others about their opinion on this. Never knew it was controversial.
I hadn’t thought about guest discounts or shuttles. There will be 10-15 people flying in that might need a shuttle if they don’t get a rental car. Almost everyone is technically from out of town, but our venue is within driving distance.
Post # 7
Of course, I think it would be nice if the registry card had more than that on it, just so it doesn’t scream “I want things!” Like it might be more subtle to have an information card, including registry info…i just don’t know what other information to add…
Post # 8
Also – it’s a small wedding, 50 guests tops. If some people need to call me for info, I’m fine with that.
Maybe that’s my answer…Contact info + registry info ?
Post # 9
If you don’t want to do a website, I think it’s absolutely fine to list that information on a separate card together. I would definitely check rates on room blocks for your guests since they are spending money coming from OOT and a shuttle, again that might save them some cash! Good luck!
Post # 10
frywedding2015: are you saying if i don’t have a website, i should have a card with accommodations and directions on it? or is it still okay if i don’t do that?
Post # 11
I think if you are having Out of Town guests then yes, you should be blocking hotel rooms at locations that are convenient to the ceremony/reception. Call around for quotes and yes, you should make an accomodations card for that. Maybe put the map on the other side.
As for the registry – that should NEVER go in an invitation. That should be spread by word via family and friends and/or on the website (if you choose to do that).
Post # 12
rosecut: Registry information is typically distributed through shower invites, wedding websites, or word of mouth by family and the bridal party, but never with the formal invitations to the wedding. I hope this answers your question on how registry information is traditionally shared. Obviously it is your choice on how you want to handle it, but there is a reason why folks here are advising you to leave the registry info out of the invite.
More information regarding Registry Info in Invitations:
As for whether directions and accomodations are necessary, since you do have out-of-town guests it is a simple courtesy to provide them 1-2 hotel options that are convenient and affordable. You don’t have to go crazy with the insert card, just include the basic room rate and contact information. Directions are simple enough to acquire with an address that you can probably leave that off.
Post # 13
Am I the only person who would like to have the couple’s registry info in the invite and not have to go on scavenger hunt to figure it out?
Post # 14
I would NEVER put registry info or anything regarding gifts but I did include directions and accommodations. For my crowd it was a must.
Post # 15
we’re not doing a shower and hopefully no website. word of mouth is hard because it’s not like all of our guest talk to each other.
and actually, if i wasn’t told about the registry or directed to a website, i wouldn’t take the time to ask about one because i’d assume they didn’t have one and i have a little social anxiety. i’d probably just go with cash. unless this is a close relative or friend and i felt like i needed to get them a gift.