Post # 1
After having the open/cash bar debate with FI and family, we decided that we are offering a champagne toast and open soft drinks/juice/coffee all night. We will also have a cash bar. We really wanted to do a full open bar, but it will cost thousands extra and we can’t afford it. Even open beer/wine is stretching our budget more than I’d like to. We figured having unlimited soft drinks will solve the problem of guests wanting something to drink with dinner and not having cash.
My parents suggested buying everyone one or two drink tickets since we cannot do the open bar. But I’m wondering whether it’s really necessary? I also feel like it’s something you would expect at a work party, not at a wedding. I also think it’s a little weird to have tickets just for alcoholic drinks when softdrinks are already free, and I feel like it might confuse people.
Please let let me know what you think!
Post # 3
@casey219: I would go straight for the cash bar than deal with the tickets.
Post # 5
2 drink tickets per person is much less tacky than a full cash bar, IMO. Most guests won’t drink more than 2 drinks anyway and it does give the impression that you cared to cater to your guests fully, but had a limited budget. Sort of like they get a plate of food, not a bottomless steak platter. But also not a menu with prices on it.
The sense of tackiness is about a host seeming not to have put in a real effort for his/her guests. The tickets do seem like a good effort from hosts to guests. If someone wants 5 drinks, that’s like someone wanting 2 dinners: more than a host could reasonably be expected to cater to.
Post # 6
@casey219: Yes, I think it would be a little tacky. I would just go straight to the cash bar and not even deal with tickets. Though I would suggest you spread the word (via word of mouth) that you’re going to have a cash bar. I know that when I go to a wedding, I almost never have cash on me (or just enough to cover the valet parking). So if I am at a wedding that is a cash bar I didn’t know about, I usually end up leaving after dinner.
Post # 7
Is it really cheaper to do drink tickets than it is to do beer and wine? I would offer as much as you can for your guests so if that means drink tickets I would go for it.
Post # 8
@joya_aspera: lol I did 5 drinks pp.
Post # 9
@casey219: Is there a way you could do just wine or just beer or just a sig. Cocktail for those who want alcohol instead of drink tickets? I agree with PPs that drink tickets seem like they would be just as expensive as doing a little free alcohol but more hassle and def give that work party feel you are worried about.
Post # 10
Drink tickets are not tacky.
Post # 11
Do what you think is right. It is your wedding and if it’s more feasible to have a cash bar all night do that.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If your budget allows for two drinks per guest, could you have wine during dinner? Or, a signature drink during the cocktail hour/ or open bar just during cocktail hour?
Post # 13
Not a fan of the tickets, but are you having a cocktail hour? If you are, perhaps you could pay for an open bar during cocktail hour but have it switch to a cash bar for the reception (but still offer the wine and beer). Just an idea!
Post # 14
Maybe its where I am from, but drink tickets are not tacky.
Open bars are almost not an option for most weddings here… our liquor is crazy expensive, even simple and common wines like Apothic are $20 a bottle, and a 1.4L bottle of hard alcohol is $70-$100. For fancy hotels, or ones where parents pick up the bar tab, weddings might be open bar, or small intimate gathering might have an open bar. But most are not.
However, I personally dislike weddings where drinks cost $6 or more, not the end of the world, just gives a different atmosphere for sure…. so, what we are doing, and a lot of weddings here do, is have a toonie bar. (A toonie, is $2 in Canadian, in case you didn’t know :)). You sell tickets for $2/drink, and it helps re-coupe so of the costs for the liquor. And who can’t afford $2 a drink? For some it may be tacky, but for us, its the only way to supply alcohol without a tab worth thousands of dollars. Its kind of the middle ground, and some may think its tacky elsewhere, but I don’t know if its common elsewhere, and its really common here!
Post # 15
They aren’t tacky. It’s nice to supply guests with one or two drinks, if they need anymore then can purchase!
It is better to give guests the option then to have a closed bar in my opinion! I have been to wedding where there is no bar available and that makes me sad 🙁 I like having options!
Post # 16
I don’t think they are tacky, last wedding I went to I didn’t even drink both my drinks and gave the second away, the guy was super happy. We’re going to have tickets because the place we are probably having it at doesn’t have a per person amount, they just keep track of all the drinks then we pay at the end of the night, with some people on my list that could get CRAZY expensive. We could have a cut off amount but then I would be afraid that the drinkers would use it and someone who wanted to spread their drinks out wouldn’t get any. So we feel like the best bet is tickets, that way people at least get some without us going into the poor house. I’m sure there will be some people who have a problem with it but they’ll live. Two drinks are plenty and if they feel like they need to have more alcohol to have fun then they can buy more or leave. Honestly it really bothers me when people say they would leave if they couldn’t drink for free. If weddings are so boring to you and you care so little about the couple to put any real effort into having fun at their wedding then you shouldn’t go.