Are engagement photos a must?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Do I need engagement photos?
    Yes : (12 votes)
    12 %
    No : (80 votes)
    82 %
    Other - explain. : (5 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    562 posts
    Busy bee

    you’re totally sensible! We are getting engagement pics, but only because we hardly have any good pictures of the two of us together. And I am going to use the pictures in an album for our guest book at our wedding.

    But truthfully, I feel a little guilty getting them. They are definitely not a “need”. My mother tried to talk some sense in me and say we really don’t need engagement pictures, or thousands of wedding pictures in every pose imaginable. Several great wedding pictures are all I really need. 

    Post # 4
    526 posts
    Busy bee

    I didn’t have them taken but kind of wish I had so I would have had  a better idea of what poses worked and what didn’t.  just a thought.

    Post # 5
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    No not a requrement

    In fact they are a relatively new thing this having a “whole photo session”

    And a lot of that has to do with Couples choosing to send out Save The Dates

    (which are also relatively new on the Wedding Scene… and not a requirement either BTW)

    Back when I was married the first time (circa 1980) a Couple would typically announce their Engagement or Upcoming Wedding on the Newspaper Social Page… with either a photo of them both (nice) or a pic of the Bride-2B

    Since STDs have replaced the Engagement Announcement, a Photo Session tends to be the norm

    Like other Photo Sessions in life, it is done more to mark a milestone occasion (Engagement – Wedding – Birth Photos – Christening Photos – School Photos – Graduation Photos – Multi Generational Photos – Milestone Birthday or Anniversary Photos etc)

    This time round…

    As this is a trend, I did consider it.

    But in the end, Mr TTR & I opted to use a fabulous picture of us two that was taken by a friend during the summer shortly after we got engaged (and it is very very much representative of US)

    So this is the Photo, is the one I now refer to as our Engagement Photo

    And it has been used in some of our Wedding Stationery etc.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    We didn’t feel like wasting the money on engagement pics.  We have a very small apartment so we decided putting up engagement photos for a few months only to replace them with wedding photos was silly.  We sent out beach themed save the dates without engagement photos on them and nobody has said a word about where our engagement photos are.

    Post # 7
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our photographers are 13 hours away and we couldn’t get time off to meet them for engagement pics. SO didn’t want them anyways. We had his dad take a couple of pics but it wasn’t anything special. I know a lot of people do it so that they feel comfortable with their photogs and I am slightly worried that our pics will be awkward but whatever. 

    I don’t think you need them at all.

    Post # 8
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    Depends on how comfortable you are in front of the camera. It’s a good way to test out your photography – test out their style, etc. 

    If photography isn’t a huge priority for you at the wedding, then it makes sense that the engagement photos would be either!

    It’s hard not to go with the ‘norm’ on the Internet these days, people obsess over the photos because it’s how we get inspired now (versus the days of vendor portfolios and magazines).


    Post # 9
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    The photog package we got included e-pics so we did them. Honestly, I was not going to, but it was great to get a feel for our wedding photog before the big day. She was able to get an idea of our personalities (DH is a jokester with pictures) and we were able to get an idea of her shooting style, etc. 

    That is honestly to me more important than the actual pictures. We used them in our STDs and we did a photo book as our guest book. Do I have any hanging on the walls- no, I have wedding pics but I am glad that we did them. 

    Post # 10
    4638 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We’re not doing them. Personally, I don’t like them.

    My SO and I don’t have a ton of pictures together, but I’d rather have the real life shots we do have instead of some stylized, posed photos that represent one single moment in our life. My favorite pictures of us are the ones we take ourselves when we go on vacation and experience things together.


    Post # 11
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I personally really wanted them, but in general no, I don’t think they are a requirement. I know lots of couples that didn’t have them done and I didn’t think it was odd at all. My FI and I have a lot of pics together, but nothing like what our epics turned out to be. I don’t have any regrets, but if you don’t feel compelled to have them done then I wouldn’t waste the money.

    Post # 12
    6631 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did not do them, personally I feel they are a waste of money.  Our photographer had it part of our package but I asked if could just use that time for instead more pictures at the reception, which is what she did.

    Post # 13
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @musical-lady:  Are they a must?  By no means yes.  In many cases it seems to be another thing to add on to a wedding and charge for.  That being said lots of couples love them so I think it’s mainly a matter of personal style (and budget).  Engagement photos aren’t really in our budget and since we’re useing an all-inclusive venue that includes photography we’re not ‘trying out a photographer’.  Instead out engagement photos are ones taken by the Disney photographer in front of the castle (D-land being where we were engaged and where we’re getting married).  

    My bottom line:  If you want them great, but in many cases they’re a chance for photographers to up-sell so I wouldn’t break the bank for them.  It’s all a matter of personal choice.

    Post # 14
    5351 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We didn’t do them either, and I have no regrets. 

    The pictures I wanted to use at our wedding were from the various places we have been together. I liked displaying our past vs. displaying engagement photos that were taken early that year. 

    Post # 15
    1287 posts
    Bumble bee

    I highly recommend them to my clients and provide the service free with my wedding packages. It gives me a chance to get to know them prior to the wedding and kinda get to practice posing, getting those “right” angles and feeling comfortable in front of the camera before their big day. 


    Post # 16
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @musical-lady:  my photographer includes them as a non-negotiable in all her wedding packages.  She says they’re more for her than for us.  We don’t own the photos from the shoot (which is why it’s free and she doesn’t remove it from the package) she considers it a trial run.  It allows her to see how we react to the camera, for us to get comfortable with her and she with us.  It also gives her a chance to see how we photograph – if one of us does funny things, if we’re squinty etc. etc.

    We did do an engagement shoot with a friend of mine who’s a newbie photographer just after we got engaged but that was because we DIDN’T have good pictures of us and I wanted to help her out and it was practically free.

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