Are favors a MUST or just a nice gesture?

posted 2 years ago in Favors
Post # 2
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

They are just a nice thing to do, but honestly, lots of times people don’t notice if they are there or not.

Unless they are edible, most people won’t take or use them.

We decided not to do favors and went with a candy buffet instead [with take home boxes].

Post # 3
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t really care for wedding favors, unless it’s something delicious and edible.  For our wedding, I baked a sweet n salty buffet since most of our guests were traveling and I thought it’d be nice for them to have snacks on the plane ride home (really inexpensive, but somewhat time consuming).  Honestly, I don’t think anyone will miss them if you don’t have them. 

Post # 4
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016


They are just a nice thing to do, they are not a necessity.

Actually I prefer edible favours OR no favours at all. I don’t like getting extra knick-knacks at weddings.

Post # 5
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Honestly, if you’re worried about budget, favors are the first thing I would cut. They have never impacted my overall wedding experience. I’ve been to fabulous weddings where the budget was instead allocated to bar options or better food (which I would way prefer over favors!) and I’ve been to less great weddings with  nice favors.

People only ever seem to keep/use/eat food favors, so if you do favors I would recommend something edible.

Post # 6
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

For our wedding we are having a sketch artist, and we maybe doing Disney Vinylmations because its something my family does on every trip. We wanted things that would be fun and have meaning attached to them rather than just things in general.


Post # 7
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


They aren’t necessary. We didn’t do them. Honestly, the free food and drinks and party (aka: the reception) is the t”hank you” for your guests anyways.  

Post # 8
293 posts
Helper bee

I agree, it’s nice but not necessary. I did edible favors at my wedding, but I have been to weddings where there were no favors and that was okay. And I’ve been to some where I got favors that I didn’t use (usually anything engraved with the couple’s names or initials). I agree with PP’s-if you want to do something people will like/use go the edible route 🙂

Post # 9
80 posts
Worker bee

Agree with all these ladies.  I’ve been to A LOT of weddings and only once have I appreciated the wedding favor.  It was a small bottle of wine.  Otherwise, I normally don’t take them unless they’re edible and it’s something I like.  

Post # 10
715 posts
Busy bee

NurseMandie:  You can easily skip them. So many people are not happy with what they get as a favor, so I think you can do without them. 

Post # 11
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

NurseMandie:  i think they started like a tip. something only some people did then it turned into what people thought must be done. where im from its not the norm. but if your wedding is destination then i think its a must to give them something, at least edible, to say thank you for comeing so far. some bees think its really rude to have none! but i wouldnt worry about it. unless your guests are going to great lengths to be there. i had homemade candy in mason jars for guests along with gummy bears and fish for the kids. something simple would be totally fine. 

Post # 11
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


NurseMandie:  honestly, they aren’t really neccessary and i say save your money. 

i did receive a jar of apple butter from a fall wedding and another time a wine stopper.  but other than that.  i can’t remember receiving any favors.  we didn’t have any at our wedding.



Post # 13
3990 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

NurseMandie:  They are not a must and I rarely ever take them with me if the couple has favors. We decided against wedding favors to save money and noone even noticed. Saving money is always a good option!

Post # 14
732 posts
Busy bee

I do think they are a very nice touch. I’ve only been to one wedding that didn’t have them.

For our wedding, FI and I wanted to do something useful. So we are giving out guests playing cards (I don’t know of anyone that won’t use them at some point). We did not do personalized ones because that would have been a fortune for 400 guests. We actually bought ours from oriental trading. We got them on sale for $6 a dozen. I actually needed to order more this past week and they were now $3.70 a dozen. While they are not the best quality cards they will be perfect for our guests who enjoy drinking games and won’t have to worry about wreaking nice cards on spilled drinks.

Post # 15
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

NurseMandie:  I’ve never been to a wedding where we didn’t get a bomboniere.  I prefer the edible ones (gourmet chocolates, chocolate covered pretzels, cookies, cupcakes, etc.)  But I’ve also received coasters, wine stoppers, a rose bush, a cappucino set (4 settings – 8 pieces, that was by far the biggest.) 

We are doing gourmet chocolates (from a chocolatier here) and B&G gingerbread (homemade, my grandma’s recipe.)  

I have never used any of the ‘stuff’ I’ve received, but I did eat all of the edible ones!  And most of our guests are travelling at least a few hours, so we figured this was a better option for us.  

I’ve also seen the donation route. But I’ve never not seen some kind of thank you to the guests. 

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