(Closed) Are favors really necessary?

posted 7 years ago in Favors
  • poll: Is it tacky to not provide favors to your wedding guests?
    Yes, you should always provide some sort of favor for your guests. : (16 votes)
    22 %
    No, you are already providing an evening of entertainment and most favors get tossed away anyways. : (58 votes)
    78 %
  • Post # 3
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    798 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m struggling with this as well.  I don’t think they’re necessary at all.  I’ve been to a couple weddings without favors, and what they did instead was donate money that they would have donated towards favors to a charity of their choice, and put little cards at the table.  I thought that was a nice idea. 

    Post # 4
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    They’re not necessary at all! We’re having them, but it’s personal choice. I’ve never missed them at any wedding without them, and the Jordan almonds aren’t exactly what makes the wedding! 🙂

    Post # 5
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Miss Manners on wedding favors:

    Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention. You owe them only the hospitality of the occasion.”

    Post # 6
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    A lot of guests just throw favors away if it isn’t edible. Just sayin.

    it’s a nice gesture, but totally not necessary.

    Post # 7
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    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @jo.lee: Agreed!

    We’re doing something small that will suite our guests to a T because we want to. I don’t think it’s a requirement at all! If you decide to do it, I think it should be because you really want to, and make it fun! It shouldn’t be stressful

    Post # 8
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I actually prefer when there aren’t any favors, I get annoyed when I have to bring coasters with the wedding date on them home with me.

    Post # 9
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Nope. I can tell you right now out of the last 5 weddings I have been to, I have thrown 4 favors in the trash. The fifth one had a candy buffet so that was awesome. The other 4? I don’t want personalized anything with a couples name and wedding date hanging around the house.

    1. Personalized wine bottle opener. I use to be a server and I have like a million of them. I didn’t need another one with their names engraved all over it.

    2. Personalized coasters.

    3. Personalized photo frames that said “I had so much fun at X and X’s wedding on XXXXX” It would have been nice if I had a photo with the bride, but she ended up too drunk to even greet her guests.

    4. Personalized tin cans with mints. Thanks for the mints but I don’t need the tin case with your wedding date on it.

    Post # 10
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    278 posts
    Helper bee

    No, like you said..you are already providing a night of entertainment. I have heard of people providing cake to go boxes, and having their guests take extra cake home (as a favor)

    Post # 11
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    798 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have countless tiny boxes of jordan almonds and jellybeans collecting dust on a bookshelf, that i feel too guilty to throw away.  I also have a couple sets of personalized coasters.

    I think we might do favors for the very few kiddies that will come to the wedding and that’s it. 

    Post # 12
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Skip them.  Unless it’s edible, I’m apt to leave it behind at the wedding.  I really don’t need another mini picture frame, “2 peas in a pod” salt and pepper shakers, monogrammed coasters, etc.

    Post # 13
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    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I know they’re played out, but we’re doing the beer coozie thing. We come from a long line o’ beer drinkers and hell you can use it at the wedding. :o)

    But to each her own!

    Post # 14
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    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Our reception is going to be at a vineyard.  Included in the cost of our rental is the wine glasses (that say the name of the vineyard on it) and the guests get to keep those glasses.  I’m not planning on doing anything aside from those glasses, but just need to figure out the best way to communicate to the guests that they get to keep those glasses.

    Post # 15
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    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Totally not necessary.  As other posters have said, any non-edible favors I’ve received have ended up in the trash.  If it’s not something that you’re excited about doing, I say just skip them. (I wouldn’t be offended as a guest if there were no favors, edible or not.  Like you said, you’re already throwing an awesome party!)

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