Post # 1
I was just wondering, because I don’t really want to do them. They’re pretty costly for a wedding over 100 people. Plus, every wedding I’ve been to 70% of the favors get left at the table at the end of the night because no one really uses/needs them. My whole take on it, is “meh there’s other stuff that they’ll enjoy”, but will guests be offended if I don’t do favors?
What do you think bees? Am I completely murdering etiquette?
Post # 3
@MissMetro: I don’t think they’re necessary! We weren’t going to have any but then we decided we wanted a candy buffet because I thought it was a fun idea. Honestly, I rarely use any favors I’ve received (unless they’re edible), and I’ve left them on my table by mistake on several different occasions. I think they’re a nice touch, but not something people would really miss.
Post # 4
You don’t need them. I think they can be fun and you don’t have to spend too much on them it depends what you get.
Post # 5
I don’t think favors are necessary. Ive actually never receieved a wedding favor that stands out in my mind. They are usually generic and 1/2 the time I leave mine there.
We are making a donation to two charities instead of traditional favors.
Post # 6
It’s not in my budget to have them…I think my guests will understand.
Post # 7
I went to a wedding last year where there wasn’t a favor. The only time I thought about it was in the car on the way home…when we usually eat the chocolate or candy that we got.
Post # 8
They are important if you want them to be, honestly I do not care about favors too much. We will be providing them but I am not putting a lot of time or money into them at all.
Post # 9
Unless they’re edible I don’t even take them, lol.
Post # 10
I almost never take the favors from weddings. I found something cheap and easy that I liked for my wedding, but I ended up with probably 50% of them left over. Definitely leave it out if it’s causing you stress.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t waste any time, energy or money on something that is not important to you.
There have been many, many posts where bees have reiterated that many favors are left on the tables.
Don’t let yourself get sucked into doing something because you think you should, or because someone else is, or because you want to have everything you have seen in magazines or online.
Your wedding should be a reflection of you- not Martha Stewart.
Post # 12
We didn’t do them. Nobody noticed.
Post # 13
I dont think you are killing wedding etiquette if you dont provide favors, but I think its nice for the guests to have something to take home with them
At my wedding people loved the favors and are still using them 2 months later..
Post # 14
Thanks for the speedy replies, Bees! I’m glad I’m not committing a heinous feaux pas, because I reeeeeally wanted to do a gelato bar, and can’t afford to do both. My Fiance and I got engaged in Verona, Italy, and the whole time we GORGED ourselves in gelato (seriously, it was disgusting how much we ate :)). I thought it was be an awesome surprise for him and family to have a “taste of Italy” at the reception, but I wasn’t sure how guests would feel about this instead of individual bagged treats.
I’m totally bagging favors, and going with delicious gelato instead! 🙂 Thanks again!!
Post # 15
I voted no! I don’t think I’ll have them either….
Post # 16
@bells: Oo oo! What were your favors?