Post # 1
I love gemstones, I understand that hardness is something to consider for rings that will be worn on a daily basis so it’s better to go with the hardest possible on the scale to avoid chipping.
My question is that are the gemstone rings at the jewellery stores just as durable in general as an e-ring that will be worn for a lifetime?
I’m planning by wedding (obviously as I’m on weddingbee) but I still haven’t received THE ring yet, and I just want to have my options open because I truly love gemstones, and not a big fan of diamonds for the lack of colour.
Anyone know what styles to avoid when choosing a durable long lasting ring?
Post # 3
Make sure you get white or yellow gold instead of sterling silver or a softer metal, but I think gemstone e-rings are great! I wanted a ruby one but got a diamond, lol! OH well I still love it <3 they’re usually cheaper, so that’s a plus.
Post # 4
I think it would depend on the gemstone, but most of them are hardy enough for you to wear daily with proper care. I know sapphires are pretty hard, at least. For something like a pearl, you’d want to be a bit more careful.
Post # 5
Yes, gemstones are a perfectly acceptable and practical option. Obviously, it depends on the type of stone, and you can check into relative hardness of the types of stones you’re looking at. However, I know stones like sapphire and ruby are actually comparable to diamond in their durability. I have a sapphire set in yellow gold with small side diamonds, and I love it!
Post # 6
I have a sapphire e-ring, and so far, so good. I haven’t had any problems with it’s durability, and it looks really pretty!
Post # 7
Absolutely, gemstones are beautiful for engagement rings! There are a few threads to peek at with bees who have colored stones too. Research the hardness of gemstones as you learn what ones are most appealing to you. Diamonds are the hardest, followed by sapphires. (Sapphires come in many colors too… blue, of course, but also clear and Red… aka rubies:) Harder stones will be less likely to scratch, which is a reasonable concern. There are so many types of gemstones, natural and created to consider.
Post # 8
I have a sapphire, which are 9-9.5 on the mohs scale (diamond is 10).
I probably wouldn’t go for less than 8 mohs because then durability is more of an issue. But even diamonds can chip.
Post # 9
They are not only perfect and acceptable but I think they are just plain gorgeous!!!
Post # 10
I have an amethyst which is a hardness of 7 on the mohs scale. So unless I am fighting people with diamonds or sapphires I have general been ok. 😉
Post # 11
I love them, I was actually looking at rubies. They are great as engagement ring, I showed a few to FI but he decided to get a diamond though. I would have loved either but yeah, do some research about the hardness because they do scratch. However diamonds do chip too.
Post # 12
People are right about checking out the mohs scale! I’d avoid opals if you can; they are soft and can be damaged fairly easily.
Post # 13
Don’t forget about moissanite. They have gorgeous colored moissanite that’s AMAZING, and moissy is super durable. If I remember correctly, sapphire is almost as durable.
Post # 14
I’ve never been into diamonds, but somehow when we decided to finally get married I figured that’s what I’m getting but now I really just want something else and unique, I can see my FI getting a diamond though, he keeps insisting I “deserve” a diamond, I wonder if that’s how men think or maybe others will think he’s “cheap” if they notice that he bought me something less than a diamond?
Not sure what goes on in the mans brain lol.
All the stones sound beautiful, I grew up around gemstones as my dad’s friend owned a jewellery store so he always brought things over to show us. I’m going to find something both beautiful and durable and see what FI thinks.
Post # 15
I have tourmalines, about 7-7.5 on the hardness scale. I’m fairly active and crafty, so my rings get knocked about on a regular basis, but they’ve held up beautifully so far!
I told DH very firmly that I didn’t want diamonds, and he was fine with it. Hopefully your FI will indulge your coloured gem love 🙂
Post # 16
They’re totally suitable, just depends on what kind of stone. I have a sapphire and its second only to diamonds in terms of durability and strength. I use my hands a lot and I’m banging into things all the time and she looks perfect as the day I got her!