Are "getting ready" photos narcissistic?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Aquaria:  Eh, I don’t judge…its someone’s else wedding album. I don’t care what they put in it. If they want half of it to be their getting ready pictures, sure! I don’t have to look at it. 

Post # 4
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

For women “getting ready time” is HOLY and SACRED time with our girls. Especially on our wedding day! lol, but it is really true. Whenever I get to get dressed up and go out the part I am most excited for is getting ready

That being said I probably wouldn’t get professional getting ready photos to save the money, but I understand why so many brides want them.

Post # 5
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No. There’s just as many pictures of my husband getting ready then me. They’re fun and I loved seeing what he was doing that morning! We had 2 photographers though so not sure how that changes if you only have one…

Post # 6
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I personally did not do any of them, but I think that in some way they can be a homage to all the work that the bride puts into her wedding day…especially in regards to her wedding outfit and overall look.  I mean, the photos are often of her putting on her jewelry, putting on her shoes, putting on the veil, smoothing out the dress.  And considering that most brides have their BMs and Mother help them get ready, it can show that bond between the women.   So I think it can be nice in that regard, and not necessarily “look at me, me, me”.  

Post # 7
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If they are, then so are the rest of the wedding pictures. 

Post # 8
863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Aquaria: I plan to have ‘getting ready’ shots and I think they’re really cute, but I also want an equal amount of shots of FH getting ready. 15-20 shots in the wedding album is excessive but I can kind of see myself getting sentimental and putting that many in lol. For me, the getting ready shots are more about me and my BMs having a good time, getting some moments with my mom and grandma before I get married, etc. I’d like a few shots of just me getting my hair curled or whatever thrown in, but I doubt these will make it to the album. I want those personal moments captured because our friends and family are such an important part of our big day. 


Post # 9
6794 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@Aquaria:  I love those pics. I think it captures the “Oh shit I’m getting married today” as well as “omg I love my girls”… I personally would want those moments captured… my last moments as a single lady. Eeep! Less than 2 months!!

Post # 10
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MrsPanda99:  +1 i think the whole wedding process is a bit narcissistic. and i embrace it.

Post # 12
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsPanda99:  +1

Your wedding is really the only day you get to be a little more focused on yourself so I say take it. I like the getting ready photos. I think they’re fun and show the bride and groom with the people closest to them before the wedding begins. You forget about those quiet moments on your wedding day.

Post # 13
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No. It’s a part of the day that is just as important as the reception, dancing, toasts, or any other part of a wedding day. So y would it be considered selfish or narcissistic to have photos of that part of the day? Because they’re of the bride? Well she is pretty much the center of attention, as well as the groom, and he usually gets his fair share of pics too, unless the photographer is too stressed for time or not experienced or something. Some ppl have a terrible memory, like me, and so i want and need those photos to help remember my wedding day in full splendor. All of it.

Post # 14
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t think they’re narcissistic, but I also don’t really see the point of them since I can’t imagine ever displaying them in a frame or on my wall. I also find the idea of having a photographer there during that intimate and private time with my nearest and dearest a bit invasive. So we didn’t pay the extra to have the photographer there before the ceremony, but if those pictures make others happy then great for them!

Post # 15
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Aquaria:  we got ready at our respective parents’ houses so it was not feasible for our photographer to capture both of us. She got the ‘getting ready’ photos of myself, my mom, the bridesmaids, as well as anyone else who was tehre for the morning. But she also got all of the detail shots of my dress, the rings, flowers, etc. taken so it was very productive.

Some of my favorite photos are from the “getting ready” phase because everyone is just so excited, relaxed and its a cool “behind the scenes” look.

I wouldnt necessarily consider it “narcissistic” because it’s the one day where it’s perfectly acceptable to get all dolled up. If someone were posting photos every day doing their makeup, etc. then yeah- thats totally different.

But on your wedding day, you deserve to be a princess and why not document all of the time and effort and fun that went into getting ready for the biggest day (most likey) of your life (thus far)?

Post # 16
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think having getting ready pictures is great – it helps tell the story of your entire day. I had just as many pictures of the guys getting ready as I did of my bridesmaids. Also, wayy more than 20 – we have like 400 “getting ready” pictures.

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