Post # 1
A few months before we got engaged I started thinking about our wedding – how I would like to do it etc. So, the day we got engaged I told my FI my favourite idea – Brunch Reception! He loved it! We both love Brunch and we are not into dancing and clubbing/partying, so this is what we are going for.
It is going to be a beautiful ceremony at 10.30 am at a vineyard with a short cocktail hour 11-12 at the reception site (10 min drive away from the ceremony location) and 12-4 Sunday Brunch reception. We want to set up a faux-to booth since we have two photographers for the event with fun props, scarfs, hats, chalkboards etc. We are planning on having a caricature artist for a couple of hours during the reception (I’ve been to an event with such an artist and it was a blast for the guests). There will be a traditional bouquet toss, cake cutting and possibly a fun first dance (if I convince my non-dancing FI to do it 😉 ). There will also be a very special Belly Dancing performance by my close and amazing friend.
Early on FI and I decided that we also want an MC. Someone to host the reception, move it along, announce the events, toasts and possibly entertain our guests with some fun and not tacky games (guess the song and maybe bride/groom questions).
Since some of the guests (my grandma’s and a few older people) don’t speak English and half of the guests don’t speak Russian, the MC has to be bilingual. So, yesterday I contacted one guy, who sounded great and very polite on the phone. When I tried to explain my vision to him he practically told me (in a very nice and polite way) that it’s stupid and if there is no dancing our guests will not be able to enjoy it. He spent quite some time telling me that from his experience even people who don’t dance expect to dance at the weddings and they will be disappointed if it doesn’t happen. His price was right and I liked him quite a lot, still he actually didn’t even agree to my business. He asked for a few days to think about it and to figure out how he can make my lame (ok, he didn’t use this word) reception fun without dancing.
I decided not to go with him, but now I am wondering… Is our reception going to be enjoyable for our guests? They know it’s a Brunch day event and they know that we don’t dance, so I don’t think they expect it to be a dancing/party atmosphere, but still… Is it lame and boring?
Post # 3
Sounds like a lot of fun to me! I’d love to go to a wedding like yours 🙂
Post # 4
I would not expect much dancing at an afternoon wedding. He was in the wrong to be negative about it; he’s not the end-all be-all on weddings.
Post # 5
Is that guy serious? Your reception sounds like a blast and I wish I could attend! 🙂
Post # 6
I too think that it can be different but still enjoyable for the guests. The thought of people not having fun did not even cross my mind until yesterday. He was so adamant about it, that it made me really worried.
Post # 7
I think it sounds fun! There DOESN’T have to be dancing for the wedding to be fun.
Post # 8
I won’t lie.. my preference would be for an evening wedding with a DJ and dancing. But that’s for my own wedding. That’s why I did it that way.
But that doesn’t mean I can’t have fun in other settings. I would never expect dancing at a brunch wedding. All of the things you have listed sound super fun. Tell him to shove it : )
Would it be possible for someone in your family (A brother, a fun cousin, etc) who is bilingual to take on the MC’ing duties?
Post # 9
@Moose1209: I was thinking about it, but I want the guests to relax and enjoy the day instead of “working” the event. We thought about it but decided that ultimately we’d like to pay a professional to do it.
I totally agree that my type of wedding is not for everyone 🙂 It’s different from what most people would expect. I was just very surprised how that guy was sure that it won’t work
Post # 10
Dude, brunch food is awesome! I wouldn’t have a problem with attending a wedding like that, especially if i knew the whole dj/dancing thing wasn’t really your scene. I could still have a good time.
Post # 11
our wedding was very similar (10 am ceremony at a vineyard, followed by cocktail hour and then lunch reception to 3pm). we also chose not have dancing because i don’t dance and most of my family doesn’t either. we also didn’t do toasts or other activities besides cake cutting, but we did have music playing in the background and a photobooth, which kept all the kids entertained and my aunts and uncles as well. we wanted people to have a good meal and enjoy the afternoon, and people seemed to have a good, relaxing time. so i say, go for it.
Post # 12
I really wouldnt expect dancing at a brunch wedding…my guess would be that most morning or afternoon weddings dont hire an MC and this guy was probably unfamiliar with a brunch style wedding reception. Since we have spent a lot more time looking at, reading about and consuming all things wedding related, we all know how cute/fun/classy a brunch reception can be. Don’t worry yourself too much about that MC’s reaction and look for a vendor who appreciates the style of your wedding!
I’m not sure how easy it is to find an English/Russian MC, but if you don’t want to ask a guest to do it, you might be able to find a friend of a friend (someone who wouldn’t be invited as a guest, but maybe a family member knows someone who has the personality and voice for the job?)
Post # 13
Your wedding sounds awesome! Really cool and different, like a mini festival =)
Post # 14
I think it will TOTALLY work!
We’re doing a Brunch Reception, but after finding a great “timeline” on theknot we ARE having dance time…
Not like the evening receptions though 😉
Post # 15
We’re having a wedding with no dancing too and I cannot tell you how many vendors have questioned our vision!
I HATE dancing a weddings! I’m sorry I just do. And its funny how many of my family members (who are normally very critical, and not afraid to tell you what they think) keep telling me how much they are looking forward to are dancing free day…apparently it sounds FUN!
So your family might surprise you.
Post # 16
it sounds nice! I woulndn’t want to dance at an early afternoon reception…