Are LDR's becoming more common?

posted 2 weeks ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Sounds reasonable though I don’t think I actually know anyone in an LDR, at least not long term. I don’t think I would ever be willing to do it longer than a couple months.

I think that a lot of it stems from both partners in a couple being career minded. A lot of careers just don’t offer enough opportunity for two partners to both get great jobs in the same city. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

While I don’t know anyone currently in a LDR, your reasoning makes sense.  I have had some coworkers who moved here for work and left their spouse behind while still working within the same government agency. Sometimes it definitely  does NOT work out,  but other couples seemed happy and were eventually reunited. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m in medicine, and LDRs are INCREDIBLY common among my friends (and myself– my fiancé and I have been doing LD for 5 years). Since you don’t have a ton of control about where you go for med school and residency, you may end up across the country from your SO– especially if one or both of you is applying to a competitive speciality. It’s become really normal for me to encounter people in serious LDRs. I think as more women have pursued careers (in medicine and other fields) it definitely makes sense.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: A vineyard

I think they are. Partly because of the internet and the ability to meet people we might not have met otherwise. I’ve had 3. The first one I was a bit ashamed over because they were less common before but now I dont think people really care as much. Obviously the last one is the one that stuck though since we got married. lmao. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Most of my friends have been in a long-distance relationship or been in relationships where part of it was long-distance. My husband and I did long distance at two different points during our relationship (once for 8 months, then a second time for 2 years). Both times were for our education. 

When I was in grad school several members of my class were in long distance relationships.

My best friend met a couple guys through online dating and did a few long distance relationships that were short lived. And she and her husband did long distance while they were engaged when he moved for a job opportunity.

So yeah, it sounds right that it would be becoming more common. I think people move around more and look for love further outside of their geographical bubble than they used to.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I don’t currently, nor can I think of ever personally knowing anyone in a LDR. So at least in my circle, it isn’t growing more common. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Yes! I went to a college with super ambitious people, and unless you both ended up in NYC, everyone is all over the place doing long distance. We just aren’t willing to compromise on our respective careers.

My FI and I are still doing long distance, and will be splitting our time between two cities every few weeks. It isn’t cheap, but both of us need to be geographically mobile to have those amazing job opportunities. We’ve had a tough time finding the right balance between relationship and career.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Yes I believe there are a lot of LDRs right now. This may be because of my age (in college), but I know a lot of people in LDRs. Including myself, I currently know of five LDR couples. Most of these are due to being in different colleges, which they purposefully did to best further their future careers. My FI and I also did this, despite being together in high school, and then closed the distance when I was done at the college I was at. Now we’re ling distance again due to an internship he has – again, purposefully long distance so he can further his career.

Being in an LDR is a lot easier than it used to be with the technology we have.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

akshali2000 :  you can couples match, but only if you are both matching through the same process (there are 4 different matches depending on what speciality and what degree you have), during the same year (and if you both are in medicine!). My fiancé is a lawyer so we weren’t able to couples match haha.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Coffee House

I am in a LDR myself since my FI is military and I have one other friend whose boyfriend is in the military as well. Just about everyone else is in an LDR due to being at different universities however a majority of them are chosing to live closer together or transfer to be closer to their significant others. 

Post # 15
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Newbee

sparkosity :  Psychology also has a similiar match process so I am spending a year doing my internship in the Midwest while my fiance is on the West Coast. Luckily he has a flexible tech job so he is able to make quick weekend trips 1-2 times a month and longer trips about once a quarter. I am enjoying my year of adventure away from home but I will also definitely be glad to be reuinited with him when the year is up! 

I don’t have data necessarily, but many of my friends and acquaintances had to do similar LDRs for school and work. Fwiw, most either had significant problems or broke up. I also know of some relationships that started out long distance due to meeting online, but most ended at some point–even after one person moving to be in the same place. 

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