Post # 1
Exactly what it says on the tin. Fiance and I were discussing this tonight. We came to the conclusion that, despite the trusim that men cheat more, we personally knew more women than men who either had cheated on a partner, or who we thought would be willing to do so, if the circumstances presented themselves. The next question is why… I don’t think it’s because women are more nervous when it comes to killing a dying relationship (and therefore cheat as a way of speeding things up). In fact, when it comes to breaking up then I think it’s often the woman who ends it. Are women more likely to stay in a dying relationship for the security, but then look for friendship or passion elsewhere, perhaps?
… or, in your experience, do men cheat more? Why do you think that might be?
Post # 3
I didn’t vote because I don’t think either men or women cheat more than the other. I think it’s based on the person, their morals, and a variety of other things. I really don’t think that gender has anything to do with it… IMO any ‘gender based reasoning’ behind if men or women cheat more is purely stereotypical. Personally, I know more men that have cheated than women. To me, that does not mean than overall men are more likely to cheat than women.
Post # 4
I would personally say women are more likely to cheat. I have no hard-fact evidence of this, it’s my knee-jerk reaction. Women are emotional creatures whereas men aren’t, so they’re more likely to seek emotional (and physical) fulfillment when things get a bit awry.
But now that I said that, I’m going to google.
This website has some statistics and articles on the subject and everything seems to be inconclusive. Some people suspect women cheat more — they’re just better at lying and therefore have an easier time covering their tracks, therefore it may not be possible to get an “accurate” stat.
An interesting point.
Post # 5
Honestly I’ve known more women to cheat than men, but not by much. I think it’s about even.
Post # 6
I think it’s about even, but the reasons behind each genders’ cheating patterns are different. It’s one of those things that I don’t think you will ever get an accurate “sample” of.
Post # 7
I know of more instances of men cheating but that dosnt mean I think they are more likely to. I would think it was equal.
Post # 8
@housebee: +1 This matches what studies show. It’s about even (trending slightly to women), with different reasons for the genders.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
I believe studies have found it to be equally common.
Post # 10
I voted women (although I think it is about even). The only reason I voted women was because I feel that in many cases women tend to seek emotion and/or physical comfort outside of their relationship when things begin to hit shaky ground. My ex cheated on me a lot solely because he LIKED to hook up with random women. Maybe thats where the difference is. I think more men cheat based on a physical want whereas women tend to seek out a more relationship ‘type’ affair based more on a personal want/need.
Post # 11
I know tons of men and women who have cheated. The main difference is when the men cheat, the women always find out. When the woman cheats, the man almost never finds out. I had a friend who carried on a month-long relationship with another guy and her boyfriend to this day has no idea. They’re still together! And she doesn’t even feel guilty because her boyfriend had been her only sexual partner and she felt she was missing out on more experience. Women can be pretty awful! haha
Post # 12
This is really hard to answer and I don’t think it’s gender specific. I think it’s person specific. From my own personal experiences, I’ve found men more likely to physically cheat and blame it on not getting it at home, and women more likely to engage in emotional affairs for the same reason. That’s just my own experience though, and I don’t know if that’s typical to what others have seen.
Post # 13
Definitely men. Most men are engineered to react visually. A woman usually has a reason to cheat. We are emotionally centered. A man can feel motivated to cheat simply by visual cues and leave his emotions out of it. IMO, usually when you hear about women you cheat, its because her partner has often stepped out on her or she is totally neglected. For men, it doesn’t have to be that deep.
Post # 14
I didn’t vote because I think it’s equally likely for either sex to cheat
Post # 15
I think both are likely to cheat. Women cheat for different reasons they usually cheat because they want some to pay attention to them, their SO has taken her for granted, or he is cheating on her.
In any unhappy relationship/marriage there is the potential for either one to cheat or both.
Post # 16
Men. Because they naturally have higher sex drives and are less emotional towards sex than women.