Post # 1
Are menu cards really needed? Our guests have to choose their meal ahead of time so they can’t be changing their minds. The coordinator at our venue said it happens every time where people will decide something else sounds better and change their mind.
I feel like not putting a menu card out would help eliminate this problem. But is that rude? Should I provide a menu card?
Guests had to RSVP for Chicken or Fish, and indicate any dietary concerns. For people who are vegetarian they will get a pasta dish. Due to space on the invitation, we only put Chicken or Fish as choices, and if people are vegetarian they can let us know.
If I did do menu cards, would I list all these possibilities? Or just list the Chicken and Fish meals indicated on the invitation? How do I say that this was a pre-selected choice?
Post # 3
I put my menu in my program (I had a several page program). I know when I go, I like to know what I’m eating. Also, I had to use the escort cards to show the wait staff what people ordered, so there was no changing. (Orange- salmon, pink-beef, green-veg)
I’ve also seen people put one menu card on the tables.
Post # 4
Yes, we are required to have place cards or escort cards with their meal choice. that was what prompted the coordinator to mention that even though it’s put there what they ordered, people still tend to ask a server if they can change their choice.
I was thinking if I did a menu card, I’d put it on the table. But is it really necessary is what I’m wondering?
I went to a wedding in June where it was one meal for everyone and I didn’t have a clue what I was eating before hand. I was also at a wedding about a year ago where they had a menu card. So I just don’t know what to do.
Post # 5
menu cards are not neccessary. my friend is printing mine free of charge, otherwise i would not have them. my guests are also selecting their food choice ahead of time. i am using the seating card to indicate to the wait-staff what food choice was selected.
Post # 6
I honeslty couldn’t even tell which weddings I’ve been to that have had them and ones that haven’t. If you have the time & money, and want them, go for it! If not, it isn’t a huge deal.
Post # 7
@MrsGatito: I wouldn’t worry about it unless their easy for you to make. Especially since they already decided what they were ordering. If anyone has food allergies or something, they can just ask the server.
I worried about so many little details right before my weddng and realized how little those things really mattered in the whole scheme of things. when it comes down to it, I think doing less is a good thing!
Post # 8
No not necessary, I’m doing it as part of table decor.
Post # 9
We didn’t have them. It was no big deal. Skip them 🙂
Post # 10
@MrsGatito: Our venue is printing menus and putting them on the tables for us. We are choosing what we want and of course if there are any dietary restrictions than we can let the venue know and an alternative will be provided.
I went to one wedding and didn’t have a clue what I was eating until it was brought to the table. They asked for dietary restrictions but never let us know what we were eating. I wasn’t a fan of that personally. Our old venue told us that they would cook extra of each dish which would cost a little more in the price because they had the issue of brining out something and people changing their minds because something else looked good. (I had to switch my venue as a family member has an allergy to the smell of mushrooms. The venue couldn’t guarantee they wouldn’t be cooking mushrooms that day and the space from the kitchen to dance floor/reception space was too close to risk it)
I would make 1 menu per table (place in a nice frame) so that everyone can at least see your choicies that you made regarding soup/salad, their menu choices Chicken or Fish and than dessert choice so they can see the whole menu and no surprises are to be had. I think if you have already made the arrangements of special dietary restrictions, people would know that just because you write Chicken or Fish on the menu they would be accomodated. Just something to think about 🙂 Sorry so long!!
Post # 11
@MrsGatito: Not necessary! Our guests pre-ordered their meals, and we did not provide a menu. Our guests wit meal restrictions either called the venue before hand or told the servers.
Even at the wedding we just went to, they had really cute menus but after we ordered our main course – they took the menus away. They were on the table for not even 10 minutes max!
Post # 12
Menus are not necessary at all.
Post # 13
@MrsGatito: I don’t think you need them! I’ve only been to one wedding with them, and I didn’t even read the menu. I actually used the menu as a fan because it was a million degrees in there. I don’t think anyone expects menus either! If you really feel like they are needed, I say put one on each table, maybe put it in a little picture frame and set it in the middle of the table so everyone could see what the menu is. I’m not doing menus and our guests won’t have the choice to choose a meal before hand unless they are vegeterians. Our meal is also dual plated, so they get two main courses. Now I’m curious, do guests prefer menus?? I could see how it’s useful but defintley not nessecary!
Side note, do people really ask to change their meal? I have never come across this, probably because I wouldn’t do it, that’s terribly rude of people!! I hope they tell them no!
Post # 14
I had menu cards that provided details of each course, but that is only because we did not offer guests a choice of entree.
We listed our menu in advance on our wedding website and asked guests to e-mail us if they are allergic to shellfish or could not eat beef, since our entree was a combination plate that included both. Anyone could not eat one of the items received a double portion of the other. I learned that I only had one vegetarian, and I inquired as to which vegetarian option he would prefer.
Since you offered your guests a choice of entrees, and your guests have previously made their selections, you may not want to have menu cards at the place settings. The alternative is to have menu cards showing all of the menu items that are common to everyone (salad, soup or other appetizer and dessert) and to list all of the entree options under a heading that reads, “Your Previously Selected Entree” and show the options in detail with the word “or” shown between them.
Post # 15
We did them only because we had stations and passed apps so I wanted everyone to know the options. Since most people reply in advance it is usally just the protein it is a nice touch to let them know what is coming with it….but not needed at all.
Post # 16
I’m so torn! I agree that it’s nice to have. If I decide to go with it, how is this for wording:
Caesar Salad (Venue’s official menu description)
Pre-Selected Entree Choice of:
Stuffed chicken breast with blah blah sauce
Roasted salmon with sauce
Entrees are served with mashed potatoes and broccoli (or whatever veggies)