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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    Dress shopping, talking about cake design (my mom is going to make the cake), etc., my mom seems to want a lot more "fluff" and "bling" than me.  Whether it be sparkles, swirls, etc. She wants sparkle and chiffon and lace on my dress, she wants more flowers on my cake than the pictures I show her and to add designs in the icing, etc.

    It's gotten me second-guessing myself a little. Are my ideas really too "plain"? I don't think they are... My wedding goal is tropical and modern.

    The current version of my inspiration board:

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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    First-- who cares? If YOU like it that is what matters right? 

    And Second--- why are you automatically wrong and she is automatically right? Maybe her ideas are too much? :) Rather than plain maybe reframe your ideas as "sleek, chic, streamlined"

     
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    jenbrandner    Aug 7, 2010   Wisconsin

    I think your style is great!  It's actually just a tad froofier than mine if you can believe it - I refused to have any flowers at all on my cake.

    My mom also prefers more froofy stuff than I do.  That's just a difference in personal style, and has nothing to do with what you're "supposed" to have in a wedding.  Tell your mom that while you appreciate her input, you want your wedding to be a reflection of who you are as a person, not who your mom is.  Perhaps your mom hasn't seen a whole lot of the simple modern styles yet... maybe she just has to get used to seeing chic cakes!

     
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    jamiemichelle    October 16, 2010   North Carolina

    I prefer the word clean...

    I think it looks great!!!

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    "Sleek", "chic", "streamlined", "clean", I'll try those buzz-words at her. :)

    I think it would be easier if she acknowledged we have different styles. Any time I say that our tastes are a different, she says something like "our tastes aren't that different!". Or if I say "that's more your style than my style", she'll just say "it's your style!". (Our styles are hugely different, she likes antiques and english gardens and very classic stuff.)

     
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    jaylii9    September 5, 2010  

    I like your inspiration board a lot! Also, this wedding should be a reflection of what you and FI like and want, not anybody else!

    My Mom has been the same way at times. When I told her that my colors are chocolate brown and champagne with ivory and peach accents she said "hmmm, that's a very, um, natural color palette" Thanks, Mom! I think she was also a bit sad when I told her that the bridesmaids dresses were from jcrew. Yup, they are modern and dark brown. No pepto bismol colored dresses for me, thanks.

    Follow what you want to do and your wedding will turn out beautifully! 

     
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    fitzly      

    I hear "why aren't you having more bling/sparkles alot?" I got really frustrated at one person and said "Do I own ANYTHING with sparkles?" She blinked for a minute and admitted I didn't. Stick to YOUR style. I think your inspriration board is clean (like that word, too!) simple, elegant, and will let you and your FI shine!

     
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    Curlysue    June 5, 2009  

    Your mother sounds like mine, but mine tells me that I don't need to "do all that becuase no one will notice"...well, thanks, but I like to make paper goods so I want to make cute little signs for the food and drinks :p

    Sorry your mom is giving you a hard time.  Honestly, I think your board is awesome and I agree with what another girl said, it's clean, it's not cluttered it's not overpowering and if it's YOU and your FI then by all means do it.

    Are you getting married in KC or somewhere else?

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    It really does look great!

     
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    twalila    May 2010   Ohio

    My mom wanted and keep pushing more bling and lace and sparkle and EVERYTHING, and I wanted simple.  Your Mikaella dress was actually my 2nd choice!

    For me, it was that I'm the first to get married, and my mom has had almost 30 yrs to dream and design and redesign my wedding.  She was really SUPEr excited and just wanted more & more and bigger & better.  Because we paid for everything ourselves, the final say was ours alone, and we did keep it very clean and simple.  And my mom LOVED it!  She thought everyhting was beautiful and perfect and was impressed that we pulled it all together ourselves.  I would just stick to your guns.  Odds are she's just really excited - which is a GOOD thing!

     
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    Uskadelig    August 28, 2010   Houston, TX

    My mom did the same thing! I want everything to be really simple and elegant, not loud and bling-y. Just drop in the word timeless here and there. People think i'm boring because I refused to have a wedding color... I want everything to be muted, creams, soft browns, really pale colors. For some reason the fact that I didn't choose neon pink to be my wedding color really seemed to alarm a lot of folks. Weird.

     
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    crissycakes    May 2010   MD

    I love it! and i LOVE that green and white bridesmaid's dress.  I think the key is using those keywords like you said. 

    I also found that if I showed my mom or family pictures of what I like I would show them and say "This is what I want." or "This is the look I'm going for." as opposed to showing pics then asking "what do you think"  After a while, their overwhelming desire to help would sneak in and they would start finding things more along with my vision.

    Good luck!

     
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    DanielleZara    August 21, 2010   California

    It's not plain at all. What your mom is decribing is probably just her style. I think you have a lot of good style goin on.

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    @Curlysue  - I'm getting married in Florida, but the reception will be in Kansas City.

     
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    jaglynn17    July 2, 2011   Westlake, CA

    Beautiful! Just as we visualize our weddings as little girls, our moms do the same. Just take her suggestions with a grain of salt. My mom keeps making me put on big princess gowns bc "thats what I always thought you would wear." I know when it all comes together you mom will be very happy for you and understand your vision. 

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    it should be about what u want... no matter how much u love ur mom.. its ur wedding not hers so it should reflect ur tastes

     

     
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    kkkatieB12       Mobile, AL

    It looks fine to me. People have different tastes. If it feels good for you, that's what matters. Some people like alot of bling and froufrou, others like simple, streamlined, and modern.

     
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    ktbrady    October 29, 2011   North Carolina

    hahahaha.  "Our tastes aren't that different."

    I went shopping with a friend the other day and she said "I think this [bright blue bedazzled] purse is so you!" I was like "uh, it's a little much for me!" And she's like "No, it screams YOU!"This went on and on until I literally distracted her with a kate spade wallet on sale.

    I love your board. Keep it real girl!

     

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    I love your inspiration board! IT is so beautiful and romantic and beachy!! Do what YOU want to do - it is your wedding and your vision!

     
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    Mamasita2004    February 12, 2011   Texas

    @Uskadelig: Same here.  People do not know what to do, because I am sticking with white, black, and kraft.  Plus, I tend to have a rustic modern style, and this does not fit in with the huge arrangements they are used to seeing at weddings. 

     

     

    @abbyful:  Your board looks adorable.  I would stick with it.  I started second guessing myself too, because my style was not fitting in the normal hotel/country club weddings our families were used to.  However, we are sticking to what works best for us.  Since we made that decision, things have been way less stressful.

     
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    vtouchet    December 10, 2010   Louisiana

    My mom is being the same exact way!!  Every cake, flower arrangement and flower color I show her, she'll say, "Why don't you want any color?"  UGH! lol  But to me white, cream, blush pink, and light green are ELEGANT and that's probably what you have in mind for...and I agree with Uskadelia..my mom and others are freaking out because I don't want this "bright" color...to me that's tacky!  I'll never forget my friend's wedding...her bridesmaid's dresses were HOT PINK lol

     

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