(Closed) Are People Inviting Themselves to Your Wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I just said “yeah, okay…” and then didn’t send an invite.

Post # 5
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mslilacbride: Hi love!

*hugs* It happens. People love weddings and free food hahahaha. Just let them know that due to seating limits you are at your max and you hope they understand. I too have had random people ask for invites, like a cousin of a cousin who was mean to me as a child and random people at church whom I barely know.

I have been on weddingbee for a year and here are some tips I’ve gotten from reading responses.

1-Make the RSVP read “We have ____ seats reserved for ______” and fill in names. If anyone tries to correct it call them ASAP and let them know you can not accomidate that.

2-Have a seating chart and hostess to allow only those who RSVPed into the reception.

Do not be afriad to people because they will try to bully you into invites. My cousin had someone call her who say her annoucement in the paper demanding an invite. I have had cousins I have not seen in 15 years calling. I explained our guest list has been decided on and we appreciate their happiness for us.

Good luck!!

Post # 6
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

While we are not going to send out the invitations for another 10 months or so, I like to make it a point to not talk about the wedding planning process to people who I’m not planning on inviting. I have people in my department talking to me about wedding stuff and asking about invites and I just laugh and tell them I don’t even have the invitations made yet. 

Post # 7
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We just say that we are only inviting close family and friends as there isn’t enough room to invite everyone… (which is MOSTLY true)

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