Post # 1
Well, time is drawing near to send out invites. I am just surprised, to say the least, that people, who you are not thinking of inviting, will tell you “don’t forget to send me an invite!” I mean, what is that? I would never dream of asking someone to send me an invitation to their wedding. Some of my co-workers have done this, and friends of friends have done this. I admit, the co-worker situation can be a little sticky, but friends of friends?!! My FH and I were walking in the mall and a young lady (who I met through a friend of mine) stopped me and told me that she has not gotten an invitation yet. I told her that I haven’t mailed them out yet. She said, “well, don’t forget to send me one. You don’t have to waste paper on me. You can send it via FB or whatever.” I hope my mouth didn’t drop right there in front of her.
If you have been in this type of situation, what have you done or said? (I could not invite them if I wanted to. The venue holds 190, and between my mom, fiance’s, and my guest list, we have 198 guests. My mom refuses to cut (she has 88 of those guests), so we are at a stand still. I’m just praying that we don’t get over 190 RSVP’s back.)
Post # 3
I just said “yeah, okay…” and then didn’t send an invite.
Post # 4
@missrobots: Did they say anything after they didn’t get one?
Post # 5
@mslilacbride: Hi love!
*hugs* It happens. People love weddings and free food hahahaha. Just let them know that due to seating limits you are at your max and you hope they understand. I too have had random people ask for invites, like a cousin of a cousin who was mean to me as a child and random people at church whom I barely know.
I have been on weddingbee for a year and here are some tips I’ve gotten from reading responses.
1-Make the RSVP read “We have ____ seats reserved for ______” and fill in names. If anyone tries to correct it call them ASAP and let them know you can not accomidate that.
2-Have a seating chart and hostess to allow only those who RSVPed into the reception.
Do not be afriad to people because they will try to bully you into invites. My cousin had someone call her who say her annoucement in the paper demanding an invite. I have had cousins I have not seen in 15 years calling. I explained our guest list has been decided on and we appreciate their happiness for us.
Post # 6
While we are not going to send out the invitations for another 10 months or so, I like to make it a point to not talk about the wedding planning process to people who I’m not planning on inviting. I have people in my department talking to me about wedding stuff and asking about invites and I just laugh and tell them I don’t even have the invitations made yet.
Post # 7
We just say that we are only inviting close family and friends as there isn’t enough room to invite everyone… (which is MOSTLY true)