Weddingbee boards

So FI and I have had some "issues" with his brother and his wife. Don't get me wrong, I like his brother and have no issues with him for the most part. I just don't understand how he can function everyday.

I sent out our rehearsal dinner invites last Friday. FI called his brother today to make sure he got. The invite was addressed to FI's brother and wife. Pretty clear who's invited right?  Well he asks if his wife can come. Um yea, DUH! Then he asks what time he should be there. It's on the invite. FI reminded him to not be late. He showed up over 2 hours late at every holiday because of his wife. He asks FI if he should wear his tux? Really? No. Dress nice though, we are in a church. He asks how long it will take. As long as it takes. We are eating afterwards and setting up reception. 

I mean, seriously, how stupid.  He did this same crap to FI over the whole bachelor party. He texted or called FI at least 5 times a day for 2 months about the party and complaining that people weren't calling him back or so and so wasn't coming or this person couldn't pay up front. 

I want to smack my head against the wall. FI's brother owns his own business and that scares me. If he is so unorganized in his life how can he run a successful business?? Oh right, he can't!

Sorry, I just have to vent. This is also the same brother's wife who wants to invite her friends to the wedding because she won't know anyone there. Stay home then. I had been nice and invited her to have her hair done with the BM's and I the morning of the wedding and she declined. Then FI's brother complained about it and that I didn't call her again and ask her. Last I checked, it's me and FI's day. They had their wedding 4 years ago and I didn't get invited to the rehearsal and didn't get invited to have my hair done. FI still took me to the rehearsal and FI's brother's wife made a point to tell FI and I that wasn't allowed to eat because they aren't paying for it. If I wanted something I would have to pay for it.

I do take some sheer satisfaction that our wedding will be a thousand times better. I have included the little meaningful touches they didn't.  A family table for both families, a note in the programs thanking our families and remembering deceased grandparents. 

Well,no offense, but it sounds like future bil/sil are a little classless and lacking in some common sense and social graces.......  

Perhaps they have not attended many weddings or just don't know the protocol....that sounds so stuffy, but you know what I mean.  Don't let them get to you.  You invitedher to have her hair done and she declined....that's sufficient.  She isn't hosting the wedding, so she certainly does not get to make her own guest list........

@Maggie Mae: It was huge drama when we said no we aren't inviting her friends. FI's brother didn't talk to him for months! Luckily I smoothed everything over between them and he saw our point of view.  His wife is just awful. She whined to FI's brother about my bachlorette party and how she didn't think she was getting invited when the invites hadn't even been sent yet. Then when she gets an invite, she says she already made plans with her friends.

@mrskisstobe: Lol. she sounds like a crazy woman.  Or just child like, immature and spoiled......all because she isn't getting her way.  Sorry, that sucks!!!!!!!!

They sound.... special.

@Maggie Mae: She is something else. She got involved in the bachelor party planning and started texting and calling my FI and saying that he should really call his brother and tell him how good of job he's doing and all this other crap. Then she proceeds to tell FI that they are having financial issues and the very next day she bought 2 pairs of Doc Martens and clothes from Michael Kors. 

While all the drama was going on between FI and his brother because of her, she went to FI's ex girlfriend and told her that FI made a mistake letting her go and she thinks he is still not over her and all this other crap.

This girl is lucky to be invited to the wedding is all I have to say!

@Miss Lilac: Yea, they are special alright!  They both make me wonder how they manage to survive.

@mrskisstobe:  Well, on one hand, you invited her but it's no loss she won't be there :P

I'd just try to take solace in the fact you will probably only have to intereact with them on holidays, after the wedding, and try not to expect too much of them - they don't seem to be capable adults, so don't treat tham as such, or expect adult behavior.  Kill them with kindness, so you are blameless, and face palm later, when it's just you and your FI. :)

@Isilme: That's pretty much what FI and I talked about last night. His brother has caused so much stress and drama it's ridiculous.  I hope and pray for FI's sake that they are on time for both the rehearsal and the day of the wedding. I even included an itinerary with highlighted times for him to be there.

@Zinzerena: HAHA! I seriously contemplated doing that, but then if they said anything to FI's parents about the time, they would have figured it out.

FI and I already agreed that if they aren't there by 6:15 we are starting without him. We are not pushing back our things we need to do just because they can't get their sh** together and be on time for once. And if his brother is late the day of the wedding, he just won't be in any pictures. FI is in total agreement.

@tracylesq: Yea, FI's brother is younger and got married 4 years ago. FI was his best man and when all this drama was going on, his brother told FI that he didnt' even want him as best man but had to. Nice, huh?   His brother's wife is the worst person in the world. She has called FI's mom a b**** several times, said she was going to punch her and all this other crap. Then expects FI's mom to take her to work, watch their dog and other stuff. FI said that after the wedding he doesn't care if he ever talks to his brother again.

Oh, this is also the same girl who bought a dress with SKULLS on it and is planning on wearing to FI and I's wedding. Yep, you heard me right! SKULLS! When she told me what she bought, I just looked at her in disbelief and walked away.  I couldn't even come up with something to say. Who does that! Who has the brass balls to wear a dress with skulls on it to a wedding. Especially the wife of the best man/brother of groom! You effing kidding me! Some people's kids, I swear!

@kperry3: She will know FI's whole family, the problem is, none of them like her. She has been so rude to the entire family that no one wants to talk to her. They are only nice to her because of FI's brother.

It's YOUR day and the best revenge you can have on their craziness is to enjoy every second of it and forget about them. So sorry you have to deal with this though!

@soccergurl: We aren't really doing anything spectacular. The family tables will have the same decor as the other tables but each will have a sign on the saying resereved for my family and one for FI's family.

@tntrav44: That's what FI and I wonder everyday:)  She is just a nutso!  FI and I have already informed our photographer that she will not be in any pictures. Sorry, but if she is wearing a dress with skulls on it to mine and FI's wedding then I don't want to have that photographed. FI is secretly hoping she doesn't even show up since her friends aren't invited.