- 4 years ago
SO and I were talking about having kids (or rather, not having them). Keep in mind we’re both young, so our priorities and desires may change when we hit our thirties. We’re both very family-oriented and we’ve always thought we’d have kids, but we’re thinking about not having them. It seems there are just too many things that go wrong, and we can’t imagine our marriage would be as good with kids! So for those of you with kids, let us know (honestly) if kids affected you in the following ways:
1.) Did kids ruin the marriage or at least make it harder? Were you having sex less frequently, spending less time together etc?
2.) Did having kids make you less sexy to each other? Did you become just “a mom” instead of a wife/lover etc?
3.) Did having kids ruin your body, and make your body look in a way that was much worse than it looked before kids? (fat stomach that doesn’t go away, saggy breasts etc) or were you able to bounce back to (basically) the same as your pre-baby body? Did you get more of a ruler shape after giving birth or were you able to keep a curvier waist?
4.) Did your husband start spending more time with friends to avoid coming home?
5.) Did you have a lot more financial stress?
6.) Did you or your H feel more inclined to cheat?
I hate to sound so cynical but I feel like I’ve always wanted kids…and now I’m thinking of all the various reasons I might be miserable if I do. This is such a big decision so I’d love some honest input.