Post # 1
Hi Bees. The other day I went shopping with my bridesmaids and bought their dresses. The dresses are beautiful–long and red. I told me future Mother-In-Law about them and when I told her they were red she was a bit taken back and said it should just be the bride who wears red. I’m not sure what to do. Is red ok? I have a red qipao that I will wear later in the evening and a white western dress for the rest of the day. The dresses are already ordered and paid for. I’m not sure what to do. Thoughts?
Post # 3
Im a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a friends wedding and we have red and black dresses. I have seen red dresses many times, I don’t know where she came up with that one. Brides wear white 97% of the time, and THE BRIDE CAN PICK ANY COLOR FOR HER BMS
its your wedding, not anyone else’s (except for your future hubby)lol
Post # 4
I forgot what culture uses red wedding gowns because white is for funerals but to answer your question I can see why shed be shock, I think as long as YOU stand our a lot more than they do.
None the less its your day and you can do as you please
Post # 5
Agreed with Liss23, but I’m not sure about the culture thing…
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Post # 7
I just noticed she posted this in East Asian, so I guess thats where its from lol
Post # 8
@happydays: I’m Taiwanese but moved to the US, so pretty much westernized, but I understand where the Mother-In-Law is coming from. In Chinese culture red is the color for the bride (and yes, traditionally white is for funerals), but for me personally I think it’s fine as long as the bridesmaid dresses aren’t too fancy to “compete” against the bride. I’m actually going to do the same for my bridesmaids actually–not the traditional bright red per se, but a wine red taffeta that has a sheen of brown depending on how the light hits it. 🙂
However I did go to one asian/american wedding where one of the guests (the bride’s aunt not less!) showed up in a pretty fancy red qipao—that to me was a big no, no and I thought that the aunt should reallly have known better than to do that. (The bride wore a white wedding gown for the ceremony, then changed into a beautiful red/gold qipao in the middle of the reception, btw). On a tangent, it’s interesting in some Taiwanese weddings I went to both the bride and bridesmaids wore white, but the bridesmaids’ dresses were very simple, versus the bride’s was super fancy and she was completely styled up.
In short, I personally think it’s okay for the bridal party to wear shades of red (simple styled gowns though). But if a female guest shows up wearing a fancy, red dress, then I’ll probably take exception with that.
Hope this helps! 🙂