(Closed) are registry cards ok for shower invites??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: should registry cards be sent with shower invatations?
    Yes : (31 votes)
    74 %
    No : (7 votes)
    17 %
    showers are gift grabs & i disapprove of them in general : (0 votes)
    i don't know, but voting makes me feel good : (4 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The hostesses for my shower put the registry info on the shower invitation, that’s what I’ve seen for most shower invitations I’ve received. Since showers are primarily for gift giving, people do need to know where you’re registered unless you want to end up with a bunch of random frames and platters! 🙂 I wouldn’t stick them in for a formal invitation, but I think it’s perfectly fine on a shower invite.

    Post # 4
    Member
    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think the cards or ok but putting the registry info on the invite takes care of it too.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I think everyone knows that the point of the shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts. We didn’t include the actual cards, but we put right on the shower invitation where I’m registered.

    Post # 6
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    3257 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    lol at the last option in your poll…

    The shower invites are the one place other than your wedding website that IS acceptable to mention gifts. I’ve never heard of anyone thinking it’s tacky on a shower invite, just on the actual wedding invitation…

    Post # 7
    Member
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My MOH included where I was registered on my invitations and thats how Ive seen it done with other showers too

    Post # 8
    Member
    10563 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I prefer it when the host makes the cards themselves, or even includes it on the invitation itself, but the store cards are fine too, they just seem a little impersonal.  I think the registry info should be included with a shower invitation.

    I love your last option in the poll!

    Post # 10
    Member
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t think including the registry info with the shower invites is tacky at all. I’ve either enclosed the registry cards or printed the registry info on the invite for every shower I’ve hosted. The guests need to know where you’re registered so they can buy your goodies!

    Post # 11
    Member
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    For my sister’s bridal shower, I put the registry information directly on the front of the invitation, rather than use the cards given by the stores.  She did the same for mine.  I don’t think it’s tacky at all.  I think it’s pretty common and most guests like to know the registry information.  I’d say bridal shower invitations and website are the only places to put that information.

    Post # 12
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    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    @MrsE.ToBe :

    Okay, I am a nay-voter, and I will explain why.

    Showers actually are not so much about gifts, as they are (if you believe the testimony of this site’s posters in the response to a “confused English girl”) about companionship and sharing with the company of other women. True enough, that the featured entertainment at a shower is watching other people’s gifts being unwrapped. But, precisely because the gifts *are* being disclosed in so public a manner, good taste demands that they be kept relatively minor and non-ostentatious, as is consistent with the traditional shower goal of providing the bride with a basic inventory of start-up housewares.

    Registries on the other hand, are about maintaining records of the fine heirlooms that you plan to acquire over the course of your marriage in order to fulfill your duty of offering gracious hospitality in your home. It is not the place to be listing clothespins and paring knives and other such shower-appropriate goods.

    So, by including registry cards in a shower invitation, the shower hostess is either encouraging guests to one-up one another with shower gifts of the ostentatious variety, or implying that they cannot be trusted to select candy thermometers or  pizza cutters without the bride’s tasteful good guidance.

    Post # 13
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    lol…I didn’t vote for it, but I totally loved the last poll option!

    Post # 14
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    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Ostentatious?  Let’s all breathe.

    Bridal showers and baby showers are the ONLY invitations okay to include registry information.  I’ve seen gift registries for kid’s birthday parties lately.  Ick.  What are you teaching your child?

    Post # 15
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    352 posts
    Helper bee

    Agree with PP’s. It is definitely ok (and actually required IMO) to include the registry info in the shower invite. The registry card will not be included in mt shower invitation, but the registry number will be wirtten on the invitation itself. But I will not be including them in the formal wedding invitation.

    Post # 16
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    5755 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @aspasia475: With all due respect, I believe that not many people see things as you do, especially in today’s world. Our relaxed society seems to employ most things with regard to weddings as they have been raised, tho I wish it were different. I am guilty of buying,for showers, way more than the ‘norm’, and my generosity has never been questioned.

    For my own shower, getting a hand embroidered set of tea towels from my Aunt was a victory,as she rarely gave more than a set of measuring spoons and cups. 🙂 One small gift was normal from guests, but my own Mother gave me several more expensive items. As a Mother, I’ve done the same, but wouldn’t consider it ostentatious.

    Not many people are investing in heirloom quality items these days, and what a shame that is.

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