Post # 1
so i know it’s not ok for wedding invites to include those registry cards the stores give you, but is it ok for FMIL to include them with the shower invites? showers revolve around gifts, so it seems like it makes sense to add them (the cards, not written on the invite) & i thought it was fine, but i just read on another site that a lot of people think it’s tacky.
will you be giving them to shower hostess to add to invites? as a guest, would you care either way if they were there? i’m supposed to give FMIL all of the addresses for shower guest this wk end & thought i’d give her the cards, but i don’t want to be rude=/
Post # 3
The hostesses for my shower put the registry info on the shower invitation, that’s what I’ve seen for most shower invitations I’ve received. Since showers are primarily for gift giving, people do need to know where you’re registered unless you want to end up with a bunch of random frames and platters! 🙂 I wouldn’t stick them in for a formal invitation, but I think it’s perfectly fine on a shower invite.
Post # 4
I think the cards or ok but putting the registry info on the invite takes care of it too.
Post # 5
I think everyone knows that the point of the shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts. We didn’t include the actual cards, but we put right on the shower invitation where I’m registered.
Post # 6
lol at the last option in your poll…
The shower invites are the one place other than your wedding website that IS acceptable to mention gifts. I’ve never heard of anyone thinking it’s tacky on a shower invite, just on the actual wedding invitation…
Post # 7
My MOH included where I was registered on my invitations and thats how Ive seen it done with other showers too
Post # 8
I prefer it when the host makes the cards themselves, or even includes it on the invitation itself, but the store cards are fine too, they just seem a little impersonal. I think the registry info should be included with a shower invitation.
I love your last option in the poll!
Post # 9
sounds like most people are ok with it. for those that voted ‘no’, i’d be interested to hear your thoughts on why. thanks!
Post # 10
I don’t think including the registry info with the shower invites is tacky at all. I’ve either enclosed the registry cards or printed the registry info on the invite for every shower I’ve hosted. The guests need to know where you’re registered so they can buy your goodies!
Post # 11
For my sister’s bridal shower, I put the registry information directly on the front of the invitation, rather than use the cards given by the stores. She did the same for mine. I don’t think it’s tacky at all. I think it’s pretty common and most guests like to know the registry information. I’d say bridal shower invitations and website are the only places to put that information.
Post # 12
Okay, I am a nay-voter, and I will explain why.
Showers actually are not so much about gifts, as they are (if you believe the testimony of this site’s posters in the response to a “confused English girl”) about companionship and sharing with the company of other women. True enough, that the featured entertainment at a shower is watching other people’s gifts being unwrapped. But, precisely because the gifts *are* being disclosed in so public a manner, good taste demands that they be kept relatively minor and non-ostentatious, as is consistent with the traditional shower goal of providing the bride with a basic inventory of start-up housewares.
Registries on the other hand, are about maintaining records of the fine heirlooms that you plan to acquire over the course of your marriage in order to fulfill your duty of offering gracious hospitality in your home. It is not the place to be listing clothespins and paring knives and other such shower-appropriate goods.
So, by including registry cards in a shower invitation, the shower hostess is either encouraging guests to one-up one another with shower gifts of the ostentatious variety, or implying that they cannot be trusted to select candy thermometers or pizza cutters without the bride’s tasteful good guidance.
Post # 13
lol…I didn’t vote for it, but I totally loved the last poll option!
Post # 14
Ostentatious? Let’s all breathe.
Bridal showers and baby showers are the ONLY invitations okay to include registry information. I’ve seen gift registries for kid’s birthday parties lately. Ick. What are you teaching your child?
Post # 15
Agree with PP’s. It is definitely ok (and actually required IMO) to include the registry info in the shower invite. The registry card will not be included in mt shower invitation, but the registry number will be wirtten on the invitation itself. But I will not be including them in the formal wedding invitation.
Post # 16
@aspasia475: With all due respect, I believe that not many people see things as you do, especially in today’s world. Our relaxed society seems to employ most things with regard to weddings as they have been raised, tho I wish it were different. I am guilty of buying,for showers, way more than the ‘norm’, and my generosity has never been questioned.
For my own shower, getting a hand embroidered set of tea towels from my Aunt was a victory,as she rarely gave more than a set of measuring spoons and cups. 🙂 One small gift was normal from guests, but my own Mother gave me several more expensive items. As a Mother, I’ve done the same, but wouldn’t consider it ostentatious.
Not many people are investing in heirloom quality items these days, and what a shame that is.