Are "Save the Date" & "Invitations" the same thing?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

KatFishWedding:  No, they are not the same.

Save the dates should be sent out a year to six months in advance of the wedding. They need only include the date and the city that the wedding will take place. It is nice to also include the wedding website so that people can get information on accommodations and travel ahead of time. These are very useful for people who will be travelling to the wedding.

Invitations should be sent 6-8 weeks ahead of the wedding at a minimum. Some people send them a bit earlier, especially if there are international invitations or other considerations to take into account. Invitations include all of the information.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

KatFishWedding:  Save the Dates also do not need to be sent to EVERYONE you will be inviting, just those that you think need a longer heads-up or those who you know you definitely want and will have room for at the wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I will mention that you also don’t HAVE to send save the dates. Unless you are having a destination wedding, I personally don’t think they’re that necessary. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

KatFishWedding:  Save the Dates are optional, and you need to have your guest list completely finalized before you send them out. Once you tell someone to save the date, you can’t later say “yikes, I can’t invite this person after all because I can’t afford it/venue can’t hold this many people/want to invite more friends instead/etc….” That is why a lot of people only send them to their VIPS and/or people who will be travelling and need extra time to plan the trip. So realize that if you send save the dates, anyone who gets one must also get an invitation when those go out.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Save the Dates are more of a heads up to your guests to save that date, or keep it open for your wedding. I never sent those out, as I didn’t feel the need (we told people who asked, and told people that were coming from WAY out of town)… but would have maybe 8 months before or so. They just add to the costs, and are not necessarily needed.

We sent our invitations out 2 months and a couple weeks before our wedding, with a RSVP date of a month before the wedding date.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Save the Dates are also good if you’re having your wedding near a holiday. Then guests won’t make their own holiday plans.

Save the Dates typically just state the date and town/city. You don’t have to list the time or the actual venue or any other information.

I’d say Save the Dates can be sent out 6-8 months ahead and Invites are 6-8 weeks ahead.

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