(Closed) Are Save the Dates necessary?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I am a WAY budget bride, so I’d say no, but if you have the money to spend, especially if it’s on a holiday weekend or something, go for it.  To me it’s a waste of money and paper, but to each their own.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have to say no since I’m not sending them!  I’m only having about 85 people though and most of them I have already told…

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No definitely not!  I was under the impression that save-the-dates were relatively recent developments in the wedding industry.  We are sending some, but mostly just because we’re having a super long engagement, had a little extra money, and, well, just wanted to, I guess.  But a friend of mine who got married last year was wondering the same thing, but basically we determined that anyone who needs to know well in advance (people from out-of-town, mostly) already knew the date.  

That said, you might want to consider them if you’re getting married on a busy weekend (Memorial Day, Labor Day, etc.).  I see you’re getting married in late September, though, so you should be fine!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did them because 90% of our guests are traveling and we live in a touristy town, people need to make plans ahead of time to get here.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I say no unless you are getting married on an off day (during the week) or a holiday weekend.

Post # 8
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Wannabee

Personally, I do not think a Save The Date is NECESSARY.  It’s great if you can send them, but completely OPTIONAL.  If the people you are inviting to your wedding are going to be travelling from out of town, they need time to make arrangements.  Consider your specific group of invites…are your out of towners going to be driving in–they only need hotel accomodations OR are your guests far enough that they will need to fly?  As long as they know when the event is and have enough info to make reservations for travel, then no worries.  If you want the Save the Date for the purpose of having people add your wedding to the books first, maybe just send invites out at 8 weeks before the event.  (8 weeks is still early enough to make travel plans too!)  Bottom line–do what makes you feel most comfortable!  Don’t feel obligated to send Save the Dates just because it seems like “the thing to do”.  Best of luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I didn’t send them. I just didn’t see the point of the added expense.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am sending them out, but only because our wedding date is right after July 4, so we don’t want people to plan vacations then and miss our wedding!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Don’t forget, a STD can be as easy as a group e-mail. I originally liked the idea of doing it so that I could get addresses early and make sure they were all correct and give everyone a clue to them being invited but in reality I just didn’t end up with the time so we just told family and very close friends by word of mouth.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did them because about 75% of people invited will have to travel and the weekend of our wedding there is a huge car show in my city which causes all the hotels to book up completely, so I wanted to make sure they had lodging information as early as possible. I don’t think they are necessary in all instances, but there are definitely situations when they become very helpful.

I also liked being able to get addresses nailed down early. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do not feel that STDs are NECESSARY.  But, if you have many guests traveling from out of town, it will allow them to make firm travel plans…

For example, one of my friends from college didn’t send out STDs so FI and I weren’t totally sure if we’d get invited until we got an invite in the mail 2 mo prior, which was too late for us to find cheap flights so we ended up driving 8+ hours. 

But, now you can send STDs via an email ( I think knot has some “designs”), which is an option too!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we’re sending save the dates out because we have lots of out of towners–it tells them about our website, which has the info about the hotels where we have guest blocks. my family likes to make travel plans early. plus, a lot of them are people we aren’t in email contact with. i’d guess most already have heard about our wedding, but we want to make sure they know they’re invited and have the website written down somewhere

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Not necessary, but could he helpful if you have a large OOT guestlist, getting married during a holiday weekend or on a Fri/Sun. Our STD had our website info which had details about hotels and flights….very helpful to our guests whom are not familiar with the area

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

The only reason I did save-the-dates is because I had a destination wedding and I wanted to give people plenty of time to make travel arrangements. But in the end, most people made those arrangements last minute anyway. And some people confused them with actual invitiations and tried to rsvp right away. On the other hand, I know for me, I spent a whole lot of time setting up a website with tons of location info (hotels, sites, etc.) and almost none of my guests used it. So as nice as wedding websites can be, I’m not sure they are the best way to share info – I just ended up having to regive a lot of that info in person.

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