Post # 1
I’ve been married for over a year and a half now (wow!) but I’ve noticed that in the past six months, everyone that I know that’s gotten engaged has had an engagement of 8 months or less. Some have been as short as 3 or 4 months! These are not “shotgun weddings” or anything like that. I even have noticed a couple celebrities getting married quickly recently.
So are short engagements “in vogue” now, or what?
Post # 3
I’ve noticed this, too. Ours is fairly normal, I think — 10 months — but I know a lot of people doing more casual, small weddings, at restaurants and the like, that don’t require booking far out. Maybe that’s why?
Post # 4
We are having a short engagement (7 months) for a few reasons
1) we have been together for many years and there is no need to wait
2) I wanted to get married on our anniversay and I wasn’t waiting until 2013 to do it
3) I don’t think you need a full year (or more) to plan a wedding.
Post # 5
Ours was 9 months. Honestly I wouldn’t have dragged it out any longer. By the end, I was so tired of thinking/talking about it and planning it.
Post # 6
I know about a dozen girls who got engaged within the last few months and most are having an engagment of about 1-1.5 years. I only know one girl who got engaged recently who wants to have a 6 month engagment.
Not sure if it’s a trend really, but maybe these girls are getting engaged in the fall/winter and want a spring/summer wedding without waiting over a year?
Post # 7
We were engaged for about a year. I wish it was shorter, but we got engaged in May and I wanted a summer wedding and didn’t think it was feasible to plan that fast (especially since I wanted a destination wedding). We could have easily planned it in 4-6 months though, but 2-3 would have been pushing it.
Post # 8
I had a 7 month engagment – It would have been longer but we had to plan around my brothers deployment. it was either 7 months or 14 months – we didnt want to wait a year to get married.
I dont know if its a “thing” to have a short engagement but it like Rascal Flatts says “why wait?”
Post # 9
Yes. I’ve noticed the “courting” and weddings have been quick since the economy has been crappy. I have to say, some folks that I’ve talked, say they also made the process fast so you eliminate unnecessary spending. It makes you focus on what is important and how you really want to focus your ceremony on the couple not items for pleasure.
Post # 10
I think people are now together longer and living together in a way they weren’t. Most people I know have a 12-18 month engagement but SO and I have discussed that when we get engaged it will be with a view to getting married as soon as. I know of one couple who were together only a few weeks when they got engaged and then spent 2 years planning their wedding, that seems a bit odd to me.
@Mrs. Fireworks: Your spring/summer wedding thing makes sense.
Post # 11
My Fiance and I have a long engagement (22 months, due to him being in grad school in another state). We’ve even said that ours would never have been this long if he would have been in town for school. We just went to a wedding reception where the bride and groom hadn’t known each other a year prior to their wedding date (in their church, it’s very common for dating a short amount of time and having a quick engagement). Most of my friends have fallen into the eight months to a year and a half time frame. One of my friends was engaged for two years, just like my Fiance and I. I think it all depends on the area you live in and your “must haves” for a wedding.
Post # 12
Well my Fiance proposed to me Dec. 24th and he would like to have been married yesterday hehe… I wouldn’t mind this Summer, but my brother is getting married so we’re waiting til 2013.
I know a lot of people who set a date 18 months to 2 years in advance then all the sudden I see on FB that they bagged the wedding and went to the courthouse after a few months of being engaged.
Post # 13
Our’s will be 16 months. We did this for two reasons. First, we want to pay for the majority of wedding costs ourselves, so this gives us plenty of time to spare. Second, because I didn’t want to rush it! We’re (hopefully) only going to be engaged and planning a wedding one time in our lifetime, so we didn’t see the point in getting it over too quickly!
Post # 14
I don’t think it is becoming a trend or more popular to have a short engagement – but I do think it is becoming more popular to have the wedding you want. There isn’t a “standard form” for weddings anymore so couples are choosing what’s right for them. Fiance and I are having a long engagment. FI’s cousin just got engaged at the beginning of this month and they are planning a wedding for Feb. I think you might just notice the shorter engagements because of your own wedding planning.
Post # 15
All of our friends have had 7-14 month engagements. Ours is 10. I wish it was shorter, but then we wouldnt be able to have a bachelor/bachelorette party and the bridal shower because of short notice on out of town close friends. I feel like 10 months is wayyy too long. We got engaged at the end of October. By the end of November, I finished about 75% of planning based on the knot.com checklist. We considered a 7 month proposal, but every single weekend in May is already booked for friends’ weddings who had 10 month proposals.
Post # 16
We are having an 8 month engagement. I can’t imagine it being any longer, all of our planning is already finished!