Post # 1
My dress consultant has told me, in no uncertain terms, that there are two rules one must follow when choosing a wedding dress.
1. For a morning wedding, beading is considered "tacky" (her word, not mine…)
2. For an outdoors ceremony one should have a plain dress without embellishment.
I am curious, do people follow these rules? Because I have fallen in love with a dress that breaks both of them, and I don’t want to look like a Barbie doll in my wedding photos (meaning I don’t want to look like I’m wearing a dress that was in no way appropriate for that occasion/time/place). HELP!
Here is a photo of the dress that I am head over heels in love with:
Here is one of the dresses that meets the rules (shoutout to Mrs. Cherry Pie!)
Another dress that mets the rules:
Judd Waddell #21
And a dress that sorta meets the rules, but still has beads…
San Patrick Trueno
I’m so all over the place…what do I do???
Is it indeed a faux pas to wear sparkly stuff for a morning outdoor wedding?
Post # 3
Getting hitched at 11 a.m. in a dress covered in sparkles and beads.
Post # 4
@amandopolis: You are AWESOME!!! I’d never heard of these "rules" before and the dress lady pretty much crushed me! I was hoping there were others (so hard to find anyone else getting hitched in the morning!) Maybe I should buy my dress somewhere where they don’t judge my taste…
BTW, my ceremony is at 11am too!! Yay!
Post # 5
Girl, don’t even stress. Those "rules" honestly sound like something she made up. Get married in the dress you love. I am an early afternoon-er and my dress is completely embellished in beading and lace. And the best part is, I wouldn’t have it any other way. 🙂 Happy dress hunting.
P.S. The dress that you are head over heels in love with is GORGEOUS!
Post # 6
That lady was on CRACK…i swear! She probably had a horrible wedding and wants to take it out on people.
If you love that dress, go for it! The only place I would consider that dress tacky is if you were getting married at McDonald’s or something…actually even then the dress isn’t tacky…the location is!
Post # 7
Go with what you love, seriously. . .tell the dress lady to take a long walk off a short pier. I have never heard of any such "rules" The dress you are in love with is absolutley STUNNING! Go with what you love
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I had a similar situation at Vera Wang. She asked me about my wedding (chapel ceremony, 50 guests max) and then what I wanted to wear: tulle ballgown. She gave me such a blank stare.
I tried on mermaid dresses that were her idea of appropriate but as soon as I put on a tulle ballgown she knew there was no selling me anything else 🙂
Maybe it will look a little funny for me to be in a tulle poofy mess in a chapel. But I felt most like myself in it. Wear what makes you feel great– you only get to do this once. You can wear dresses without embellishment at ANY formal event.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone on wear what you want! It is your day! When it comes to your dress, its your call and no one else’s. You don’t want to look back at pictures and think "I wish I had worn that one instead" or "I wonder if that one would have looked better." Plus, you’ll be happier knowing everything is how you want it to be. Go for the sparkle! Brides are supposed to shine on their day…why do you think engagement rings are diamonds?
Post # 10
I agree with all of the above. Although I’ve never heard of those "rules", maybe the dress lady was just trying to suggest that you wear a dress to fit the occassion-i.e. casual wedding= casual dress (then again I think that maybe this rule might apply to guests attending the wedding- not the bride!) Either way, it’s your day, your vision, and you should wear the dress you love!
BTW, that dress is gorgeous!
Post # 11
I don’t think it matters! I think that people who have outdoor weddings tend to be more casual so perhaps do not choose dresses with beading…but I don’t think it precludes you from picking what you like! Go for it!
Post # 12
I don’t see itas a big deal. That was probably some rule from twenty years ago when the "beading" was crazy heavy sequins and stuff. Even dresses with beading today, are generally not as over the top as before.
Post # 13
@Tanya123: That’s a good point! I’ll bet she’s just thinking of the crazy 80s beading that was so heavy it needed it’s own boning in the corset!
Thank you all for your comments!!
I’d like to (happily) report that I bit the bullet and bought my dream gown!!! I used the "Best Offer" function on ebay and got it for 30% off the price offered, which was about 30% of the retail price anyway!! Yay!
Thank you all again!! I can’t wait to wear my sparkly lacey pretty gown to my wedding!!
Post # 14
Wear what makes you feel beautiful and throw the rules out the window. I’m getting married outdoors and while my tea lenght dress is simple, it does have some light beading.
Post # 15
Go you Mighty Sapphire! Your dress is beautiful and will look amazing in an outdoor ceremony!
Post # 16
You made the right decision!! I’m getting married at 1030am, decked out in sparkle and beads myself 🙂