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http://www.apracticalwedding.com/2010/01/what-i-stressed-about-for-our-wedding.html
Do you guys agree? Are STDs unnecessary? I hope not, because I have a pile on my desk!
I think they're unnecessary if all of the guests are from the area where the wedding will be held. But if most guests will have to travel to the location and spend the night, I definitely think it's a courtesy to give them enough notice to find deals on hotels and transportation.
We considered them necessary. We are having a large New Years Eve wedding, and about 50% of our guest list is from out of town.
I'm a no because
A - I'm trying to avoid unnecessary costs.
B - my guest list is pretty small (90ish)
C - out-of-towners already know about it anyway
I don't think they are stupid, but I don't think they are a necessity. We didn't send them, we just alerted all our out of town guests via email, but if you have them, and you love them, then embrace the the Save The Date and send them out!
I think they're unecessary. That's what the invitations are for! For some people, STDs are a fun extra they can afford. *shrugs* In my situation they wouldn't be worth my time or money. That's no reason for you to not have them, though. Personal choice. :)
We considered them necessary because so many of our guests are from out of town and will have to fly. We wanted to give everyone as much lead time as possible to book flights and hotels for cheap without having to mail out invitations nine months in advance.
I personally think stupid is a harsh word. Are they necessary for everyone? -- No, but for some they are, so it depends on the situation.
We need them as all of our guests are out of town and will need to book the hotel before the invites go out if they want the discount/blocked room!
If you're having a wedding far away, sure... But they're really just a new formality. We skipped them, but sent our invitations early for our DW. We also have a very detailed and fabulous website that our guests could check. We thought that was more practical.. i voted "no" above.
I think they are necessary at least for OOT guests so they can arrange for traveling to your wedding ahead of time. 100% of my guests are from OOT and not all of them know my date so I think for us, it's necessary.
I am sending them. I like them and think they give a good heads up, especially because I am at the age where a LOT of people are getting married. Even for guests who will not have to travel far, it gives them a heads up on the wedding information so you have a better chance that you friends and loved ones will be free to join in your celebration!
Well, I sent out Save the Dates, we got engagement pics and we have a wedding website (well, I made it!) I don't think these things are stupid. Totally optional? Yes.
I'm glad we did STDs, our friends and families really liked them. I got a ton of texts/facebook messages saying things like "I got your Save the Date, it's so cute!" and so forth. Pretty much everyone seemed to know what they were... and if they didn't, they played dumb :)
*edit to add* Our wedding is on an "off" day and we're getting married during peak vacation time... which is a big reason why we sent them too.
I don't think they're stupid but I don't think they're necessary either. We did end up sending them out because we're getting married over Labor Day weekend. We wanted to make sure people knew about it ahead of time & didn't make plans for the holiday. If we had picked another date or a non-holiday weekend wedding... I would've skipped them & just sent the invites.
Necessary? No. Good to send out? In our case yes. We had an August wedding during peak vacationing time and many guests told me they appreciated getting the STDs as it helped them plan in order to be able to attend our wedding. I sent out STDs that I got printed up on business cards and either threw them in with the X-mas cards I sent out the previous December or simply handed them to friends and co-workers I knew I would be inviting to the wedding.
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We are sending them because we are getting married on New Years Day, to spread the word of our wedding website (with wedding info), and because a lot of relatives live out of town.
We are sending them for three reasons:
1) 100% out of town, most out of state, guestlist.
2) Forces me to get addresses NOW, not in May.
3) I am inviting a huge family, some of whom are the weird and obnoxious family types, and I honestly don't want to call them, and I love my mom too much to force jobs like this on her. Postcard is the easiest alternative.
Thanks for the link, though! I agree with the author on napkins and matchbooks, etc. When I first started daydreaming about the wedding (lowe 8 months ago), I wanted ALL of that stuff. Now that I am actually planning and sending reservations and creating a real party, not an imaginary one for Style Me Pretty blog (who are all of these incredibly hip, carefree 20-somethings with $50,000 weddings?), it doesn't matter. In reality, the things that matter are booze, food, decent seating, and a nice vibe.
i agree with the blogger that most people dont know what a STD is for (heck, i didnt until i joined WB)
I voted no since 99% of our guests are in the area. If more were from out of town/state then I would've sent it those.
i agree with @Lillindy, not always a necessity but can be in certain situations. However..as a graphic designer, the more paper products the better and they are a *must* for me!
Alot of our guests are from 400 miles away, so to us they're important. We're doing it at the last minute (5 month engagement) so we need to tell people as soon as possible.
People better not think they're stupid because I sent a bunch out already! i think they are helpful, especially for our guests who need to request time off work to fly out.
i definitely think they are unnecessary and really didn't want to do them, however since i am getting married on a weekday and more than a third of my guest list is coming from out of town, i decided to do one for their convenience.
I agree with everyone else, it depends on who you are and when your wedding is and where your guests are in relation to the wedding. I'm not doing them since the most important people that NEED (Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents, friends, etc.) already know our date and can plan accordingly.
Does anyone else really dislike the "STD" abbreviation? It kind of makes me crazy!
No, I don't think they're stupid. For us, they are necessary. We are getting married on a holiday weekend (Labor Day) so that's the only reason we are sending them- so that people remember we are getting married, and don't make other plans.
@ SaraRocks- LOL, I don't like the "STD" abbreviation either - I'm new to this website, and at first I thought they were talking about actual STD's (sexually transmitted diseases)!
I definitely don't think they're necessary, but they're super fun and I think it's nice to let your guests know ahead of time, so we'll be doing them!
Personally i think unless you have alot of people traveling from out of town... I dont think they are needed... Infact i think most people outside of the wedding planning world have no clue what they are
I first saw STD when i came here i was like WTF??? LOL I think it is a horrible abbreviation.... I have seen some other ppl say StheD
I dont think theyre stupid at all. We are doing them because 98% of our guests will be traveling from out of town and its a lot easier to have it all in one place then having to constantly email/call people about the details. I think itll still happen, but I think that this will cut down on that. I also think its good so that people can plan ahead if they are going to need to take time off from work, school, etc.
We'll be emailing them, but to a fairly selected group (in case we want to trim the guest list down later) of friends who live far away or will be in the wedding.
So I guess you could say I'm playing it safe with them...
NO WAY.....they are SUPER necessary, Especially if you have a lot of OOT guests or your wedding falls on a holiday weekend like Memorial/Labor day.
The only reason I had STD is because I was having it on a holday weekend.
They're not required but they do serve a purpose. They let folks know to reserve the date for your wedding so they have time to schedule off work (some employers require several months' notice in advance. As an example, we have several people on the guest list in the medical profession who would have to decide whether or not to use their sickdays if they were not sent save the dates because it would be too late to request vacation by the time the invite is sent) as well as making travel arrangements. Also, if your wedding is around a holiday, it gives them opportunity to make other plans if they wish to attend.
After all that, if someone still thinks they are completely impractical, that is up to them. But not everyone feels the same, hence why they are sent these days, as a gracious courtesy. Do whatever works best for you.
I don't think they're always necessary. I sent STDs nine months out because all of my guests have to travel out of state to get here. I think they're very helpful for destination weddings, popular dates, or dates close to holidays. Otherwise I don't think I'd send any.
They're necessary for some couples, and I would never call something another bride did "stupid."
We have a lot of out of towners and we're getting married on a holiday weekend. It was for the best.
I am with Lillindy in thinking it's a harsh word (stupid).
For my situation, they are a must-have b/c the majority of our guests will be coming from out of town! Giving a bit of heads' up when there is involved not just a wedding but an overnight hotel stay is only being kind and heck..we're in a recession! Giving good notice is only polite.
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