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I think it is likley that we are having our wedding on a Sunday. There are several reasons why, one of which being we are getting married in a public place and it will be far less crowded at 5pm on a Sunday than it would be on a Saturday. Also, I think we will be able to afford a much better dinner menu on a Sunday.
We are only having family and very clsoe friends, a very small wedding- 15 people. The wedding is likely starting 5-5:30, and we are having a dinner only reception (no dancing, just dinner) about an hour later for a couple hours. I think people will be home by 9pm!
I was just reading a blog, and it was suggested that it is rude and selfish to have a wedding on a Sunday and that people hate it, because they are tired at work the next day, and for the entire wedding they are thinking about how they have to go to work the next day. I guess if I was having a big, party-style, dance and drink type of wedding, I might rethink, but since it is "only" dinner- well, I'm just not sure now if it is ok to have it on a Sunday.
I don't think that a dinner wedding that would end before 9 or so and people live nearby would be rude at all.
The only reason people would be tired at work the next day is if the wedding went until 2am or something, and yours is wrapping up quite a bit earlier than that.
Actually, people are more available on Sunday afternoons than on Saturdays, in general. I think you'll find fewer scheduling conflicts with your guests if you pick a Sunday.
I think for a relaxed comfortable dinner reception, a Sunday evening is just perfect and very appropriate. Your concerns about crowds and affordability are good reasons to have your wedding on a Sunday.
we are getting married on a sunday and no one has mentioned (or hinted) that it is rude or inconsiderate...at least not to my face!
sunday weddings are popular in different cultures. for instance, some jewish couples wont get married on saturdays, unless it is late at night, because of the religious reasons.
I wouldn't say it is selfish, but it would definately be inconvenient to out of town guests. Those same people may have had to take time off on Friday for a Saturday wedding, but having to drive home on a Sunday night and have to work Monday STINKS!
I would be all for it, and if I had to travel I would just take Monday off. I'll take any excuse to take a day off from work!
I think with your very small guest list and dinner plans, it's perfectly fine to do it on a Sunday. It sounds like a typical family dinner for FI and me, hehe. We get together often with my FILs for Sunday night dinners... and there's always around 12-15 of us. We get home around 9 or 9:30 and it's totally fine. :)
I agree that due to the circumstances (i.e. small guest list who presumably don't need to travel, dinner without dancing) a Sunday night is perfectly fine. It might lend a different feeling in general, e.g. people won't be able to catch up over brunch the next day and so it might feel like less of an "event" for some, but that doesn't make it selfish or a bad idea at all. In fact you could look at it as the opposite - you are taking up much less of your guests' weekend than you otherwise would ( e.g. getting ready from early-ish Saturday for a wedding that afternoon, then sleeping in on Sunday to recover from a bigger night).
most jewish weddings happen on sundays as fridays are off limits and if you have a kosher wedding on saturday night, the food won't be fresh.. so we are having a full on bash on a sunday and there's nothing wrong with that..
I just know that it'd be hard possibly for some guests to attend if you have an evening wedding on a Sunday as out of town guests would have to take an additional day off of work to attend (a monday).
I think brunch weddings btw are incredible! Love this trend :)
In my case,there is only one traveler, my Mom! Four others live under an hour away and the rest about a half hour.
My wedding is on a Sunday, but also a holiday weekend. I think the holiday weekend aspect makes things easier on my guests, but I am sure there are some people who think I am being selfish or something!
Anyways, I would never think that someone who planned a Sunday wedding was selfish. Do what works best for you and your FI!
I don't think they're a huge deal anymore. Even though some people who work traditional 9-5 jobs may leave early, many jobs are no longer even like that. Nurses, aids, etc, often work all kinds of hours and need to take off for Saturday weddings as well.
There are two very set in their ways schools of thought on this. I'm in the laid back one that says if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to come. But if they care about you, they'll find a way to be there even if they're not partying until the very end.
FSIL & FBIL had their wedding at 3:30 on a Sunday, and then a gap before the reception, which started at 5. No one complained (actually, a lot of the older generation approved because Sunday weddings used to be traditional) and almost everyone stayed until 11 or 11:30 pm.
With a small wedding of family and close friends, none of your guests would mind, anyway, I am sure. But you are being VERY considerate with your choice.
we had ours on a sunday b/c jews aren't supposed to get married on shabbat, and if we were going to do that the wedding wouldn't start until really late sat and then everyone would be starving by dinner time. a lot of oot guests couldn't make it, but i think that was the only issue. with such a small wedding i feel like the people will be close enough to you that they can miss a day of work.
In my opinion, if it is worth it to take off the Friday before the wedding to travel for a Saturday wedding, why should I have a problem working Friday, traveling Saturday, partying Sunday, and taking off Monday to travel home?
Even if you are asking your guests to travel a distance, what is the difference between taking a Friday off work or a Monday off work to travel? I say go for it!
I would love it and no it is not selfish. Your wedding sounds exactly like mine and I considered having it on a Sunday but 4th of July worked better. Those same people who would take Fri off work for Sat weddings could do the reverse and take Monday off for a Sunday wedding. Whats the big deal in that? Go for it! It sounds fun and so relaxing! I love Sunday evenings, one of my favorite time of the week! Especially in the spring.
Nope - went to one last week, as a matter of fact! Do what you need to do :)
I'm with y'all. I'm having my wedding on a Sunday, and I'm even making it a lot easier for people than my other friends who got married on Sunday did! Yes, it is kind of a pain. But Sunday is way less expensive for us (especially in my neck of the woods), and yes, the people who are coming from out of town anyway would just as soon take a Monday off as they would a Friday. Besides, for a wedding that small, people will show up regardless of whether it's a Sunday or Wednesday morning. It's your wedding :)
Nope, not selfish, I'd be surprised if others thought it was. In several cultures, it is the only or more appropriate weekend day to hold a wedding.
@jaylii9- Woot! We're date twins!
I'm also getting married on a Sunday (FI is Jewish) but since it's Labor Day weekend, most people will already have off work the next day. Even if that weren't the case, like some of the other bees have said here, most people who are close to you wouldn't mind taking the day off work to be there. Do what's best for you, and the people who love and support you and your groom will be there!
Best wishes! :)
IF the guests are local and the wedding ends fairly early, then I think it's fine.
we are having a sunday wedding most people are taking monday off and the reason being its in St. Augustine and they want to enjoy the time while they are there!! :) I dont think its selfish if they dont want to go they can stay home and also your having a small and only close family wedding i believe you said i dont think its selfish good luck :) Im ready for mine!!!
If people would take Friday off to travel for a Sat wedding, why can't they take a Monday off to travel for a Sunday wedding? Especially with the type of wedding you are describing, go for it! It sounds perfectly reasonable for many reasons!
In your situation with the location of guests, early end time, etc. I think it's totally fine and not rude at all!
I don't think it is selfish and wouldn't put any qualifiers on it. I think it is okay regardless of the size of your guest list and travelers. I have attended Friday evening weddings where I had to leave work early, Saturday weddings where I had to miss work Friday to get to the wedding or participate in pre-wedding activities, and Sunday weddings where I missed Monday (versus Friday). The point is, guests do what they can if it is important for them to be there.
It sounds like your wedding will not be inconvenient to your guests. While it may not be "ideal" for people who like to laze around on Sundays, this will make it special and give them a nice way to end their weekend. I say go for it! Congratulations and best wishes :)
Your wedding sounds great. If I attended a Sunday wedding that was to end at 10 or 11pm, then I'd probably have to leave early, but if it ended at 9pm or before, no problem! And of course you said everybody lives within a short driving distance...sounds great.
Just kidding. No one is forcing anyone to come on a Sunday! It's your wedding --have it on a Thursday! At least Sunday is convenient for most. Yeah it sucks to work the next day, so just don't expect a late crowd. I think the Sunday before a holiday is best (a couple of my friends have done this), but expect that people may be going out of town.
I hope not... I'm having one! However, I'm lucky because the Monday following our wedding is a national holiday in Canada :) Woo!
We still aren't having a huge party though... all our festivities will be wrapped up way before 8PM. :)
Not at all. However if someone complains about them, they are being selfish, not the couple getting married. If you don't like the date the couple chose, stay home. They chose that date for a reason, either due to budget or it was the only day available.
depends - if there are folks travelling, or folks who are religous that arent jewish, its kinda rude. because they have to take off time to go, or wont beable to go because they have church services to go to that day.
if you have no travelling guests, or if you are jewish (the whole shabbat thing) or if its a 3 day weekend, then its okay.
it depends though. so weigh your guests and options and do what works best for you.
Personally, I really don't like being an out of town guest to a sunday wedding because it really forces me to take a day off on monday when i would prefer not to. but if its a local wedding, i would not mind :)
With your number and location of guests, I think you'll be fine!
You should be totally fine in your situation.
And, I don't see what the big deal is even if the party WERE to run late. So WHAT if somebody has to travel home and get up at 6 am for work the next day? We're adults, and we deal with running on a few hours sleep here and there in order to have a good time! Do people re-think going to a midnight showing of their favorite movie because they have to get up early? HECK NO! they do it for the experience, and because it's important to them (not to compare your wedding to a movie, but you get my drift..) Heaven forbid big baby doesn't get their 8 hours, right? lol.
i don't think so, especially with such a small wedding! you'll be fine. :)
I'm having a Sunday wedding and I think it's fine (obviously)! Everyone has to travel for it. I'm talking planes or loooong drives. So they would have had to take Friday off anyway to make the wedding. I don't see what difference it makes in that case.
Jewish weddings are almost always on a Sunday, because they cannot take place on Friday evening or Saturday before sundown. If you're not having a reception that will keep people up half the night, and you don't have a lot of guests who will have to fly home after the wedding, I don't see the problem.
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