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I am in shock at how many posts I have seen on here about Brides not sending Thank You cards after the shower and the wedding.  Some send these photo cards out of them at the wedding that merely say thank you on the front with no hand written note. I am wondering if it is as many of these Brides have suggested something only "older women" do or is it simply that no one writes hand writtenthank you cards any more.  One gal even posted on here that she felt her invitation to the wedding and feeding them dinner was the Thank you???

Please tell me that I am not the only person who still feels a proper thank you card is not "Old Fashion"  but simply "Good Manners"

I am glad to hear this.  I commented on one thread about this subject and the post I got back was " well we are not inviting anyone over the age of 60, my friends don't really care if they get a card from me or not"  I was thinking, "Wait, I am not over 60 (yet), and the second thought was "Really, no one cares if they get thanked any more.  I find this hard to believe.  Last wedding I went to cost me over $2500 by the time I spend money on hotal, airline tickets, gift, outfit and restaurants for 3 days.  I would have been ticked if I had not gotten a thank you note.

@ladyartichoke:  You have a good Momma!  She taught you well ...

@Meowkers:  I saw your recaps!  They were beautiful!!

I'm 22.  Ever since I was 12, every time I got a gift, my Mother made me sit down and write the thank you note before I went to bed, on the day I got the gift. 

I always write thank you notes for EVERYTHING. 

I think they are "going out" though, along with everything "paper" mail.  Peoples Mom's don't teach them to write TY notes anymore, and so it dies out fairly quickly. 

@jacinda10:  You have a good Momma too. My Mother would sit us down after Christmas dinner and make us write out Thank you cards for the out of town gifts.  if we were able to say thank you to their face we didn't have to write a note but phone calls didn't cover it.   i hope you younger girls will keep this lovely traditon alive with your children.

@shutterpeak2122: Such a cute idea!

For all the weddings I've been to, everyone has sent a thank you card except for one. I still handwrite letters so I am absolutely going to send thank you cards for all gifts recieved, errands people do for me, and people that have travelled far for my shower and wedding.

@Garnety:  I think that is the right thing to do.  I sent a thank you note the gals at the shop who helped with my dress and the lady who did the alterations.  I plan on writing thanks you notes to the venue and the lady who bakes my cake and the set up/clean up crew.  Who doesn't feel good to received a little atta boy / atta girl now and then.  Sugar gets you so much father in life than vinegar.  I thought the girls on the other posts were off but then again things do change over the years.  I got married the first time in 1987 ...  My Grandmother was a caterer and she kept every thank you note from every job she ever did in a photo album.  It does mean something to people. :)

@retreadbride:  Too funny but I agree about the no next time deal on Thanks you.  My mother used to say, burn me once stupid you, but burn me twice stupid me.

I think some people find e-mails impersonal but I have to say, I would not be offended by a thank you e-mail that was an individual e-mail just to me not just a generic e-mail to a mass mailing.  but I am always offended by someone who doesn't thank at all.  I am certain that it takes less time to write a thank note - whether e-mail or snail mail - than it does to get into your car look for a gift, take it home, wrap it and take it to a wedding.  So email or not a thank you of any kind is much better than none at all.  I had to laugh at one post a while back, the bride was giving us her laundry list of reasons why she didn't send thank you notes a year after her wedding- from moving and grad school yadda yadda and yet for someone too busy to write a thank you note here she was on Wedding Bee writing to a bunch of peple she doesn't even know...

I can't imagine NOT sending a thank you note! I don't know how people can think it's ok not to send a thank you. Actually, one of my BMs got married in July, I spent a pretty penny on her gift as did my parents...neither one of us has received a thank you yet. She had a courthouse wedding and a small reception of about 50 people, so it's not like she has tons of thank yous to write and its taking a long time. I'd be embarrassed if I didn't send one.

@AshleyB: I think that is an awesome idea!  Teach kids young and it becomes a habit they never forget.

@baletrina:  I agree this is a big pet peeve of mine.  The thing I hate the most is the excuse of I don't have time.  No expects a novel, just a couple of lines on a card.  If you do only five cards a day at 5 min, a card we are talking about 1/2 hour a day.  Really, who can't make an extra 1/2 hour a day.  Good for you about the dollar store gift!  I love it.

@bklynbridetobe:  So true - rude and lazy.  And they feel entitiled to everything. 

I made all of my wedding invites and I have already spent as much time making the Thank you cards let alone writing the notes once I start receiving gifts.  I want all involved in my wedding ,guests and vendors, to know that I so appreciate their support of my new marriage.  I am so VERY happy to see how many people have posted that notes are important to them also.