Post # 1
I’m the main breadwinner in our household. I don’t have a problem with this. He doesn’t have a problem with this. And can I just say that having a “househusband” rocks. I work and pay the bills and he cleans, does yardwork, fixes the cars. About the only “domestic” thing I do is cook and shop for groceries. He does do odd jobs like painting houses or building decks from time to time in order to make a little extra cash.
Ideally, he will be a Stay-At-Home Dad in about a year. He is trying to get into nursing school in the fall though. I guess we’ll just have to play things by ear when it happens.
Post # 3
I am also the main breadwinner, by FAR, though not by choice. FI is still in school (less than a year to go), but chances are, I’ll always be the main breadwinner.
Post # 4
I was the sole earner for a LONG time. Almost a year. It was the hardest thing ever. I didn’t make much to begin with, but then adding his expenses on was the worst. It was really hard not to be resentful of him, but I trusted that he was trying his best to get a full-time position (he worked temp and part-time professor jobs). Part of me thinks I was so angry about the situation because I was not financially able to really budget for both of us (but made it work). I think that if I was making about 10K more a year, it would have been fine.
Luckily, he did get a position, about a year and a half later and now he makes more than me. It feels weird for him to buy me things or offer to pay for groceries or a night out. I guess I’m still getting used to it.
Post # 5
@ohmybears48: This. My SO was unemployed for two years up until last summer, now he has a decent job, but I still make significantly more than he does. About 3x as much.
Post # 6
We both work full time jobs, but I am the only one who pays household bills (except for internet- I could live without it, he couldn’t, so he pays for it). In his defense, his student loan payments are over $500 a month. He pays for his own cel phone, the internet service, and he buys some groceries. He doesn’t make as much as I do, and his personal bills far exceed mine. I bought our house in my name, so I pay for it. I also bought & pay for his car, so we kind of joke from time to time that if we don’t work out, he’ll have a loooong walk back to his parents house!
I don’t mind being the breadwinner, I actually kind of like being in charge of everything. I also like not having to do ANY yardwork EVER… but we split housework.
I’d be tickled frickin’ pink if he landed a pimp ass job & made more than me 😀
Post # 7
I currently make more than Fiance, but only by a few hundred a year. However, within the next 10 years, as I progress in my career, I will soon be making almost twice what he makes. That all being said, we are living on a good, middleclass salary right now, so me making more money just means we can afford and save more.
I don’t have a problem with it, Fiance doesn’t either. We both see each other as equals– great example is yesterday where I started laundry, cleaned the bathroom and swept. He folded the laundry, made spaghetti sauce and vacuumed. It all equals out in the end 🙂
Post # 8
For now I make more than him by over double because he is a grad student that is also working for the school. Come August when college starts back up I may be the only one making money. If he does have a job next semester it will be through his school and they really don’t pay much to grad students. We will get married and move in together this summer so that should help some not having to pay for rent in 2 places.
Post # 9
I’m making more right now just because I have a full-time job and my husband is working a couple of part-time jobs while he searches for a full-time teaching position. I don’t mind making more than him, and he doesn’t mind it. Though we’ll both feel much more comfortable once he can secure something full-time. Unfortunately, it’s a rough time to be looking for teaching jobs, especially in our state.
Post # 10
I make more than him.
He got a masters degree and I worked. He worked at camps and more ‘fun’ jobs and I worked at serious jobs, so I just have more earning potential based on experience even though I’m 8 years younger.
That’s how the world works, sigh
Post # 11
I make double what my Darling Husband makes. I don’t mind that I’m making more than him per se, but I do wish we made more combined :). He’s going to be going back to school soon (fingers crossed!) and we should be good in the longterm. Once he finishes, we’ll probably be making about the same amount unless I snag a promotion somewhere along the line.
Post # 12
We both get paid hourly, and make the exact same amount 🙂
Post # 13
He makes more an hour than I do but he is part time so I make more than him. We both get paid pretty well per hour so we are comfortable.
Post # 14
We make about the same +/- a few thousand. I wish he made a ton more so I could feel ok with quitting and being a sahm… but I’m not willing to give up half our household income.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We make the same hourly amount because we’re both working part time during the school year and summer, but I get more hours and so I actually am the breadwinner haha 😉 When we’re out of school I’ll most likely be making more unless I choose to stay at home.
Post # 16
He makes $15,000 more per year than I do. Which I’m fine with, lol.