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Thanksgiving with just the two of you is quite nice actually. We did this last year for the first time, as we usually alternate holidays with family. We have to drive to them, no one ever comes to us either. In any case it was really nice to have the time just the two of us and cook together. We poured mimosa's, enjoyed the day while cooking, etc.It's also nice not to drive/fly anywhere for a Holiday and just have some downtime.
Also, I just recently was able to get my parents to come down to visit with us (mind you we live in an english basement! So FH and I slept on an airmattress in our living room). And this was there first visit, I've lived in DC for 2 1/2 years. I purchased the train tickets for them to come down (as it was to have my mom go dress shopping with me).They really had a good time and are now looking forward to the next time...
Were hoping to get my FH parents down in the near future as well. Just talk to them next time you see them and invite them down another time. Tell them it would mean alot to you....I'm not sure if you or your husband have neices or nephews? My parents are always at my siblings as they are already married and have little ones so I can relate to the being forgotten part.
Enjoy Turkey Day! Look for a recipe to start as your own tradition :), make it special :).
We might be. His mom doesn't celebrate, she's the only local relative. We normally go out of state to my parent's but FI was recently in an accident and totaled his car. So without transportation, it's looking likely that it'll be just the 2 of us. I don't really cook a lot and I have definitely NEVER made a turkey!!! Talk about depressed. I'm trying to look at the bright side though, we literally moved into our first house together 2 weeks ago so it may be a great way to start our lives there.
We will be. And like you although I'm looking forward to a relaxing four day weekend of no travel I am a little bummed.
This year was suppose to be Thanksgiving with my ILs but they live in GA now. With the new house and baby we just could not afford the $600+ it would have cost for airfare.
We did get an invite to go to his cousins but we'll see if it was one of those in the moment invites or not.
If not we had planned on still cooking a turkey dinner just cuz I loooove my husband's turkey!
We might be to.FI is a cook at Wildflower(crap job but pays bills) and has to work next day early!! As it is located in the mall too... But we usually travel to see family about 3 hrs away. No point on going if we cant spend the night like normal. FBIL and his FI and our newphew are here in town so we might cook with them:)
We are spending it alone, and I was feeling sort of lonely about it, so we decided to take the entire week and go on a trip. We got lucky that we had the vacation time left and some extra money to spend.
We will be spending it alone, and in a country that doesn't celebrate it.
So we will be most likely having a thanksgiving chicken as I don't think our oven is big enough for a turkey.
It'll just be my husband, our baby, and me this year, and I'm actually really looking forward to it. We've been hosting the last few years and I think it'll be nice to have a quiet Thanksgiving for a change.
If you're feeling lonely about not having family around, what about doing Thanskgiving with friends, instead? We did this a couple years ago, and it was really fun. We spent the day cooking, eating, playing Wii, etc... Great!
We have been debating weather or not to try and eat turkey while in Italy. We were more than happy to take a pass on thanksgiving this year for our honeymoon. Both of us are usually huge on thanksgiving and oddly enough our families will be spending it together, just not with us.
What about a turkey breast? Or maybe inviting some new friends/co-workers over to partake in a cool but foreign to them holiday?
We did the last 2 years, but this year my sister is flying out, and a step brother is actually making it with his gf and some people I volunteer with.
The last few years I still enjoyed the cooking and watching the parade, but it was lonely. Tday is a big fun tradition and I did miss it a lot. I made the full on everything with tons of leftovers and one year I cooked for a domestic violence shelter for 30 people. So that kept me busy for days!!!!
We did this last year, partially by choice.
With paying for our wedding, we had no money to travel. My brother lives near, but he and his family went to visit my dad. I have a cousin who lives really close, and his dad (my uncle) came to visit for Thanksgiving last year. We opted, though, to spend Thanksgiving alone together. I made the whole meal; tofurkey, green bean casserole, mashed potatoes and gravy, fresh bread, cranberry sauce... you name it, I made it. Oh, the pies, too!
We had a blast. It was really nice to have the two of us (and our furkids who got plates, too) be a family together.
The next night, my uncle and cousin came over and finished all the leftovers. It was the perfect balance.
This year, we'll be on our honeymoon cruise!
Your MIL sounds like mine. She is traveling, but didnt even think to invite us/come to our house. We live less than an hour away and she's come to the house a grand total of once. In 1.5 years. :(
We are just having my mom and brother this year. It is a little sad, but I like it because we can totally relax. We travel all over for Christmas, so its nice to take it easy right now. Plus, I wont feel so embarassed when I stuff my face full of turkey and stuffing :)
Consider spending Thanksgiving with friends and/or neighbors. If they don't invite you to Thanksgiving dinner, you can host and invite them.
I second the suggestion to try to make plans with some friends who might also be alone. My husband and I live in TN but both sets of parents are in MA. We go home to MA for Christmas but I can't get time off of work for both holidays so we stay here in TN for Thanksgiving. We have been going to my good friend's house every year since we've lived here and I love it!
We're either spending it alone, or with a couple of friends (not sure if they're coming yet). I'm really used to it by now. For four years of college, I was in CA and my family was in CT so it just didn't make sense to travel home for a five day break when there was a month-long vacation coming up a couple weeks after that. It's the same thing now: my husband (his family is also back east) is in grad school in California and he gets more time off at Christmas than Thanksgiving, so we go home then.
I am so used to it at this point... there's two variants on Thanksgiving that feel traditional and right in my mind. Sitting at home with family with crisp fall weather, and a small makeshift but fun celebration with friends in nice weather on an empty college campus.
We're spending it alone again this year. As others have suggested, invite friends, neighbors, co-workers over... there are others who probably feel lonely as well.
Or go volunteer at a local soup kitchen (to keep perspective) and serve those who feel/exist alone most of the time. Our parents had us do that as kids and it has always stuck with me-- especially when I begin throwing myself a pity party. :)
I know how you feel about missing the family! We are taking our honeymoon over Thanksgiving to Belize (terrible, I know, ha). We won't get to have any time with my family and it kinda breaks my heart. Thanksgiving is my absolute most favorite holiday!! I can't wait for it every year, but it is the first one I am missing.... :(
We already had Thanksgiving here in Canada, but DH and I intentionally spent it just the two of us. No offense to our families, but it was so nice not having to listen to people squabbling with each other over stupid little things. Plus DH and I don't have the same days off, so we grab any chance we can to have a whole day to ourselves.
DH roasted a chicken and did stuffing and gravy, I cooked up all our favorite vegetable dishes including garlic mashed potatoes, and we served it all up on our wedding china and ate by candlelight. It was really romantic and nice.
FI and I spent last Thanksgiving alone, and we might do it again this year. I have a hard time with my family; lots of past issues that are just depressing and hard to deal with, so I didn't want to go there. His mom was having a dinner with a bunch of completely random people- And I do mean RANDOM. It seriously sounded like we would be eating Thanksgiving dinner in a soup kitchen... haha. So we just stayed at home and made pizzas from scratch and relaxed all day. It was fabulous.
Maybe mention to your parents that you really would like them to come visit you, if not for a holiday, then just to visit sometime. I wouldn't make too big a deal out of it, but just let them know that you would like their company sometime. Don't worry about spending the day with just the two of you- it can be really nice and much less stressful!
We are in a way. DH is in school and I'm going to him since he's not allowed to travel outside a certain radius away from the base and we're renting a cabin with a kitchen.
We're going to probably invite some of his Sailor buddies who can't go home to their families and make a huge dinner together. I kind of feel like a big sister to them and am excited that even though we're away from family, we can spend it with our Navy family. :)
We are, but by chocie. We spend so much time running around for the holidays with bothe parents being divorced that I pulled the plug on Thanksgiving this year. They are all welcome to visit us, but my oldest daughter and I have already planned our menu and will be baking while watch the parade. Take this year to come up with a tradition with DH and enjoy the day together.
We will be semi-alone. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, and ideally I'd like to always spend it with my family. This year we decided on Thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with his.
Then FI got slapped with grand jury duty starting the day before Thanksgiving. And the courts are open the day after. Seriously? I understand civic duty and everything, but it's just un-American for the government to ruin Thanksgiving plans.
We will be staying here in NYC instead, which I'm honestly okay with. I like the idea of having the whole weekend just the two of us, and we will have even more time to get the tree and decorate. Its also worked out well that his cousin and cousin's gf are staying in the city, too. So now the plan is to go over to his cousin's (and his aunt and uncle are also coming too).
In sum: We won't be spending it with either of our immediate families, but will have at least some family for the day.
We will be celebrating apart, since his family is not getting together except for 3 of them, and they guilted him into going with them. I am always going to go to my family's for Thanksgiving because it is the only holiday my parents host at their house (so I feel obligated to go, since mom works really hard). I'm not happy about it, but at least I can do Black Friday shopping and get his gifts without worrying about hiding them from him.
I love Holidays with just the two of us! We celebrate in our own way...although sometimes I wish I could rewind and it be like when I was a kid. Holidays is the hardest part of growing up!
Oh gosh. DH is military so I will literally be spending Thanksgiving alone this year, unless I find another wife who would like to share it with me. I think you should think about it as spending it together.... and be thankful for what ya got! =]
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So we're going to be spending our third Thanksgiving just the two of us. While we enjoying cooking together, I would be lying if I didn't admit we are a little depressed about it. I begged my parents over the summer to take off of work for a few days that week to drive down (we're 5 hours away), but they aren't willing to do that. My husband has used up all of his vacation time over the summer to go to the weddings of family and friends, so we have no time left available to go up there. The last two years, I was swamped with graduate school work and couldn't possibly leave.
I also just found, via my MIL's facebook, that she's flying out of state to visit distant family that week. My husband is going to be devastated that she didn't even consider coming down here.
I guess we're both feeling a bit forgotten. I have a friend with parents who bought two plane tickets to fly in and spend the entire week with her. I should add that we've lived here for 2 1/2 years and our parents have only visited one time. We've asked multiple times to have people come down.. we go up there at least 4-5 times a year.
Should I tell my parents I feel a little hurt that they aren't willing to come down here, or am I being selfish?