Post # 1
HI- I posted a rant earlier today. I was in a bad mood about the future with SO (Im ready for a commitment, and feeling like its taking forever)
As Ive been thinking about things today, Im realizing that there might be some subtle hints that a proposal is in the works. Wanted to get your feedback….am I totally over-analyzing???
1) He refered to himself as a “husband”
2) Ive caught him totally checking out jewlery stores on neighborhood walks
3) My BD is on Saturday. He hasnt asked me what I want, and we are going away next week….possible surprise proposal??
4) He asked me in a funny tone “do you like jewlery”
5) Been mentioning how we will be “together for ever” alot more. Using the love word WAAAYYYY more than normal.
6) We discussed moving in together last night. Wants to wait until next year as he is short on money now. I like to think its because he is buying a ring
7) Mentioned KIDS last weekend…and not a “if we have kids”….more of a “our kids”
8) Told me last weekend he is glad he stayed single this long (he is 37) as he only wants to get married once in his life, and that Im it!!
We have been together a year and a half….and IM READY!!!
Post # 3
Sounds like he definitely wants you to be in his future! Now you just have to sit back and let him do the work! This is the hard part, but it’s worth the wait. 🙂
Post # 4
All signs look as if they are pointing to YES! Now the hard part is just relaxing and waiting for it! 😉
Post # 5
I think these are positive things and you should be thrilled BUT they are way to subtle to get your hopes up about a specific day. I went through this a few weeks ago and accidentally convinced myself that it was it.. and it wasnt i was CRUSHED.. beyond belief crushed. and although there were some pretty convincing hints.. they were honest coincidences and my SO just being nice and sweet and reassuring… and when I realized it wasnt the proposal, I cried, I couldnt hold it in and surprised myself about how heartbroken I was over it. FOR NO REASON! He felt terrible, I felt terrible.. big big mess.
So ya be so happy and thankful that there are future talks happening but PLEASE dont make the same mistake as me and get your hopes up TOO TOO much 🙂
Post # 6
@Seashells7: oh no!!! im sorry that it didnt happen for you 🙁
im trying not to get myself set up for disappointment. definetely harder said than done. but i keep telling myself, its only been a year and half since we met. im ok for a few more months of waiting!
Post # 7
I feel like your are over analyzing things. You say your birthday is coming up, so maybe he was simply thinking of jewlery for your present. It’s good he is talking about the future more and very good he’s talking about it as when not if, but me and my FI were doing that maybe 6 months in, didn’t get engaged until a year and a half in. He will do it when he’s ready, you will know its coming when its coming, right now it feels like you’re just searching for signs cuz you don’t want to wait.
Post # 8
He is going to propose eventurally. I would tell him that you don’t want to move in until you are engaged though because then you at least have that locked down. I think those are all positive signs.
Post # 9
I think these are good signs, but I’d be surprises if he pulls the trigger on it in the very near future. Generally, men are VERY obvious about it (either to you or one of your friends/sisters/mom). It won’t be a “Do you like jewelry?” It will be a “Do you/does she like white gold cushion cut?”
Besides jewelry is pretty much expected for an engagement, so I don’t think he’d ask if you liked jewelry. It’s probably a necklace or bracelet, or maybe even a promise ring or something. I don’t think the signs are pointing to “no”, but maybe more like a “not yet.”
Post # 10
Yes, I think it is coming!! Keep us posted!!
Post # 11
Thanks bees!! Ive decided to try to forget about all this proposal stuff and just enjoy our relationship!!! We are going away next week and Im looking forward to some quality time together. … If I keep looking for signs, Im gonna drive myself bonkers 😉
Post # 12
He is on his way there, but at his own pace. Try to just enjoy the ride now.
Post # 13
@mrssoontobeh: it is SOOO rediculously hard!! and crazy how some days you are CONVINCED all the signs point to yes and other days its like.. meh it will happen. I cant wait for updates from you! I hope it happens for both of us soon so we dont need to look into little hints and drive ourselves crazy anymore!
Post # 14
At my BD dinner, after a few drinks, we started to discuss our wedding!!! He said beach wedding in Jamaica…we have the same vision 🙂
Post # 15
Sounds like he’s getting there! Congrats and enjoy this time of calm before the storm. haha.
Post # 16
just a mini update….
we had another wedding talk today!! very brief, but still, he said “our wedding” without laughing, or having a heart attack!
i have a very dear friend who i dont plan on asking to be in my wedding (i want VERY small with just maid of honor and best man). she is at another wedding this weekend of friends of mine and SO and I were discussing. she has assumed in the past that i will be asking her to be MOH, and i told SO this today, laughing. he said, “when we get married can it just be you and i”. i told him my mom would be sooooo mad if i eloped, and he agreed….
he then talked about how his parents would also be upset….and how his mom can wait for him to take the next step 🙂
its got to be coming, right bees???