Are they crashing our wedding?!?! (poll)

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do we do?
    it's clearly just a joke. they aren't coming. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    they are clearly coming, prepare to host them : (36 votes)
    48 %
    who knows- send invite & request a formal rsvp : (20 votes)
    27 %
    your FI got tricked into inviting them, so follow up by sending formal invitation : (15 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Considering all the info your FI gave them, I’m pretty sure the friend is going to think he’s invited regardless of whether or not he receives a formal invitation. Some people are just oblivious when it comes to social etiquette. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t see how your FI got “tricked”…he willing gave up the info. And yeah, I’d say you invited them.

    Post # 5
    Member
    8025 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Considering your FI invited them and gave him all the info, yeah I think they’re coming and there wasn’t any trickery. Your guy should have man’d up with the truth in the chat.

    wheres the wedding?

    “it’s at ____ but unfortunately we had to keep the guest list to mostly family. Sorry we can’t have you!”

    not

    ” it’s at x,dress code is y, and we’re registered at z. See you then” 

     

    Post # 6
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    8025 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    well I guess i should advise and not just call out your FI! Sorry.

    You two decide whether you want to accommodate her considering and then either send an invite, or FI call to clarify and give a line about limited space.

    Post # 7
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    3693 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He gave them the date, venue, dress code, and registry information? I think they think they’re invited. I’m sure he was caught off guard, but telling someone “see you then” is inviting them, no matter how rude the other person was in soliciting the invitation.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Regardless of how many times he used LOL, he invited them

    Post # 9
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think your FI invited them and he should follow up with a paper invite. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Lol he definitely wasn’t tricked. 

    I would be prepared to host them since “see you then” is basically saying it’s okay if you come.

    Post # 12
    Member
    42472 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    FI already invited them.

    Post # 13
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    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

     

    Shkragoldfish:  Sounds to me like they’re coming and that they actually don’t care whether they do or do not receive a formal invitation since your FI has clearly and unmistakeably invited them. I also would not call this “crashing” since your FI has clearly and unmistakeably invited them.

    Whether your FI intended to or not, that’s basically what he did. I also fail to see how he was “tricked” into anything.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  sillysillybee.
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