Are they jealous of my relationship? or is it just me?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

WOW That is all very suspicious! I think that if your instincts tells you theres something werid going on than there probably is! (do you think there could be something going o between them) If I was you I would talk about this issue with your boyfriend and kind of see his reaction to the whole thing, that will tell you a lot. If after talking it over you feel like hes being truthful with you than I would probably ask him to not be over friendly with your cousing when shes around so she doesn’t get the wrong impression, because when some girls like guys even the smallest action or smile from the guy could mean something to her, even if his just being himself and trying to be nice because shes related to you. Of course this whole issue is going to make the relationship between you, your cousing and aunt very weird. But I think is very disrecpectful that they would act this way, if I like a boyfriend of one of my family members or friends I would never dare to even show it out of respect for them!!

GOOD LUCK!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ick! From your description, it sounds like your cousin has a big old crush on him! She should know better than to flirt with him constantly though. That’s terrible.

Not sure what is up with her mother’s behaviour though. Do you feel like she is trying to set her daughter and your guy up? That would be SOOOO weird! Like a mother encouraging her daughter to go after a guy that is in a relationship…?

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Well, from what you said, it does seem suspicious of your aunt and your cousin. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It sounds like your cousin is definitely interested in him and I would be really annoyed about it if I were you!!! Honestly if I saw her constantly flirting with him I would tell her to back off, or have him tell her (though I see how that could be awkward for him…).

In regard to your aunt… I don’t really understand the point of her weird questions. “Is his mother complaining about being alone at night?” What???  Does she want to know if he’s often at home at night (without you) so your cousin can contact him? What the hell is going on with these people?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t understand the part about the aunt at all? I don’t really see what she has to do with anything.

Your cousin does sound like shes being too flirty with your BF, but your BF doesn’t seem to care/notice, so no worries. I’d just make it very clear you are together, and happy and planning a future together.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Props to your guy!  He noticed the behavior and suggested that maybe it would be better to back off from seeing them a bit.  That should confirm your feelings that your cousin is being inappropriate towards him.  Here’s my take on it – I don’t care WHO you are, friend, relative, whatever.  If someone lacks the basic courtesy to keep their hands off other people’s SO/fiance/DH, and intentionally goes after a taken man, I don’t need them around.  Family or not, that level of disrespect is unacceptable. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee

I would start being evasive when they question you about your relationship, your BF, and whether you are going to UK. And do as your guy suggested, don’t have your cousin and aunt around both you and your BF as much. There is really no reason for it. Who cares if they think you are being jealous or protective. Your BF doesn’t want to be around them, and with the way they are behaving, their opinion hardly matters at all.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is your family very close? I would honestly just avoid any contact with this aunt and cousin. Who needs manipulative people like that?

What does your mom say about all of this?

 

ETA: This is just so disgusting to me. My aunt is like my second mom and she would claw anybody’s eyes out if they were after my guy. OK, so she wouldn’t claw anybody’s eyes out, she’s not aggressive at all, but she would stand up for me and support me any way she can. That this aunt is working against you like this… unbelieveable! UGH!

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