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    Choco83    summer 2009   California

    I'm so frustrated right now. the background story is that my fiance and I are trying to save money on centerpieces by DIY-ing them.  We're planning on using silk flowers because it makes things so much easier (you don't have to worry about them wilting).  Well, I just a mockup today and showed it to my dad who said he thought it was pretty ugly.  He said it was colorless and plain and blah blah blah.

    It's so frustrating because my fiance and I have thought long and hard about cost-saving centerpieces.  Who wants to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on arrangements that will probably get placed onto the floor when dinner is served anyway (we're doing a chinese banquet).  It also doesn't help that our venue does not allow candles (except for the 2 votives which we will place on either side of our centerpiece).  

     
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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    Can you please post a picture.

    Where are you located? Downtown LA flower mart has lots of inexpensive options. I spent under $700 for ALL of the flowers for my wedding. For pics go to http://www.calioc.blogspot.com/

    Keep in mind that diy requires a lot of trial and error, so don't give up if silk is how you really want to go!

     
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    Choco83    summer 2009   California

    trying again... i guess i'm having issues with posting pictures..

     

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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    As Calioc said, DIY takes a lot of trial and error. Just because the first centerpiece didn't turn out quite how you envisioned doesn't mean you can't still do it yourself.  Ask your dad for specifics of what he didn't like about it.  Maybe try a different vase?  A bright pop of color underneath the flowers may really make it pop

     
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    Choco83    summer 2009   California

    i guess i should add that i made previous mockups before... and all have received the similar criticism.. "they're not real fresh flower arrangements" or "one flower is so bare"... so i guess it just kind of built up to today... we have 30 tables... so we're really really trying to cut down on costs.

     
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    amysue    6/6/09  

    Hey, we're having fresh flowers and one of our florist-designed centerpieces is a trio of gerberas floating in a bowl. I think if you showed him that centerpiece on a table with a tablecloth and placesettings, maybe with a couple votive candles, he would be able to envision the whole set-up. If his criticism has ruined this one for you and you do another one, maybe you should just keep it between you and your FI and let it be a surprise for everybody else.

     
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    sc8493    April 18, 2009  

    Maybe add some colorful marbles or pretty rocks under the flower? What about putting a pretty ribbon around it? Or some glitter on the top of the flower. Or you could find some cute cheap plates and goodwill and put the bowl on that!

     
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    MelissaB    7/25/09  

    I think that centerpiece would look really lovely on an actual table -- in the picture it does look a bit bare, but I think that's mostly the cardboard box :-)  Try setting your table one night with a good tablecloth and pretty dishes, plop your centerpiece in the middle, and see what you think!

    I like sc8493's idea of buying an inexpensive plate or charger in your wedding colors and putting that underneath.  You could also try using centerpiece mirrors, which would reflect the light from the votives. 

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    TallBride    January 24 2009   Westlake Village, Ca

    Or have a few candles around it. Candles make everything much softer. Michaels has pre-filled votives, 12 for about $5.

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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    IMHO -- the flower is too large for the bowl and the blue glass beads you have under it are difficult to see.  So, smaller flower, one with a little more color and more beads.  I also agree with all of the other posters that PRESENTATION is very important!  You need to set the table the way you envision it. 

    Our centerpieces started like this (click here) and I got a lot of, well don't you think they are a little skimpy? And, they look like something for Prom, not a wedding,  comments.

    When set on the table they looked like this (click here) and all of a sudden people loved them and raved about how pretty the wedding was.

    Perception and Presentation are important!

     
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    peachypear    8/2/08   Portland, OR

    Agree 100% with calioteach. Also agree with pp that it may look nice with something underneath - at least not a cardboard box. A friend used color tissue paper cut into a circle with decorative-edge scissors; it looked really good and would be really cheap. (But warning, some tissue paper dyes will run when wet and stain linens - check first).

    Try a smaller flower and a better photo. I really like the direction you're moving towards.

     
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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    I think it looks simple and elegant.  Especially on a colored background - table runner or topper - it would be very nice.  And I assume you'll be having other things on the tables.  It's surprising how crowded the table can get with the complete table settings, the centerpiece, and the favors.  Our centerpieces were fairly small, but anything larger would really have made the table look cluttered.

    I feel for you though - I wanted my centerpieces to be multi-colored, and to include an assortment of flowers - sort of an English garden look (we did the same with the bouquets).  I know that my mom had envisioned a single type of flower-single color thing (she probably would have loved yours!)  She initially told me that our flowers would "Look like crap."  (Yes, she seriously said that.)  I had to show her a bunch of photos from the internet of similar things before she decided that maybe I wasn't crazy, and maybe people actually did things like that.  Perhaps if you show your dad a selection of photos of tables set with just a simple centerpiece like you are considering, he will feel a little better about it.

     
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    superstar    April 2009   Bay Area

    Having been to many chinese receptions, i'm voting for save your money and have NO centerpieces. 

    The last wedding I went to that had a chinese banquet dinner, i didn't even realize there was no centerpieces :)

    Save money and just spend more on something else that's important to you :)

     
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    buttercup    11/08  

    I think they look fine, and that's because mine looked very much like yours.  I used real flowers but it was just a single pink daisy in a bowl with water in it and green rocks in the bottom.  And we put a napkin diagonally underneath it to give it a little more color (which didn't cost anymore since we just used one from the place we had our reception).  Honestly I don't think people pay much attention to centerpieces.  No body said they thought they looked bad or boring or anything.

     
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    onlyonelove54    May 16,2009   Henderson, NV

    I don't think that it looked so bad.  maybe you can add some pebbles to the bowl.

     
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    Mrs. T    5/16/09   Yakima WA

    Maybe if you use a smaller flower you could ad some filler in their to add some extra color like you wanted.  I also second that if they are just going to be moved at some point it wouldnt hurt to just cut centerpieces all together it gives you extra money.  Also the flower seems really large what if you got a centerpiece mirror and laid the flower on top with no vase.  They do have the fake flicker candles that when put into a frosted cup dont look to bad you could put thows around it. 

     
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    Choco83    summer 2009   California

    Thanks for all your comments! They really made me feel better. I will definitely try putting colorful paper underneath it and set up an entire mock table to see what it'll look like. 

     

    Superstar- my FI said something along the same lines... except that he said that while there were centerpieces, none of them were memorable and he really can't remember who had what centerpiece. Perhaps we should axe them if they become too costly. are they really that ugly??? :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    Miss Bliss    January 2, 2010   Iowa

    I was at a wedding this past weekend and they actaully had a centerpiece just like that!  The flower was a big smaller, but it was floating with some nice stones in the bottom of it.  Honestly, to a certain point, guests won't walk away worrying about what the center pieces look like.  They will remember what the party is like, DJ, food etc. 

     

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