(Closed) Are u freaking serious?!?!?!?!?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh noo!! Men are so vague sometimes!! 🙁

Post # 5
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

OH no! Im sorry you are so frustrated!! MEN… ugh

Post # 6
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

As much as that sucks, I’d say it’s better to be annoyed now than miserable on NYE.

Once you cool down it may be a good time to have a calm convo about what he meant by “end of the year” and then let him do his thing.

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Perhaps he was planning to propose on NYE which you shut down and so he had to scramble with something to say and will have to push it back now.

Post # 8
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well it’s better to have that awkward conversation now than NYE end in a disaster!

Post # 9
375 posts
Helper bee

Yeah, that would certainly sting. It’s hard to misinterpret “end of the year” no matter how you try to spin it.

That said, now that it’s out in the open it sounds like a good opportunity to review the timeline and ask him to really think about how long it’s going to take him to get to the point (savings-wise or whatever) that he’s ready to propose.

Post # 10
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

oh no! maybe this could be a blessing in disguise…. he is saving up more $ to get you a nicer ring. i always tell my friends who are waiting “the longer you wait, the bigger the rock!” =)

Post # 13
335 posts
Helper bee

augh!! how else did he think you were going to interpret “end of the year”!?!?  this sucks, but stay strong! hopefully, whatever he deems to be the “end of the year” will be soon after! maybe chinese new year?

Post # 15
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel so bad for guys sometimes… they really can’t win.

What if he had some romantic plan to propose on New Years or Christmas Eve or something and you just totally shot down his idea?

If you know its in the works, seriously ladies, just resist the urge to dictate how and when he does it!!!  Coming from a girl with a lot of guy friends and a fiance, I’m PROMISING you, the more you push, the longer you’re going to wait – and the more you try to arrange the proposal or drop not-so-subtle hints about when and where it should be, the more disappointed you’re going to be.

Not trying to be mean. I KNOW its hard – I’ve been there.  But vent to your girlfriends and the bee and just let the poor guy do his thing. You’ll save yourself a lot of stress and hurt feelings.  One of my friends just walked away from a 3 year relationship because once he started talking seriously about wanting to marry her, she went PSYCHO about it, and he felt disrespected and pushed. Don’t let yourself be that girl.

Post # 16
5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was in this position last year. We’d agreed the end of the year and I’d asked him not to propose on Christmas day (as I had a meal to cook and far too many other things to focus on to be able to enjoy the proposal).

I was convinced he was going to propose on NYE. Absolutely convinced. It didn’t help that he’s a total wind-up merchant and likes to see me stress.

In fact he proposed at 10:55 on Christmas eve… thinking that it was an hour later as he was wearing a watch hadn’t worn since the summer.

I’d give him the benefit of the doubt. He may have something very sweet planned between now and the turn of the year, but you have to leave him to it.

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