Post # 1
We are having another couple over this weekend. We usually rotate back and forth to host dinner and then it turns into a doggy play date. This weekend is our turn and apparently I am being *rude* in what I am serving.
MrPanda99 and I are trying very hard to eat healthier. We aren’t eliminating everything fun, but we are making a lot of changes that I am hoping will add up. I am so happy to finally have my husband on board with this!
My sister told me that it is rude to make people eat *bird food* and that I should make what I usually would when our friends come over. I wasn’t going to make crappy diet food! I was just going to make healthier options.
Also, rather than the lavish dessert I would usually make, MrPanda99 has suggested that I make some healthy (but still delicious) alternatives. I don’t want to discourage him and have bad food in the house again.
MrPanda99 says that we don’t have to ruin our progress just because people come over. My sister says otherwise and has made me feel slightly guilty about not making what I usually would. Le sigh. What do you think?
Post # 3
I don’t think that’s rude. Unless you have a set menu every time (you go to them for meatballs, they come to you for chicken ala king) then how is it rude to change the menu? You’re fine, just cook good and delicious food.
Half the difficulty in dieting is eating out or eating with friends. I guarantee you your friends will understand if you mention it to them and probably not notice (unless you normally serve cheese and bacon deep fried and switch to brussel sprouts).
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s rude, but if you’ve set an expectation and if you do always make the same thing and they love it, I could see how it might be disappointing.
I also don’t think that you’ll blow your entire new lifestyle if you buy a few goodies for one evening. It’s all about balance and moderation.
But yeah, as long as you’re not feeding them bird food I think it’s acceptable to change up what you normally cook.
Post # 5
Healthy food can still be freaking delicious. I think as long as you aren’t planning on serving them a small dry salad of nothing but greens and a glass of water you’re good
Post # 6
@MrsFutureG: We have been avoiding eating out altogether. It’s too early in the process for us to be comfortable doing that.
We usually do eat crap when we get together with these friends. Cookie bowls, chicken stuffed with bacon and cheese, homemade garlic bread, etc.
You’re right, getting together with friends is going to be just as challenging as eating out, lol.
Post # 7
I think it’s only rude if you’re preparing something that you KNOW a guest won’t like. I won’t be grilling a rack of ribs when my vegetarian friends come over, and if I do I try to make sure there’s something else available as well. I try to have corn tortillas as well as flour tortillas on taco Tuesday if our gluten-intolerant pals are stopping by, etc…
If it’s delicious, I don’t care if it’s healthy or not! I WANT YUMMY FOOD!
Post # 8
As long as it tastes good then I see no issue. When you go to someone’s home to eat typically you eat whatever it is they have chosen to prepare. I’ve been served things by people that aren’t heathly and still don’t tasted good, so as long as your food is good I don’t see why they would care or even notice.
Post # 9
As long as your selections go with your guests’ food allergies/dietary restrictions serve whatever you want. That’s the benefit of being the host– it’s chef’s choice. Please don’t use artificial sweeteners, though. Once my husband and I spent a weekend visiting his diabetic grandparents. They gave me a fake sugar ice cream bar and I had the worst gurliest gas from it that was extremely hard to keep discreet. It was so stressful and uncomfortable. The next time we visited, his grandma was shocked that I would turn down an ice cream bar. I said, “those DO NOT agree with me.”
Post # 10
I wouldn’t change what you’re eating/serving just because people are coming over. I think that your sister is being rude.
Post # 11
@MrsPanda99: When you go to their place, if you’re worried about what is being served, politely find a way to explain how you’re trying to eat healthy and if they’d mind if you provided your own food. Most people won’t mind if you approach it politely and don’t ask anything from them. If they seem even remotely put off though, you might just have to make those dates your cheat days!
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: No you are not being “rude”. My husband and I both eat rather healthy. We don’t change the way we cook when we host friends, unless it’s a special theme night (Greek, Indian, Thai…a little heavier and more fatty than we generally cook).
There are oodles of clean and healthy recipes that are also delicious out there.
Post # 13
@MrsPanda99: I don’t think it’s rude to try and make a healthier dinner, but it definitely does depend on what you serve and what your friends like to eat. For instance, I would never serve a mushroom or veggie burger to my dad and brother but I might to my mom. I also know friends who would love stir fry with tofu and others who would be going home hungry.
Post # 14
I don’t think you are being rude at all! A suggestion though: Grilled food! grilled veggies, grilled chicken or whatever else you’d like to grill. As long as the marinade isn’t crazy you can have your healthier foods without it tasting healthy and without it “screaming” healthy to other people!
Post # 15
@MrsPanda99: When I’m a guest at dinner, I eat whatever is offered to me. In fact, I love eating and tasting different meals, that’s the fun part of eating outside of home : trying new recipes and maybe even adding them to my own. The only thing is, like @DaneLady said, when you know it really won’t please your guests, in a controversial way (ex.: serving meat to people you know are vegeterians). But otherwise, as a guest, I prefer being surprised by what the hosts will serve me and I would never complain about healthy food.
Post # 16
Unless you’re just planning on serving them plain celery or spinach leaves, I dont think its rude.
What are you planning on making?