Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard
FI and I have been in our current town for far too long. We have been job hunting for a couple of YEARS, and it is soooo hard to get an interview while applying from a different town.
We are considering putting our house and land up for sale now, and then just quitting our jobs and heading out to New Town. WITHOUT JOBS!! This scares the shit out of me. But, I am so, so, so sick of living in Old Town.
Ideally, we would have at least one job, sell the house, and use the money on a down payment on a new house in New Town. But, it just does not seem like that is ever going to happen.
We are currently toying with the idea of FI quitting his job (that he HATES) a week before the wedding, then he moves to New Town for a couple of months to try and get a somewhat decent job, then I will move out. We have small savings and school loans, but are otherwise on a very tight budget.
Has anyone gone through a similar situation? Tips? Considerations? Words of encouragement or words of caution?
Post # 2
You’ll never get a mortgage for a house in New Town without jobs, unless you do a “stated income” loan (not offered in lots of places and, if offered, your APR will be like 13%). You will have a hard time renting unless you are very lucky. My recommendation would be to take new jobs in Old Town with companies that have big presence in New Town and then put in for a transfer. If even one of you have a job, it’s going to go a lot smoother.
Post # 3
engagedsagebrush: no way I would move without enough money to cover your monthly payments and then a little something extra for emergencies. Just dont think thats smart. BUT i can kind of get with your idea of one of you moving. how far apart are these cities? and do you have any one you know in this new city?
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard
I should clarify that we do not intend to buy a house unless we BOTH have jobs and plenty of income. And we would only both move without jobs IF we sell our house and land and have that money in the bank. (Currently both our house and the 10 acres are paid for completely.)
And yes, this may not be the smartest or safest thing to do, but it is starting to feel like it will NEVER happen if we don’t just DO IT. You, know?
I have always been very, VERY hesitant to move without both of us having jobs. I think our best bet is for him to move out there and get settled.
Old town is small, just 30,000. So, there really aren’t any companies that employ people in both locations, unfortunately.
The towns are 700 miles apart.
Thanks for your thoughts! It is helpful to hear from someone other than the two of us who are just super fed up with the situation right now.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
engagedsagebrush: I would have to have the money. However, it is a lot easier for us. I work from home and can work anywhere and my FI works on off shore oil rigs and doesn’t need work where we move.
Post # 6
Why don’t you just start applying for/interviewing for jobs in the new town?
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard
cmbr: Hi, we have been applying for jobs in the New Town for over two years now. We think it might be easier to score an interview if we lived in town, rather than 700 miles away.
Post # 8
engagedsagebrush: I don’t think it’s that crazy if at least one of you works in a field that is in demand in New Town. When my husband and I made a major move, he started getting contacted by tons of headhunters as soon as he had an address in the new area on his resume.
Post # 9
Don’t do it. It’s easier to find a job, when you already have a job. HR in general has a huge bias against the unemployed and the idea you just impulsively quit and moved won’t sound good in an interview. Don’t do it.
I’d continue to send resumes to New Town, making it clear you want to move.
eta: do you have someone in New Town you know? Could you use their address as yours on a resume and then clarify after you get the interview?
Post # 10
In my adult life I would be very frightened to do this. In my post high school/ post college era I moved around a bit, sometimes without a job, and it worked out okay, eventually. But, going off of a PP, if you don’t know anyone in New Town, would it be possible to by a post box in New Town? That way you would have an address in New Town, and have some more time before selling your house and moving.
Post # 11
Why not take a “vacation” to new town and hand out your resume in person (you can call hiring companies or even a job placement service (temp to hire or perm placement).
You can also scope out the area and maybe meet with a realtor to show you rentals?
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse
I say go for it. I’ve done it before. I had enough money for my first couple months of living there (gas,groceries,rent,etc…) and found a job within those couple of months. Sometimes you’ve gotta stop being “safe” about things and just do it because planning all the time isn’t living. You need to do what makes you happy. Sometimes I think about saying SEE YA to my roommates and peacing out to Asheville, NC. I DREAM about it everyday. I wouldn’t have a job going down there but things end up working out. If they don’t then you live and you learn. You adapt…which is what I’m doing now. I love moving around because it gives me new opportunities and to meet new people. Take a chance:)
I’m probably the worst influence here hahaha.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I packed up and moved abroad to a country where I didn’t speak the language, had almost no connections, no place to live, etc. I had a friend there who said she could get me a job (she came through), and I worked on my Master’s online while I was there. Ships are safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are built for. I say go for it.
Post # 14
engagedsagebrush: One of my high school friends finished her bachelor’s degree, she and her boyfriend packed their belongings and decided they would move to Australia. They didn’t have a job, and they had never been there. They rented a house with another couple and they quickly found a job in their field. I admire people who have enough courage to leave everything behind them, give life a chance and jump into the challenge and adventure. If you both feel this isn’t the place that will provide the most interesting career opportunities for you, then yes, you should do it !
Post # 15
I say as long as you have 6 months of expenses (including rent, etc.) saved up either through the house sale or otherwise, go for it. You only live once and as long as unemployment is not high in the area you
re moving to, youre flexible for job choices, and hubby`s as OK with it as you are, just go for it!