Post # 1
Our wedding is in just under 7 months and at the insistent prompting of my mother, we finally got save the dates out a few weeks ago for the bridal party, very close family, and those who would have to travel far in order to come. One of our groomswomen had been in a relationship for over a year and a half so we included his name on her save the date. They don’t live together and we did not send a save the date to his address. I thought that by doing this I’d be safe just in case their relationship ended because she would know he had been invited, but he might not and we wouldn’t be obligated to invite him. However then my FI handed him a save the date at a party they were both at.
The couple broke up.
Are we required to invite the ex-boyfriend even though our only connection to him was the groomswoman? FI says no, we don’t need to invite him – but I worry that since my FI handed him a save the date we might be obligated to follow through with an invite.
Post # 3
it might hurt his feelings. If you dont care about that, then i wouldnt send him one, but that’s just me.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Nope. Your not. I also don’t think he would want to go…
Post # 5
If you’re not friends with him I wouldn’t invite him. Etiquette says that everyone who gets a STD gets invited but in this case it doesn’t really make sense.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I don’t think you’re obligated to invite him. Just don’t send him an invitation- I doubt he wants go to his ex’s friend’s wedding anyway!
Post # 7
@missadventure85: I would say no. I’m sure he will understand and not want to come anyways. I wouldn’t if I were him.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t think so… That would be so awkward for both him and her!
Post # 10
@missadventure85: If neither of you still talk to the ex, I’m sure it’s fine not to invite him!
Post # 11
@missadventure85: I doubt he’d want to go if his only connection was the groomswoman. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 12
@missadventure85: Hell I would have forgotten about it by now.
Post # 13
unless you hang out together, i doubt he is expecting an invite.