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If you didn't get an invite or a FB message I would assume your not invited. Do you have a good reason why you think you would be? Like was something mentioned directly to you or your FH?
Not really, just that it's a small family and I would assume they would invite most of the family. But I guess we all know what assuming does!
I would assume you aren't invited until/if she calls to say she hasn't gotten your RSVP.
that is a little bizzare, but your right about assuming! In fact, maybe because your out of town they 'assumed' you wouldn't be able to go so didn't bother to send an invite? IDK just a thought :)
Did you get a save the date or invitation for the first wedding date? I would give them to the first week of August to see if the invitations are coming in the mail. If they've had to move the date up faster then expected they maybe behind in getting things done.
@june42011 - That might make sense, but the other cousin who got the FaceBook message also lives in our area, lol.
I guess what I am thinking is that since they are both in school and moved the wedding up drastically they just haven't gotten to the invitations yet? Lol.
@vintage2010 - No they didn't send any save the dates for the first wedding date. And as the first wedding date was May of 2011, they hadn't sent out any invites either.
Unless you have an actual invite in your hand (FB does not count), assume you are not invited. Considering their date, the invites should already be in the mail.
It makes absolutely no sense for anyone to automatically assume (as many tell you to do) that just because someone does not live in the same town as you that they will not be able to attend for any reason. That could not be further from the truth as people will (and do) travel to the ends of the earth if they want to attend your wedding.
They could be really disorganized as well and not realize how early they need to send out invites.
Is there a way you could have your husband's parents casually ask the parents how the planning is going? Can they check around an see if anyone has gotten an invite? Maybe they're having a really small wedding.
Ok, well I was discussing this with my husband last night and he tells me that she had asked for his address about 2 weeks ago. Haha, thanks for telling me! So it appears we will probably be invited.
As she asked for the address I would think there's a high probability of you getting an invite. I'd wait until about a month before the wedding and if you haven't gotten an invite I'd write her a message and just check to see if it got lost in the mail.
how rude to talk about your wedding on facebook where people who aren't invited can read about it!
i just don't think people realize what they are doing sometimes.
That is frustrating. This is why I had our invites sent out in advance so that there would not be any questioning.
I would have your husbands mother (or other close family member) ask.
That way you don't have to ask, you can let them try to figure out what's going on.
Seems weird to not get an invite to your cousin's wedding.
We actually got the invite in the mail last night! So it's all good! Haha, I was worrying over nothing. Thanks ladies!
I don't really think it's rude to talk about your wedding or wedding plans on facebook...You shouldn't have to hide yourself just because you're not inviting every single person you've ever known in your life. Facebook is a great way to keep people informed in the planning and what's going on, especially when you have people out of town. My entire family and FH family lives in other states and we use facebook to keep everyone in the loop about what's going on. If someone on my friends list was offended because I was talking about my wedding and they weren't invited because of whatever reason...I really wouldn't consider them a friend.
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My husband's cousin is getting married on August 28th. They moved the wedding up by several months, I'm not sure why. We get along really well, and she helped with the guest book at my wedding, but we haven't received an invitation. I talked to another of my husband's cousin's and they haven't received an invitation either, but she did ask if they were coming via FaceBook. My husband and I have kept that weekend open, because we also found out through a FaceBook post that they were changing their wedding date. So, should I assume we are not invited? Or should I assume we are and start planning to go out of town that weekend and thinking about buying them a gift?
I really don't want to have to ask her if we're invited or not, I know how I felt when people asked me that when I was planning my wedding, but I guess I feel like it's getting pretty close to the wire here with no invitation...
Also, I saw through FaceBook (I swear I'm not stalking her, lol!) that they are having invitations, so it's not just like she was going to call everyone to invite them.
I'm so confused....