(Closed) Are We Invited or Not?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you didn’t get an invite or a FB message I would assume your not invited. Do you have a good reason why you think you would be? Like was something mentioned directly to you or your FH?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would assume you aren’t invited until/if she calls to say she hasn’t gotten your RSVP.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

that is a little bizzare, but your right about assuming! In fact, maybe because your out of town they ‘assumed’ you wouldn’t be able to go so didn’t bother to send an invite? IDK just a thought 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Did you get a save the date or invitation for the first wedding date?  I would give them to the first week of August to see if the invitations are coming in the mail.  If they’ve had to move the date up faster then expected they maybe behind in getting things done.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Unless you have an actual invite in your hand (FB does not count), assume you are not invited. Considering their date, the invites should already be in the mail.

It makes absolutely no sense for anyone to automatically assume (as many tell you to do) that just because someone does not live in the same town as you that they will not be able to attend for any reason. That could not be further from the truth as people will (and do) travel to the ends of the earth if they want to attend your wedding.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

They could be really disorganized as well and not realize how early they need to send out invites.

Is there a way you could have your husband’s parents casually ask the parents how the planning is going? Can they check around an see if anyone has gotten an invite? Maybe they’re having a really small wedding.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

As she asked for the address I would think there’s a high probability of you getting an invite. I’d wait until about a month before the wedding and if you haven’t gotten an invite I’d write her a message and just check to see if it got lost in the mail. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

how rude to talk about your wedding on facebook where people who aren’t invited can read about it!

i just don’t think people realize what they are doing sometimes.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That is frustrating. This is why I had our invites sent out in advance so that there would not be any questioning.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would have your husbands mother (or other close family member) ask.

That way you don’t have to ask, you can let them try to figure out what’s going on.

Seems weird to not get an invite to your cousin’s wedding.

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