- 7 years ago
As some of you know the major issues with the FMIL and and FSIL, well my FI has a family reunion every year in the summer back home. The last few years we have gone to the reunion, prior to me, he didn’t really go home for it, as it’s a far drive for a BBQ ( total of 14 hour drive both ways) I don’t want to say he started going because of me, but I love family events and I think by him seeing my family how involved we are, he wanted to go more and I was always fine with how often we made the long drive there. Obviously in the last 8 months, things have been terrible and awful with his family. We had made the plans to go to the reunion prior to all this . I feel very uncomfortable and really do not want to go and be put in this situation, but I’ll do it for my FI and I do know it’s been 6 months since we were there ( we normally made the trip every month or every 2 months, but since all the problems and frankly planning a wedding in less than 6 months and we bought a house, our life has been really hectic, they were always invited to come and never did).
FI and I agreed we would drive in on Sat, stay in a hotel and leave Sunday, he wouldn’t have a chance to get to see his friends and other part of the family since his mom’s family reunion takes up all of Sat. Things just seem to be getting worse and worse with them. So I work part time in the wedding industry actually and I got a job for the day of the reunion, it’s good money and not something my FI and I want to pass up. My FI’s HS school reunion is also 2 weeks before his family reunion which is again back home, we couldn’t do both trips because of the distance and my FI did want to go to his HS reunion ( at this point more so than his family) well now that I got this job, my FI plans on telling his mom that we will not be coming to the reunion but will be in town he weekend before to see them and his friends…I’m worried and I feel like this is going to set it off more, but I also feel like we are adults and it’s not like we are saying we aren’t coming at all. What do you think?