(Closed) Are we supposed to buy breakfast??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee

That’s only if you want to have a day after brunch but it is definitely not necessary.  A lot of couples leave for their honeymoons right away so no one expects to see the couple after the wedding, except maybe for immediate family members.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Two words…Absolutely Not!  While you can if you want to, and it would be a very nice gesture, there is absolutely no rule that requires you to do so.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Er. I personally don’t intend to. I think you’ll be plenty busy the morning of to go over there to buy everyone breakfast. besides, don’t most hotels have free continental breakfast nowadays?

But I do understand your concern. We’re going to be doing brunch the morning after with the immediate famly and my MOH & her BF (who is also a GM) so I am contemplating whether I should ask guests that are staying overnight to join us. Everyone will be travelling there so it might be a nice gesture but then I do think the brunch will be added cost. For me it might depend on how much the brunch will be and how many guests stay overnight.

GL!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’re staying in the same hotel as our guests because we thought it would be a good way to get to visit with them longer (by the pool or during breakfast, etc). Most people will be staying Fri-Sun with the wedding on Sat so we plan on visiting with almost everyone. A great thing is that our hotel offers complimentary hot breakfast.. so we get to have morning after brunch with our guests for free 🙂 They have scrambled eggs, home fries, sausage and bacon, toast, muffins, etc. I LOVE breakfast food too!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

You can have a non hosted brunch, that is what we are doing! basically you just say the bride and groom will be having brunch in the whatever room of the whatever hotel. Tables will be available if you would like to join them.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Here’s a question…FI and I aren’t leaving for the honeymoon until the evening of the day after the wedding. We were planning on meeting as many of the friends/family/out of towners that would like to come for lunch at a local restaurant. Is it in ill ettiquet that FI and I *not* pay for everyone’s meal? We were planning it to be more of a casual meeting between everyone so that we could visit a little longer with the out of towners before we left and everyone went home. Is this in bad taste??

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

nah i don’t think so! We’re having a rehearsal lunch (just a general get togther..the dinner is later) and we aren’t buying everyone’s food. i think buying them dinner for the wedding is plenty.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Now we have to buy people breakfast?  When does it end?

I usually sleep through breakfast, anyway–and so should the newlyweds. 🙂

No, you don’t have to pay for breakfast–or even attend it.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We had a day after brunch, but it was inluded in the guests’ package at the hotel.  We didn’t pay for it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You don’t have to buy people breakfast. When we went to a wedding last summer in Los Angeles, aout 15-20 guest were staying at the same hotel. The bride and groom had a welcome bag waiting for us which included breakfast buffet vouchers. It was a lovely gesture and I think affordable bc we were a tiny percentage of the wedding party. Again, you don’t have to do it, but it’s very sweet. On the other hand, my friend did not come to breakfast with us, they were too busy preparing for their wedding and the morning after preparing to go on their honeymoon!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I really don’t think you need to host anything beyond your reception. All else is just a nice gesture. However, one thing to consider is just having something very simple, such as juice and muffins for breakfast, or a picnic for lunch. The way people are, they are more likely to come if they don’t have to pay. If the main goal is to see more of people, hosting something super simple will achieve that.

But, no way are you required to pay.

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

maybe the hotel has a free continental breakfast you can make your guests aware of… i wouldnt think you have to go!  i thought of hosting a brunch at our hotel but said "screw it" when i added up the prices — everyone will likely be hungover so they can carb it up with bagels, muffins, and donuts! haha

Post # 15
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Busy bee

It’s a nice gesture, but leave it at that.  You do NOT have to buy anyone breakfast because they came to your wedding.  When you think about it, a lot of them will probably be hung over and would be happier making their own arrangements.  My friend and her husband came in under budget and decided to have a breakfast for their overnight guests, less than half actually showed up and I imagine it was because they wanted to sleep in!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

i agree with the other ladies who said that it is a nice gesture…it certainly is…however, you def do not have to do this!  i was at a very extravagant wedding last october and the brides parents hosted a brunch at the hotel we were all staying at…the bride and groom were not even there!  it was a nice touch, but again, i do not think it is necessary for you to do that!!!  enjoy your wedding night and sleep in late!!!

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