Post # 1
I am just now chatting with a friend’s sister who is a hair stylist about coming to the house fo rthe day of. I was just about to send msg’s to all my girls to ask who would be wanting their hair done and what the price was – but then wondered if I’m supposed to pay for this?
It’ll be way to pricey – $65 each plus tax is a great price I think? But not if I have to pay for 6 of us….
I’m not demanding they get their hair done, or any particular style. It’s all up to them… They pay for it themselves, right?
Post # 3
As a bridesmaid, I’ve always paid for my own hair, and my one bridesmaid will pay for her own hair. And I think $65 is quite reasonable. If it was some outrageous, three-digit price, then I’d think it was too much for you to ask of them, but the situation as you’ve described it is fine.
Post # 4
As long as you’re okay if they choose to do their hair themselves, they pay for their hair.
Post # 5
If all you are doing is providing a convenient place for them to get their hair done on the event day then no you don’t have to pay.
I would be okay with reading something like this and deciding to use your person or not.
“So and so is coming over to do my hair. She charges X for and can do updos, blow outs etc. Please let me if know if you would like her to do your hair as well. You can pay her directly with cash when you arrive.”
Post # 6
@MrsPhilly: You can give them the option of paying for themselves or doing it on their own 🙂
I think that is a fair thing to request!
Post # 7
Where I come from, the bride pays for dress, hair and make up.
Post # 8
@MrsPhilly: Good question. If you are giving it to your girls as an option (which it sounds like you are) then no you do not have to pay. If you were to require it, then yes – you should pay. It sounds like you are going about this the right way.
Post # 9
I’m ok with it… I curl my own hair when i’m not feeling lazy (which is most of the time). And I feel like for a bridesmaid, just throwing some loose curls in would be enough for the wedding. I am not sure what I want my hair to be – I want loose curls too but a more well done look than what I can pull off… And if the hair dresser can’t get it to look the way I want – then I’ll have her do an up do which I definitely can’t do.
I was expecting around $60. Every make up artist I’ve spoken to has told me 60 and I assumed hair would be about the same
Post # 10
@MrsPhilly: Is $65 reasonable…for me no. I get my hair done for $40, so I would pass on your home stylist offer.
Post # 12
Where I come from the bride pays for the bm’s hair and makeup. It’s a given. I’ve seen lots of posts on there though where it is optional and if they want it done they pay themselves. I personally would want my bm’s hair and make up done professionally for the photos.
Post # 13
If you’re requiringet their hair done-yes you pay
If you’re giving them an option and not requiring their hair be done-they pay
Post # 14
Yes they can definitely decide for themselves. I’m trying my damnedest to be a very accommodating bride. I want the girls to look different – choosing their own dresses with just a few stipulations, and just has to be grey or purple. 2 of the girls are possibly wearing dresses they wore as bridesmaids for their relatives’ weddings… I don’t care if they find their dress for $20 or borrow one from a friend or whatever – as long as it’s the right colour scheme etc.
For make up I gave them the same option – I haven’t found a MUA yet, but prices all seem to be the same and said whoever wants it done, no prob. If they don’t, no prob. And the same will go for hair.
If they want it done, great. If they don’t want to pay, they can do it themselves or I’d be happy to help them style it best I can 🙂 A couple of my BM’s are very tight for money so I really really am trying to be as cautious about $$$ as I can for them
Post # 15
@MrsPhilly: I’m paying for my bridesmaids hair and makeup. Look, you can justify doing whatever you want, but the fact of the matter is that these women are your close friends that you have asked to dress up in silly dresses they’ll never wear again. They have to throw a bridal shower and/or bachelorette for you (and probably have to listen to endless wedding planning stories). The least you can do to lighten their spirits on YOUR WEDDING DAY is pay for their hair. They’ll love you for it (and let’s be honest, they deserve it for having to wear a bridesmaid’s dress)!
Post # 16
As long as you are no forcing the expense on them and they can opt out and do their own hair than it is totally fine!