Are we supposed to pay for the BM's to get hair done??

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Bridesmaids Should pay for their own hair / $65 is a reasonable price
    Yes - Pay for themselves : (44 votes)
    47 %
    No - The Bride Pays : (19 votes)
    20 %
    Yes - It's Reasonably priced : (26 votes)
    28 %
    No - It is too expensive : (5 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    As a bridesmaid, I’ve always paid for my own hair, and my one bridesmaid will pay for her own hair. And I think $65 is quite reasonable. If it was some outrageous, three-digit price, then I’d think it was too much for you to ask of them, but the situation as you’ve described it is fine.

    Post # 4
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    3693 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    As long as you’re okay if they choose to do their hair themselves, they pay for their hair.

    Post # 5
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If all you are doing is providing a convenient place  for them to get their hair done on the event day then no you don’t have to pay.

    I would be okay with reading something like this and deciding to use your person or not.

    “So and so is coming over to do my hair. She charges X for and can do updos, blow outs etc. Please let me if know if you would like her to do your hair as well. You can pay her directly with cash when you arrive.”

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsPhilly:  You can give them the option of paying for themselves or doing it on their own 🙂

    I think that is a fair thing to request! 

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Where I come from, the bride pays for dress, hair and make up.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @MrsPhilly:  Good question. If you are giving it to your girls as an option (which it sounds like you are) then no you do not have to pay. If you were to require it, then yes – you should pay. It sounds like you are going about this the right way. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @MrsPhilly:  Is $65 reasonable…for me no. I get my hair done for $40, so I would pass on your home stylist offer.

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s been said.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Where I come from the bride pays for the bm’s hair and makeup. It’s a given. I’ve seen lots of posts on there though where it is optional and if they want it done they pay themselves. I personally would want my bm’s hair and make up done professionally for the photos.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    If you’re requiringet their hair done-yes you pay
    If you’re giving them an option and not requiring their hair be done-they pay

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MrsPhilly:  I’m paying for my bridesmaids hair and makeup.  Look, you can justify doing whatever you want, but the fact of the matter is that these women are your close friends that you have asked to dress up in silly dresses they’ll never wear again.  They have to throw a bridal shower and/or bachelorette for you (and probably have to listen to endless wedding planning stories).  The least you can do to lighten their spirits on YOUR WEDDING DAY is pay for their hair.  They’ll love you for it (and let’s be honest, they deserve it for having to wear a bridesmaid’s dress)!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    As long as you are no forcing the expense on them and they can opt out and do their own hair than it is totally fine! 

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