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I'm on the fence about getting favors and whether or not they're worth it. What do you think?
Personally, I don't think they are, especially if it's something impersonal like sweets/chocolates. And TBH even quirkier, more personal ones (like I've seen cute little ceramic hand-painted doves, with the guests name and the wedding date on a tag round their neck, which looked pretty) are likely to be forgotten about/discarded as soon as people get home. Much as couples seem to like to think that their gifts will be 'treasured', I'd hazard that in 99% of cases guests are like 'Aww, thank you, how cute!' then forget about it the next day (harsh but true IMPO).
I really don't know if we're bothering with them. If we do, I'll probably combine the place setting with the favour eg I was considering silver wine glass charms with guests names on, which double up as key-rings if they want to use them. We're only having 50 guests though.
I have been on the fence on this as well. I am probably not going to do them. If I do it will be some type of food/candy item.
it's funny because I feel like when I think about my wedding they have to be there, but I couldn't care less about if someone else had them
The only favor that I actually liked was chapstick. All the others were just throw aways or cheap candy. What's the point?
I have always thought that it is nice to make a charitable donation in liu of a wedding favour (which you can tell your guests about, or leave a small note with each of their menus). I think that's what we will do.
I struggled with this and in the end decided not to. We're having a small wedding, so I'm going to send a photo with a thank you later as a sort of favor. But no, they're not getting anything that night.
I'm not going to vote because while I don't think they're a requirement I do think it's "nice to take something away from the wedding" and will be doing them. They're not a waste of money to me.
I don't think they are necessary, many people think they are junk to take home. I'm doing personalized M&M's made from their site. Simple and easy. Cuz really who needs another small candle, sugar almonds, or other crap haha. Many people do the fill your own container from a candy bar for their favor.
Most are a waste of money. I either don't take it home at all or put it in the box in the hall closet to go to the thrift shop on the next trip.
I mean really! What makes brides think that someone wants an ornament, picture frame or any other chachka with your name and wedding date on it? Maybe your Mom or Grandmother?
If you feel like making a donation to your favorite charity, just do it. You don't need to tell your guests about it. It has nothing to do with the wedding.
What I generally hear is that edible favors are the best and most universally liked. We are doing edible favors; nothing too big or expensive, but something we do think people enjoy in general, with a note of thanks and "something to keep them awake" on their drive home. At all the weddings I've been to, edible favors are the only ones I'll take and I'll usually enjoy on the way home.
Not nessesary but I love getting mine together. I am doing small chocolate brown boxes with ribbon. Inside it will be personalized M&M's and 2 honey sticks stuck into the ribbon.
Which is perfect. Everybody loves food, but if I got something else, people wont like it, or they will be thrown away,or its just not them,etc. I love reading and was thinking about doing a bookmark favor, but I realized the bookmark is ME, not most of my family and friends though. I know at least half of my guests who wont even take the bookmark home with them. They just arent readers.
I was also thinking about doing other things. But in the end, chocolate is what I decided. Food is everybodies thing!! lol
Besides, I have never been to a wedding that had any favors at all, so this will be different for my family and friends. I want to give my guests a little something.
I think it really depends what the favor is. Something that can be used or eaten (candles, chocolate, almonds, matchbooks) are helpful. Something that is specific and personalized (cd of wedding music, picture frame engaged with the couple's name, etc) is more likely to be left behind.
I don't think they're necessary. I don't really notice if there aren't any, and I only take them if they're edible. :)
I plan on having a cupcake wedding cake. We plan on boxing all the cupcakes to give to the guests as favors. Since our wedding dinner has 9 courses that includes a final dessert course, FI and I figure the guests will be too full for cupcake/wedding cake after all that food.
Unless it is an edible favor (and even then it's iffy) I think they are typically a waste of money. I have thrown out my fair share of goodies collected over the years.
We opted to not do them and are providing candies on the table for people to nibble from if they want.
I love, love, love a little candy to snack on in the car on the way home. If someone gives jordan almonds or chocolates, I'm in heaven.
My MOH is Turkish and gave everyone silver trinkets as favors. Real silver. But, giving gold and jewels is common in her family, so I shouldn't have been surprised. My gift was a little silver tray that I use as a landing spot for my earrings (I wear the same ones every day).
The silver try was the only non-edible favor I've ever taken home from a wedding.
I was on the fence as well I told myself if I have the room in my budget then I will do a edible favors because more people wpuld be inclined to eat a sweet treat on the drive home or even at the reception. I hate all the dumb crap I have gotten at weddings over the years so I didnt want to waste my money.... so I found cute little boxes on orential trading and I am buying choclate dripped pretzels that I will drizzle pink choclate on to match my wedding colors and box them up.
I didn't do them and no one said anything. I couldn't decide on anything that I thought everyone would take.
I don't care that much about getting wedding favors, especially if they are just something like a few pieces of chocolate in a box/bag. I would rather the bride and groom not waste their money. But, a friend of mine did a photobooth at her reception, and she got a copy of the pictures and so did we. That became our wedding favors, and I loved that, because everytime I look at that, I do think of her wedding.
So pretty much, if the gifts were something more personal, than yes, its nice to have.
I've worked in catering. Even the food ones get left behind. Spend the money elsewhere is my opnino on it!
Wedding favors are not really necessary. But they are another nice way to thank your guests for attending your special day. Edible treats are popular, but not everyone cares for having too many sweets, esp. after they've had a full meal at the reception. Some people enjoy more practical or durable gifts, while some don't see a reason for them either. I guess it just depends what you offer and it depends on the recipient. Btw, I'm not a big fan of donation in lieu of favors. I like the concept, but why not just donate the money quietly instead of making a big show of it that you're giving to charity but don't have any little gifts for your guests. In any case, I wouldn't spend too much time and money on favors since many guests tend to forget about them or toss them out.
We made charitable donations to purchase actual items instead of favors - we wrote a note to leave at each place-setting telling the guest what the donation bought. Some tables are trees through JNF and others are livestock (chicks and ducks) through Heifer International. It's traditional to make donations when you have a Jewish wedding, so we opted to include the guests in the tradition.
I think they're a nice way to thank the guests for coming, but just keep in mind that they are for the guests. I think a lot of people pick things that aren't practical and don't keep the guests in mind, that's why they get thrown away. I doubt a hershey's candy bar or some M&Ms would get thrown away though! Who doesn't love chocolate? ;o)
@MadameTussaud: couldn't have said it better myself! I think the reason why favors are so often disregarded is that B&Gs buy favors based on what they like, not what's most likely to be used by your guests. I have a small reception planned, so the only types of favors I looked for were useful things. I ended up getting a great deal on a matte steel bar tools key chain (bottle opener, corkscrew and 2 knives like a swiss army knife) that already comes in a beautiful gift box with a bow on it. There are affordable, gorgeous wedding favors out there that people will remember specifically because they are universally appealing. How often will someone use miniature salt and pepper shakers, or a drink coaster with your picture on it? And edible favors can be good, but chocolate/M&Ms spell bad news for summer weddings (if you forget about them for a day, they are ruined! If you forget about a wine bottle stopper for a day, no big deal
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I've always enjoyed the edible wedding favors. A friend of mine had heart shapped shortbread with passionfruit filling and it was delicious!
mmmm that sounds so good Ms. Rocky Road! Did she make them or order them from a local baker?
I'm not sure if they are worth it. I don't honestly remember any favors that I took home from other people's weddings. However, I am a huge hypocrit. I had three different kinds of favors that I gave everyone at our wedding (that were hopefully unique and a maybe more memorable...but who knows, my hours of DIY wine-galss charm madness might have very well been trashed as soon as they walked out the door!). I wouldn't stress yourself too much about them, nor would I spend a ridiculous amount of money. I think guests might remember nicer food than they really will M&M's years from now (although yes, I had the M&M's too and loved them!!)
I've been annoying myself the last few days trying o decide on something nice and today I read the thread about what favor people would like most. That thread was a godsend because when FI got home from work I asked him if he'd rather not bother and put the money into more food/drinks for the guests - I got a huge smile and a fist bump from him so that's what we will do!!
@cmvmph She ordered them from a local bakery. She gave them purple plastic bags (her wedding colour) so they were already pre-wrapped. We attached a name tag on them so they doubled as a place card. I think she was able to even pick it up a couple of days before the wedding (so less running around)
@barbie86: more personal ones (like I've seen cute little ceramic hand-painted doves, with the guests name and the wedding date on a tag round their neck, which looked pretty) are likely to be forgotten about/discarded as soon as people get home.
I totally agree! Favors are defintely one thing I will probably skip on. I've never cared for them and typically do throw them out right away. Yes I love you as a couple but no I don't need something with your picture, name or wedding date. Saawwwwrryyyy
I think they are necessry for a way to say thank you for celebrating your wedding. (Other than of course greeting each guest and saying thank you!)
I think they are a waste but decide to do the photobooth because that is a favor that I will enjoy.
I think non-edible favours are a waste. I never take them anymore and when I did they would just get thrown in a junk drawer.
I have edible favours in mind (macarons) but I'm only ordering the if we have extra money in the budget.
I would onlt do a favor if it's something you are confident people will take and use, so usually that's something edible. I would not give a favor just to do it. We're planning to give jars full of yellow candies.
trinkets are a waste of money. no one will keep a pair of love birds with your names and date (except my mother). edible favours are the best if they are something that will appeal to the masses ex. chocolate truffles. the best favour i ever got was a bag full of retro candy. they had them all tied in pretty ribbon with their logo on it. i enjoyed it for days after. that's why candy buffets are such a good idea. i enjoy seeing what favours couples come up with. we are having gourmet chocolate mint smoothies from this great chocolate boutique. that's the only request my FI had, so, done.
My opinion is that if people go to your wedding expecting a favor, they are there for the wrong reasons anyway. I think most favors are an absolute waste of money. People either don't take them, or take them but end up throwing or giving them away. A dessert bar where people take home some goodies is fine, but I wouldn't go out of my way to make sure we have favors.
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