Post # 1
We’ll be having our wedding at my family home in France (we live in England so it’s not too far away) in August 2015. We’re planning on setting up some contacts this summer when we go back, as it’s hard to organise from over here. Now we’re wondering whether it would actually be worth hiring a wedding planner to help organise the day of the wedding. S/he could also help us to find caterers / photographer / supplies as they’ll be bilingual and live in the area.
Problem is, planners can be expensive! We’re on a tight budget, and were originally hoping to set up everything ourselves with a bilingual friend of mine who lives in the village during the summer.
Bees who hired wedding planners, do you think they were worth the money and which aspects did you find particularly useful?
Post # 3
i was very lucky in my situation. my sister manages a mansion/castle where there are A TON of events/weddings held so she has A LOT of connections and people that owe her favors.
we got our wedding planner for free.
our wedding is destination (in colorado where she lives, we live in NYC) so i feel like a wedding planner is totally essential. i would have NO idea where to start planning a destination wedding.
i would definitely suggest a planner if you’re not getting married in your city (or country for that matter)
it has taken a HUGE load of stress off my shoulders!
Post # 4
For destination wedding, I feel that the wedding planner is essential. Mine has been a lifesaver (plus she speaks 4 languages and can literally talk to anyone!)
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I would highly recommend it if you don’t speak the local language because your friend may not be as available as you would like them to be to translate for you.
Post # 6
A planner sounds like a good idea, especially for a DW with a language barrier!
Post # 7
In your case I would recommend it. Unfortunately for me my planner was a disaster and I ended up getting rid of her.
Post # 8
I’m sure I’ll have a firmer opinion after our wedding, but I definitely feel like doing a destination wedding would be really difficult without a planner. We’re getting married in Bali, and I can’t really imagine dealing with the logistics of vendors, site visits etc without our planner.
Post # 9
@Lbward6: Interesting, thanks. Why didn’t it work out with your planner?
Post # 10
@DarlingClementine I am not planning a destination wedding per say, I am having my wedding in NYC where I grew up and my family lives and I live in Colorado. I hired her to help find reliable vendors since I won’t be able to see everything, she was really bad at keeping an open line of communication with me and every vendor she had selected was not what I had described, we just weren’t on the same page. Luckily, my mom does not work and will be stepping in as wedding planner!
Post # 11
@DarlingClementine: for our Maui DW, the planner was so helpful! I did do a lot if the work and price checking myself- the planner isn’t concerned with getting you the best rates from vendors, so I saved a lot by checking around myself. The biggest help was that she was familiar with all the local best spots, whereas I wasn’t. her rate was alright, but I believe she increased the vendor costs and pocketed the difference, in addition to her own rate, so beware of these types of hidden costs!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
If you’re getting married far from where you live, I think a wedding planner is a HUGE saving grace! We live in MD and got married in RI. It would have been so much more stressful for us to plan our wedding without our planner. I think it’s worth the money (so long as you can afford it. I mean, it’s not worth $20K or something ridiculous like that. We paid about $3500 and she worked with us for over a year).
Post # 13
Thanks bees, I’ll definitely bear your advice in mind!
Post # 14
Hmm, we’re getting married in Florida, and we live in NYC, so we have a semi-destination wedding–we don’t have a planner and I definitely didn’t need one. I like doing research and playing around the budgets, basically all of the little detail stuff, though.
Also, we didn’t have a language barrier, so that might change things a lot. And our wedding is pretty small–but even if it were bigger, I think I still would have preferred handling things myself!