Are Welcome Bags necessary?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are Welcome Bags necessary? (Vote for all that apply)
    Never, no one will expect or miss them. : (48 votes)
    43 %
    Always - welcome bags should always be given at a wedding, it is faux pas not to. : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Not necessary for me b/c ppl are moving around/spread out & only some guests are staying @ hotels : (16 votes)
    14 %
    It would be a nice gesture to have them at ppl's hotel rooms. I should spend the time & find a way. : (26 votes)
    23 %
    Maybe give people a little thank-you bag on the wedding transport bus they will be using instead? : (15 votes)
    13 %
    Any other brilliant compromises you can come up with??? : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    4941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  I think it’s a nice gesture, but since everyone is not staying in the same hotel it sounds like more hassle than it is worth. I would maybe compromise with your mom and mention that maybe you could put a basket with goodie bags for each guest at the reception and include some things in there? 

    Make a sign for the basket like something along the lines of, “Because you traveled all this way to celebrate our day, please take a bag and enjoy!”


    Post # 4
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If they were all staying at the same hotel I would say you should probably try and make it work.  If they’re staying all over, forget it.  MAYBE something on the bus day of but if you don’t have a room block people are using the hotel probably won’t tell you who’s staying either.  We’re hopefully going to do a little something but only for people staying at the preferred hotel.

    Post # 5
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would maybe try to do them on the bus, especially since you have international guests.   We went to a wedding a few weeks ago, and I was shocked when my DH was like, “Uh, where are the welcome bags?”  He was kind of a groomzilla, so I’m not sure everyone would notice, but some people would.

    Post # 6
    8390 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @PacificMrs:  +1, these are great ideas!

    To OP, we did welcome bags for our guests, but had everyone staying in the same hotel.  Also, some hotels might charge for delivering OOT bags (the highest number I came across was $3/bag).

    Post # 7
    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I really don’t think they are necessary. I had never heard of them until joining the bee. 

    Post # 8
    3846 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    A welcome bag is the first impression and I think a very nice touch to have a few thoughtful items enclosed.  Given the challenges of various hotels perhaps you could arrange to have a welcome card in each room, and perhaps a small bag to be picked up later, maybe at the hotel near the ceremony venue?  Or as PP suggested, on the bus?   

    Post # 9
    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Really? 3 people voted that an item that didn’t even exist more than a few years ago is required? You’re providing food, drinks, and entertainment for the evening. That’s more than enough! These are never necessary, and nobody will even miss them.

    Post # 10
    6985 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I could see if you had a big hotel block somewhere or something…but chasing down where everyone is staying…I wouldn’t bother. If people are travelling that far anyway they’re probably going to have most of the necessities, and I wouldn’t want to be lugging a bottle of wine (or whatever) from hotel to hotel.

    Post # 11
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @crayfish:  my sister had welcome bags for her wedding 15 years ago.  I don’t think they are “new”

    Post # 12
    2460 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    The thing I find funny about this post is when I was planning my first wedding it was a destination wedding and welcome bags didn’t even really exist back then! I way wayyy more into planning the little details for that wedding than this one and I had still only heard of a couple of brides do this. I got married the first time in 2007 so it’s not like it was decades ago.

    I don’t think they’re necessary so if you don’t have the time/money for it don’t worry about it.

    Post # 13
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think they’re very unnecessary. I’d never heard of them until I joined here, never received one, etc.

    Post # 14
    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would try to do something. The idea of giving something on the bus is a good compromise. Don’t worry about this being unfair to the locals… they didn’t have to spend obscene amounts of time and money on flights, etc., so it’s reasonable to do something extra for those who did have to go through that.

    Post # 15
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve never heard of a welcome bag before this site.  Seems frivolous to me.  I feel like guests come to your wedding to celebrate your marriage, not to get a bunch of free stuff.

    I’m not all that familar with what generally goes into them, but if it’s lists of suggested sites to see, I would imagine most people are resourceful enough on their own if they’re that interested in touring around.

    Post # 16
    10906 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Although welcome bags/packets/gifts are very common for registrants at business conferences, and many couples do choose to provide them for their out-of-town wedding guests, they absolutely are not required and should neither be missed nor expected.

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