Post # 1
the giver or taker in your relationship?
(aside from the fact that we all are in relatively balanced relationships)
are you generally the giver or the taker?
FI and i have concluded that i am definitely the giver and he is the taker.
Not in a who’s a good person or who’s a bad person way… but just our personalities…
i was the oldest child who grew up taking care of my lil bro, my baby cousins… and even my parents (as they don’t speak english).
it is in my nature to nurture, take care of, take control, etc.
FI on the other hand is an only child and had things handed to him left and right. not that he’s incapable of doing it himself, but he enjoys being babied and pampered… while i get true happiness from doing something for someone else.
(FI def does his share of work and things for me that i could never do for him). but i was curious, because the ‘bee has so many different, yet so many common traits amongst everyone… what you think is your general role in your relationship with your significant other.
Post # 3
I’m definitely the giver. FI is the baby of his family, while I’m the oldest. I’m used to always helping out and doing things for people. It’s not that he doesn’t help out, but he definitely needs a LOT of direction.
Post # 4
wow that sounds similar to me! But I’m also a mom of 2, and apparently all men are just big kids who need another mom! that’s what we’re here for. I put everyone else in front of me, and i get screwed, which i know and do nothing about, lol. but if i don’t do it, no one else will!
Post # 5
Hmm…I think I’m the giver on most things since it’s in my nature to look after others (and I’m the youngest of four! Interesting). However, occasionally I do want to be the taker, so I’ll let FI know and he’s very accomodating.
Post # 6
FI is definitely the giver. He’s really thoughtful of others always. Makes me feel like kind of a jerk sometimes. haha
His mama raised him good. 🙂
Post # 7
If I had to choose, I would say that I’m the taker. We both take care of each other, but he’s the most thoughtful and generous person I have ever met. He’s always thinking about how situations will affect others and is just generally a very thoughtful person. He’s a real sweetheart!
Post # 8
I think im the taker…i hate saying it out loud though! I do a lot of things for Teddy but he always ends up giving more…He takes care of me 🙂
Post # 9
I think there is a higher percentage on the woman being a taker. Men are more laid back…
Post # 10
although the roles change i’d say he is the giver…but he has learned to cook through me and is doing oh so well.lucky me…i’ve barely cooked in a month,hehe
Post # 11
I think I’m the taker? FH loves to brush my hair at night, because it swears it relaxes him, and he gives me shoulder rubs all the time, which of course makes me feel like the taker lol
He is also a neat-freak, so he is always cleaning the house. I never remember how messy I am until he is away for a weekend or whatever for work. Basically the only cleaning I have to do is I help everynight with the dishes, and I sweep and vacuum on the weekends. He does all the nasty cleaning, like litterbox and bathrooms.
he also definately says “I love you” more. I love him, of course, I just don’t think to say it as much as he does.
Post # 12
I like to think of myself as pretty balanced – FI and I both give a great deal, so in return, we both take!
Post # 13
I think we are both givers, but then he is the baby of the family, so I’ll say on this website only, he’s a taker.LOL Y’all know how the babies are!
Post # 14
I’m the giver mostly, but there are definitely times when he is (like when it comes to working on our cars, he does everything and almost always pays for it. like the majority of our bills too…)
Post # 15
He is the first person to ever take care of me, since my grandmother watched me as an infant, while my parents worked. While I certainly pitch in my share and then some, I am perfectly content to be looked after for a change.
Post # 16
I’m definitely the giver and he’s the taker, and we’ve talked about it a lot. Doesn’t bother me, I like it. But, I wanted to throw this in here: I was an only child, so I don’t think being an only child automatically makes you a taker. FI was one of 3, and this did not make him magically better at sharing and giving! I hate that only children get a bad rap!! We’re not that bad!