(Closed) Are you a good wedding guest?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Where you always a good guest?
    Yes of course. I'm one classy broad : (60 votes)
    73 %
    No, I have drank from a flask/bought off the registry/showed up late/brought an uninvited guest : (22 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    11172 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I have misbehaved once, and only once.

    My Maid/Matron of Honor got married last year in Utah and it was a dry wedding for religious reasons. However, she put the crazy Californians together and served a punch that we thought would go perfect with vodka. The next thing I knew someone had a large bottle of Smirnoff hidden under the table and we were making our own adult beverage. She wasn’t mad but the rest of the guests were raising their eyebrows at table 4 that is for sure.

    Post # 4
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    no.  But I helped my friend cut off the atrocious feathers in the headpiece her SIL made her wear when she stood up in her brother’s wedding.  LOL

    Post # 5
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    When I was 17 or 18 I rewore a red prom dress to a wedding. It wasn’t revealing but it was way more attention getting than something I’d wear today (I blame my mother)

    I’ve been late to two weddings. Walked into a catholic church after the bride walked down the aisle (eek, she was already at the altar though so I didn’t photobomb any important pics).

    My first friend to get married out of college prob got stiffed on the gift since I chipped in with a bunch of friends who were in med/law school and totally broke. I flew down for that wedding though so I don’t feel too terrible.

    Post # 6
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hahaha I’m a booze-smuggler for sure!!! So much so that my bridesmaid gift for my girls is a garter with a flask attached, because it will be great for smuggling hard A into … my own wedding. And any future events where a dress is to be worn.

    One time I may have been a bad guest, though I’m not entirely sure. My mother and the bride’s mother are best friends, so all the kids have known each other for years. Mom’s friend’s oldest daughter was getting married, and I wasn’t supposed to be in town for it so she never sent me an invite.  My siblings and their SOs were all going, though. Then about a month out plans changed and Fiance and I were able to make it after all (it was not dinner, just appetizers, so I didn’t mess up her headcount or anything).  I asked my mom about her registry and getting her a gift, and my mom told me “don’t worry about it, I’m taking care of it.” So to this day, I have no idea if I crashed her wedding uninvited with no gift, or if I was considered part of the family and part of the family gift! Hopefully the latter and not the former!!!

    Post # 7
    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    @mixtapehearts:  I smile and bring a nice present. That said Fi and I (as well as family at the table….we always seem to sit with the same ppl) ridicule ppl terribly. Also listening to the comments ppl make while out for a smoke. We thought the Bridesmaid or Best Man was being heckled…no that was his own obnoxious laugh and he laughed after every couple of sentences in his boring speech. Sooooooo, I am nice to the B&G thank them for inviting me, give a good gift but mocking what we find ridiculous is our (FI and I) guilty pleasure.


    Helps when making plans or our wedding given that we KNOW what ppl mock shamelessly….not sure if I answered your question so I didn’t vote

    Post # 8
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think I was a fine wedding guest at previous weddings I have been to, but after planning my wedding I think I’ve learned how to be the best wedding guest ever lol.

    Post # 9
    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m not a booze smuggler, but I have arrived late once or twice.  

    Post # 10
    10565 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’ve never done anything too major.  Maybe the odd (quiet) catty comment shared with someone like my sister and I’ve brought large gifts to the hall.  All the weddings I’ve been to have had a large gift table with many gifts, but in the future if it’s large and/or more than 1 box I won’t bring it to the venue!

    Post # 11
    1697 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve never been on time to a wedding. I was h a m m e r e d at both my sister’s wedding and got sick and puked red wine in the brides (my sister) master bedroom as she was at a hotel with the groom. Oh man. My family STILL talks about that wedding lol! In a loving way of course:) Needless to say it was really fun seeing myself “dance” on the video’s of those weddings!

    Post # 12
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    to this day my dad doesn’t go to the ceremony of a wedding.  Just shows up for the reception.

    Although I am pretty sure he will be at my ceremony!  😉

    Post # 13
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted yes, but I’d also say that I’ll be an amazing-er guest after the experience of having my own wedding and reading a whole bunch of stuff on here!

    Some examples:

    Writing words/a personal message in a card (they were by far the best cards to get!!)  

    Giving a gift off the registry or straight up cash.  Oh the joys of cash.  Probably also giving a gift worth more, but that’s more related to (finally) having a solid financial footing.  

    Never, ever taking a gift to the reception.  I never would have even thought about it before, though whenever I have done so it has been totally okay.  ie – wedding was in neighbour’s backyard 3 doors down; parents and couple lived in town and had mini vans ready to fill.  

    Post # 14
    1747 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @LGenz:  I wore red to a wedding and in retrospect, I’m not proud of myself. I don’t think its a TERRIBLE color to wear, but when it’s full length and lower cut, it’s not the greatest idea.

    In my defense, it was a Russian event,, it was the style back then,  and there were other women wearing red.

    Post # 15
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve gone to multiple receptions, but not the ceremonies… but that was all while I was under 18 and living with my parents.  My family being farmers, and majority of weddings being during the busy season, they couldn’t leave a whole day if they could be on the field or in the barns.  Any wedding I’ve been to since being on my own, I’ve gone to the ceremony.

    Post # 16
    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve drank smuggled booze at a religious-dry wedding.

    I’ve left mid-slide show (seriously, I hate sitting through those when I’m not family).

    I’ve been asked by other guests [we didn’t know] to stop talking during speeches (seriously, by speech #5 we were losing our buzz).

    I’ve drank too much and openly planned an “after party” that basically meant going somewhere besides the boring wedding to party.

    ETA — these make me sound like a super alcoholic.  to be fair, this is the sum of 3 weddings out of 30 that I’ve gone to in the past 10 years.  So 27 of them I was a good guest at. 

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